My last girl started making out with someone behind my back just weeks after telling me she wanted to be with me forever. Now she won't let me get over her. I've told her I need to move on but she keeps texting me and wants to be friends. I've tried spending time with her as "friends" but it hurts too much and she acts like she could care less. All I want is to meet someone I can have a long term relationship with. I'm a shy and private person and I don't like the idea of starting over :(
2007-07-04 13:08:13 · 24 answers · asked by what? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, trust me: Starting over will work well for someone like you. There are so may girls/women looking for someone who wants a good long-term relationship like you do. So you won't have to look too far for someone who thinks like you.
Once you find them, you'll be so happy you are done with that other girl. It hurts to be around her because you haven't had a chance to get her out of your system. The only way you can do that is to stop hanging around her, or just change your number so she can't text anymore. You say she won't let you move on, but are you sure you aren't holding on to her as well, hoping that she has a change of heart so that you can pick up where you left off instead of starting over?
I don't socialize publically all that much myself, so it's hard for me to meet a variety of guys sometimes. When I meet one that seems right, I'm really dedicated and focused on him because I value him and I'm happy I found someone. But that can cause you to become too attached and not able to let go when you need to. Maybe we can both start over and promise ourselves that we will focus that energy and attention on finding (and waiting) on someone who is worth it. But we have to get out and search a little.....
2007-07-04 13:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Miss.Understanding 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of starting over is hard very true but sometimes for the best. If you need a break from her let her know that and if she cant respect it then just drop her. You need to be concerned with yourself now ,spend sometime getting to know who you are and what you want. I know it hurts really bad right now but trust me it will fade in time and you will learn from it.
Best of luck & take care
2007-07-04 20:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that ***** to leave you alone and go be with that guy she was making out with!!! She needs a hobby. If you take her back,once a cheater always a cheater!!! By all means "start over" you are to good of a young man to put up with her crap!!!! While wasting time with her you could be meeting someone who will love you and refuse to make out with someone else. Good Luck Homie. Ignore her calls,or change your number
2007-07-04 20:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by crazie617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on this is not healthy for you. Being friends is not going to help you to move on either, so be strong and just dont answer her calls. Starting over in this situation is a good thing cause you need to find someone whom you can trust and love forever. Dont worry about starting over we all have to.
2007-07-04 20:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by ASHLEY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry she hurt you like that. You didn't deserve that kind of treatment. No one does.
Tell her once and for all you can't and won't be with someone who has no respect for you and that you don't want to talk to her anymore. Then stop taking her calls and delete her messages. Some day she'll realize that she missed out on a very nice guy for a very stupid reason.
Good luck.
2007-07-04 20:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you need to move on and to leave you alone. Don't answer her text messages, her phone calls, block her number that is the only way that you can get over her, trust me I did that before, as much as you ignore the better, she will see that you are not interested in her anymore and she will move on .
2007-07-04 20:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Danijela K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are bitches because you allow them to be. Stop letting her rule your life. Don't return her texts and find a girl who won't make out with someone else. Only you.
2007-07-04 20:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happened to you. Some girls just are like that, nobody is perfect..but all you need to worry about is the girls that aren't bitches and move on. It may be hard but you're better off.
2007-07-04 20:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you need to change the way you refer to woman as bitches and if you don't want to be bothered by your ex then stop taking her calls and ignore her messages and sorry to tell you .you may never meet some one that's shy and i hear that the shy ones are the ones you need to watch out for
2007-07-04 20:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to buck up and ignore her messages and try not to be friends. you can't be stuck in the same feelings forever. It will be hard at first but trust me reach into your gut and bring out the strength in you and get her out of your life.
2007-07-04 20:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by ALia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋