Does God give a CRAP??? I've prayed and begged.?

Question

I have a thinning hair condition at 33 years of age and it made me look HORRIBLE within one year now. One year ago, I looked pretty good. I'm not being vain or anything, and I've never had the best hair in the world, but at least I had hair!! I stay depressed, take sleeping pills to sleep at night, and cry all the time. I'm MISERABLE. I pray, but it's like each time I pray, He decides to make it worse than the day before. I'm so disheartened by this and it makes me avoid certain situations in life. My mom even agreed and laughed that it looked bad today at a 4th function and it made me feel like going home and slitting my wrists. I'm starting to get mad at God for not listening, and I know that's BAD according to all you devout people, but I feel so alone in this. My husband says I need a psychologist, but yes, let me go to some lady with long flowing locks and ask her how she'd feel if she was me all of a sudden. It SUCKS!!!!!!

Answer 1

I saw your question and looked through all your questions which showed me you are very upset with this problems as most of your questions relate to it and you are very depressed. I know the feeling that God doesn't care or keeps giving you more than you can handle having been through continual problems for over 25 years of clinical depression (cancer three times/2 rapes/20 car wrecks/run over by a car/ betrayal/ divorce/ no family support/no friends/ no money/multiple health problems/domestic violence/deaths/surgery etc..if fact, for 15 years I did not have one day without a problem including many serious problems and as soon as I solved one problem, 3 sprung up to replace it..thus I am sensitive to others and compassionate.

I know how it is to feel God is not answering, caring or listening..once expressing that my young son at the time reminded me it was not God but the devil..also God has self imposed limits on his power..1 He cannot do anything evil

2. he does not suspend natural laws (or instance he law of gravity will work even if you are falling for a building and praying for him to save you 3. he will not violate our free will or that of others which is the cause of much suffering in our lives (for instance..the husband who leaves us despite Go sending people to try to convince him to stay in the marriage..the company that knowingly pollutes water for example with dangerous chemicals that give the nearby neighbors cancer, the person who assaults us etc..letting us how free will causes much suffering both for ourselves sometimes and for others..

God often gives us the answers to health problems by turning us to his creation..that is..do we listen to an and doctors or do we turn to the health building and fixing solutions He has already provided in His creation that is nature..nature's healers are things like herbs, natural foods, fresh air, clean and safe water, exercise, sunshine, colors, love etc.

I suggest looking for an answer to your hair loss in the things God has already provided us and this may be why He sent me to you to tell you the answer is there and it is up to you to research it and diligently inform yourself and keep trying different things that might help via the plants and herbs of the earth..please visit these forums and links and study it all and read the different posts and articles in the curezone links..this is an excellent website. If all else fails, try Dr Richard Schulze's incurables programs..his vidos )the save your life videos (all but 2 hours of the 12 hours series. that originally costs $400) are on google..go to google videos and type in incurable program..he did these with Sam Biser so you might need to add either of their names. Also google patient handbook Richard Schulze for the incurables program steps..if you can't afford the herbs try making your own (generally the tinctures (it is shown and told online how to make tinctures) are one part of each herb..the one big exception is the intestinal cleanse 2 uses 7 parts psyllium to one part of the other stuff...a few formulas use parts of an individual herb..but if you use one part of each (except that psyllium above) it should be ok..use as many organic hers as you can..buy them in health food stores, coops or online..sold in one ounce lots usually.

Try the holy basil below

causes and suggestions http://www.startthehealing.com/Q_baldness.html

http://curezone.com/dis/1.asp?C0=164

http://curezone.com/forums/search.asp?q=hair+loss&action=Find&f=447

http://curezone.com/forums/search.asp?q=hair+loss&action=CureZone+Search&f=0

http://curezone.com/forums/f.asp?f=135

http://hairloss.about.com/od/preventinghairloss/a/oils.htm

http://www.essentialoils.co.za/hair-loss.htm

http://www.essentialoils.co.za/hair-care.htm

http://www.herbnet.com/ask%20the%20herbalist/asktheherbalist_questions%20on%20hair%20loss.htm

http://www.newhope.com/nutritionsciencenews/nsn_backs/Sep_00/hair.cfm

http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Hair/hair_loss_aromatherapy.htm

http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/herbsvitaminsek/a/Alopecia_2.htm

http://www.ayurvediccure.com/hair-loss.htm

http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/herbsvitaminsek/a/Alopecia_2.htm


also an essential oil called holy basil is for hair loss but be sure to dilute with a carrier oil like jojoba or it will burn your scalp..somehow dilute it.

Good luck..don't lose your faith..and try to regrow that hair with a natural method.

Also ignore the insensitive and self righteous people answering here and get some help for depression as it shades things..but beware of SSRI antidepressants..read toxic psychiatry (by briggin) first..try library...

Also start changing your self dialogue..the secret video says we manifest in our life what we believe so believe God cares and believe you will eventually regrow you hair if you work at it and try various natural remedies..also look in the books healthy healing by Linda rector page (website healthy healing) and the book prescription for nutritional healing (available health food store or maybe eBay or the library for further suggestions. I will try to link to the book or ebay or amazon to show you what they look like.

Be sure to increase circulation to the hair by VIGOROUS and I mean vigorous head and scalp massage, cayenne, ginkgo and ginger and going on a slant board or doing things where you are head down to get the blood there.

Remember it is easy to blame God for something with a natural cause..it is the devil who hates us not God..even if He is silent--believe He cares because His word says he does and He is not a liar..even though often He for some reason leaves our prayers unanswered..we must also help ourselves..if we can and if not learn to accept the things we cannot change..if all else fails there are the wigs, extensions and other suggestions offered here but I believe hair can be regrown..it often require a comprehensive lifestyle change to healthy practices..remember anger, negative thinking, grief although human and understandable usually hurt us the most as these emotions are not healing acceptance, hope, health programs, faith, love, these things are better for your all round health..take long walks for your depression to start with..and to work off negative feelings..when you catch yourself thinking in ways that are not health producing..say erase that and change it to a positive thought of healing and hope and find things to be grateful for as that is healing..

Do try these natural remedies..post on curezone and see if you get help..find a support group maybe or online message board for blow off steam and look through these links and try this stuff..good luck

I spent a long time on this answer cause you seem so unhappy and I feel for you, luv

Answer 2

If you don't produce the hair follicles, then you don't produce them. And have to find another way to have nice hair: such as, plugs, rugs or drugs..those are the choices we men have.

Plugs (they take healthy hair and re plant it) It's quite expensive.

Rugs: Can be indetectable and cost a few hundred bucks

Drugs: Check them out..some will start hair re growth..ALL have side effects !!! Make sure you can live with the side effects.

As to angry at God, any honest man/woman who's spent any time 'on the straight and narrow path' has had to wrestle with this one. Part of it is: Lack of knowledge, nowhere are we promised that our 'wants' will be provided for, like God is some kind of room service; it just isn't part of the deal.

Job had a terrible bout of rage at God over the things that he was put through. That might be a good book for you to read. You can watch as Job tries to make nonsense make sense, and as he uses what he's been taught; and it doesn't work and he becomes a very unhappy camper.

Stop at Chap. 31 before 32; as the rest of that was just added on, to finish it up...and is useless and has confused the church for 2,600 years.

Maranantha

Answer 3

I'm so sorry for your situation, and I can totally understand why you'd want to hate God for that.

May I offer you some advice? It may not do much good, but it comes from a sincere heart, and besides, I think that's part of the reason you posted here.

First of all, go see a doctor. Not a psychologist, an actual doctor. They can prescribe medication that may slow or completely stop the process. There's also Rogaine for women. And you really DO need to see a doctor anyway, because you need to find out what's causing the hair loss.

Secondly, I'm SURE there are support groups out there for women like you. There are MANY other women all over the world who suffer from hair loss.

Maybe it looks horrible...but...let me tell a short story. A few years ago, I saw the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my entire life. When she walked in, she literally brought this GLOW with her, and she had the most BEAUTIFUL smile. She completely lit up the room. Now here's the twist...you ready? She had been born without a neck. And yet, when she smiled, it made her SHINE.

There's beauty in all of us, regardless of height, weight, race, whether we have birth defects...or even if we're losing our hair. I'm not just saying this, I really mean it.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 4

God leaves some prayers unanswered for a reason. I'm not saying your supposed to be miserable or anything, I just think that you CAN make yourself happy. It sounds like maybe you have low self-esteem. Make your hair prettier with extensions or something, maybe ask you hairstylist for help on what you can do. When you look at yourself in the mirror, look at the good things about yourself, not the bad things. Your not even look a lot prettier and happier, but your feel prettier and happier. Do things that make you happy and smile all the time. It'll just make you a stronger person. You only get one life in this world, so make it a good one!

p.s.
I agree with your husband, maybe a psychologist could help you feel better about yourself, she's trained to help people. (even if she has beautiful hair)

Answer 5

I know how you feel , because I just went through the same thing. I was diagnosed with cancer in November last year and in February after my treatment , I started loosing a lot of hair, but I told God, that no matter what I had to go through, I would still rejoice in Him and when I started praising Him instead of complaining, my hair started to grow back.
It is now almost to the point of the way it was before , I think that the more we stress or worry over things , the worse it gets. God didn't design our bodies for worry or stress. He wants us to give it to Him and trust Him completely.
And ignore all the stupid answers , that some have the nerve here to give you, it is designed to brake you down even more.
Don't let the devil beat you up like that.
Just pray and trust in the Lord and He will heal you.
God bless you , honey

Answer 6

That is allot of loss for someone to take. I understand that from you. I am sorry for your losses, but thank God, all the while you never went to bed hungry ( did you? ) not your "own" but you had a roof to sleep under ( right? ). You did not have to risk being assaulted in the street while you slept like a homeless person with no aunt or family to loan a couch? I don't take away from your loss, That car repo alone would send me into orbit...but please be patient. God is not done with you yet. It can only get better from here, you have your foot in a door of employment. IU know God will show you what it is your looking for.

Answer 7

I will answer this with as much sensitivity as I can, unlike some other answers I have read. God does not always answer prayer the way we would like. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I do not have this problem- but I do have a chronic illness that causes pain every day-for the past 30 years of my life. It is very hard. Blame your mom for her insensitivity to your hair loss- not God- continue to look to God for your strength- he could heal you or he may choose to use you somehow in the midst of it- like he has me. God understands your anger- David in the Psalms did not hold back his anger- however you should be madder at people like your mom than God. If you want to just talk, email me,

Answer 8

Aww. It's not worth all the misery it's causing you. You need to take the initiative, as other posters have advised. There are tons of treatments these days for hair loss problems. Have you looked into them at all?
At worst, you could go in for hair plugs, which are looking much more like your own real hair these days and apparently don't take as long to put in as they used to. I think there are also female equivalents for Rogaine and products that work similarly to improve hair growth.
Maybe God wants you to go out and do something for yourself. Take control of your situation and you'll feel MUCH better about yourself.
Don't be too hard on your mom. She may not realize how much you are suffering over this, if you have internalized your turmoil.

Answer 9

You are probably passing through what is known as the Dark Night of the Soul.

In this, God leaves us in desolation for a while.

This deep suffering purifies the soul to the depths - but of course, in that time, God seems deaf to all petitions because He must let the purifying sufferings do their work.

But He does not let you stay in the fire longer than needed, and when that work is done, He restores all things to you, and your joy is returned.

St. John of the Cross wrote extensively on the phenomena of the Dark night of the Soul, dividing the purifying sufferings into the Dark Night of the Senses and the Dark Night of the Spirit - he is considered the greatest mystical theologian of all time in the Church, and I even put him above St. Thomas Aquinas in the category of theologians.



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Answer 10

Some people are insensitive. Luckily, I'm not.

Sometimes, it seems like God isn't listening but he is just silent. God is silent, and that is his answer. If he gave us everything we wanted, we wouldn't need to rely on him for anything. It's kind of like that verse where Paul talks about the thorn in his flesh. It doesn't say what it is, but this could be like the thorn in your flesh. He asked God 3 times to take it away, and he didn't. Maybe God won't take this away, either.
Another thing to consider is that perhaps God wants you to focus on something else about yourself.

You may seriously want to consider getting a wig if no medications are working. But I understand how you feel about your hair. I wish you well.

Answer 11

I know, my hair has become thin and I have a small bald spot in the middle of my head. Look, no one cares, so you have to make it better for yourself. Hair isin't everything, try and be happy with what you have. Don't feel bad, there are people who have it worse and they are pushing through it. You'll be fine.