Why does the government stick their nose into family matters and prohibit hitting your children?

Question

parents should be able to spank their children if they feel that it's necessary

kids in America manipulate their parents as they wish and harass them so why are there still laws against spanking your own children

Why are people not doing something about it, do they like been powerless against their children and having to ASK them to behave

what do you do when your child back-tacks to you and defies you? do you just stand there and swallow your pride

i know some parents do spank their children but there's always the chance that someone might report it to CPS and take your kids away

Answer 1

No spanking is a common misconception.The law doesn't say you can't spank or even that you can't spank with an object. Only that you cannot mark the child as that is a sign of excessive force. I agree though that children have a whole lot of power regarding CPS.

Answer 2

Some where along the line , a good many people steped over the line and a spanking that was used as discipline became a beating, In this day and age the young folks come home from Kindergarten, and tell their parents they can report them for child abuse if they touch them. Unfortunately the government took the discipline right, away and now we are paying for it big time, I am not an advocate of beating but spanking a child tends to get their attention when you've tried talking to them, begging , pleading, bribing, but now we have to wait till the child does something that irritates society enough that the government steps in and drags them off to Juvenile hall or Jail. Frustrating to say the least when you give birth to a beautiful innocent child and are unable to correct then when they bad.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, that is the way the system works. Too many people take spanking too far and there are way too many children out there being abused mentally, sexually and physically. It is the State's job to make sure our children are protected. I don't know what State you are from, but it is not against the law to "spank" your child. A firm tap on the bottom is not considered child abuse. What you cannnot do is hit them anywhere but on their bottom, hit with anything pbject other than your hand and you cannot leave any type of bruise or mark.

Answer 4

from what i can tell, you can hit your child but you may not leave a bruise, welp or cut. but other people today cant mind thier own business,
i guarantee that most of these people that report others to child services got hit as a kid and just didnt like it or do it to thier own kids and retaliate about it by reporting it about someone else. yes i know there are other ways but in some cases ive seen that, that doesnt work and spanking is another alternative regardless of what you others want. im more than sure that at some point and time you were hit as a kid,
ive been hit before and you dont see me running around hitting children when they do something bad.

Answer 5

In the US and Canada spanking is still very legal. In California, a crack pot legislator attempted to get a bill through which would prohibit spanking children under the age of 3. Thankfully that bill was shot down. If passed that would be the first bill in the US prohibiting spanking. So no worries YET spanking is still legal.

If spanking were to be made illegal, I agree with your argument. My husband and I use spanking at times with our children (and still would, even if it was made illegal). Thankfully we still live in a free country.

Answer 6

Because the governments want to control all aspects of our lives and we are heading for a Big Brother Society.
In this country we already had a legal right of "reasonable chastisement" for parents and that was exactly what my boys had when (and only when) they needed it and they turned out fine.Anything beyond that would have been dealt with under existing law of assault.
Now they have changed the law to put all sorts of restrictions on parents so that today they don't know whether they are coming or going and cases like this make them err on the side of caution and be afraid to administer even a single smack to the bottom (or worse deal with matters behind closed doors where real abuse *may* take place if the parent "loses it") -

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/4080293.stm

Well that is the world we are creating for our children and grandchildren and I don't know what is to be done about it.

Answer 7

I don't think its the governments job to make that decision. But I'm not a big spanking fan either. Only in certain circumstances and as a last result.

Answer 8

Where we live you have to watch EVERYTHING you do - people are so quick to call DHS here that you can't grab your child's hand to keep them out of trouble without getting called on. No joke.

Yes, there are ways of handling discipline other than spanking but I think a combo of all kinds is what it takes to raise a decent child.

I think principals, under certain circumstances, should be allowed to paddle (not severely but enough to make a point) kids that misbehave in school. Whatever happened to the nuns rapping your knuckles with a ruler? Those kids turned out a lot better than today's kids.

I think someone needs to take a case before the supreme court if, indeed, they are only guilty of spanking and not full-blown abuse. It's time someone steps in and gives us back control of our kids.

Answer 9

It could also be argued, Why does the government care if people kill or maim each other? The idea being that physical punishment is almost universally frowned upon towards those who are unable to defend themselves. IT is also almost universally agreed that responding to the annoyances of children with yelling and physical punishment produces children more likely to continue the offense (or worse behavior) and later be more violent and a unproductive member of society.
So if you do find the need to respond with anger to your own children, YOU need help-developing your own EFFECTIVE parenting skills, managing your own anger and stresses, and I would guess- getting some support emotionally. This page is titled 5 WAYS PARENTS CAN HANDLE THEIR ANGER
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T061800.asp There are other good articles on this site. So your kid is annoying- I so Know what you mean, but its not about you, its about helping them grow into good people. Children who know limits and boundaries.... but don't FEAR in the one place they should feel safe- AT HOME Let's raise children who don't need therapy as adults to get over their childhood.

Answer 10

I think spanking a child is only necessary under EXTREME circumstances. I agree the children can be awful towards their parents, but there has to be another way. a

As to the person that knows a child being beaten, Please don't stop trying to help him! He's defenseless!