as long as ur sure no strings are attached?? and your sure its just somin to help both of you feel better... im confused.. because imean i wanna but.. idk if i shud cause im not sure if it REALLY will be no strings attached cause i dont wanna feel weird around him.. so HELP PLZZ
2007-07-04 11:09:38 · 45 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you will ruin your friendship and regret it the rest of your life.
friends are hard to find especially from the opposite sex.
unless you want to start a meaningful relationship with him keep your hands to yourself.
2007-07-04 11:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is never "No strings attached". Sex is for people that trust each other and are very secure with there feelings about each other. Because I'm a man, I know I would tell a chick that I didn't want a relationship if I thought that is what she wanted to hear just to get in her pants. I'm not saying this is what he is doing but it's just something to think about. He will probably be very offended if you were to ask him if this was the case. So because there is really no way of knowing, Your answer is clear.
Another way of looking at this is like this. Would you be happy if you happened to have a child with this person or if you were to contract or share an STD? If you could not say that you would be willing to deal with those consequences. then you probably would be better off not taking such chances. What would you do if he was to want more from the relationship after you have sex with him? What if you find you want more from him and he does not want more from you? These are always these possibilities even without having sex but sex does muddy things up. because of all the other consequences. Better safe then sorry.....
2007-07-04 18:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Elow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No strings attached, huh?! I Don't think so. First off, it is against God's commandments to have pre-marital sex. Second, your body is the temple of God, where His Spirit dwells - use it to feel better would not be honoring the Lord our God.
Don't get me wrong - God created sex and marriage but in certain boundaries.
Girl, your giving up your most intimate of you - for you and him to feel better... sorry, that is not worth it.
I guarantee you it will have a consequence and I don't think you will feel good after it. (Bible - the consequence of sin is death)
Whenever you have a relationship and or have sex with a person, you are becoming a part of the other person for a time (if you want to or not) and even if you say it would only make you feel better for a short time - you will always in the end feel emptier than before.
Did you know that test have shown that when two people have licked the same candy, Scientists were able to find traces of the other person's saliva even after a 4 month time period - that's long. Other tests when having had sexual intercourse were still tracable after a few years. Imagine what you could be carrying around with you for a while. bbbrrrrrrrrrr
Oh, and yes, you will both feel awkward around each other.
It is something like taking two pieces of tape and paper in between. When you tear the two apart wanting to separate them, there is always a part of one piece missing, stuck to the other. With every time you feel emptier, something more is missing, the void gets bigger. After a while you get callous and have a harder time to invest love and feelings into a new relationship.
What might seem like an short innocent adventure, will have its effect on both of you with time, in many areas of your lives. There is a reason why God created sex within the boundaries of marriage and why a man should be joined together to one woman.
I believe God has the right one for you - a wonderful husband. One that is everything you ever wanted and more than you ever could have hoped for. Don't get ensnared with this sin that is pulling on you and him. Wait on the Lord - obey Him and be blessed.
God always honors obedience. God loves you and wants the best for you.
2007-07-04 11:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jesusisking7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a two sided edge to have "casual sex" with friends. But most defiantly the friendship will not be the same as it once was after you both have had sex together. Which could be a bad or a good thing. I think we cheat ourselves, our hearts, and bodies by have casual sex. Sex was meant to bond with someone, and to typically have a relationship. Trying to do something that is so physically and mentally mind boggling is very hard on you emotionally. One of you might start to develop feelings, or the other one might not. either way I personally don't think you have have a "NO strings" attached relationships. Those strings bond weather or not you want them too. So why not try and relationship. After all is someone you would have sex with , not someone you would want to possibly try a relationship with?
2007-07-04 11:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something I definitely would NOT suggest. You both may say there aren't any strings attached, but that would definitely change your relationship.
That's like going through the motions but having NO commitment what so ever. You deserve better that that. Wait for the man that's going to be true to you and love you for you. I have no doubt that your friend loves you, but you're just "friends" and that's much more important than risking it all for some temporary pleasure.
2007-07-04 11:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful Awakening 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can there be no strings attached? Friends make the best lovers!! I guess you need to determine what is more important to you- your friendship- or being pleasured for a few minutes. My guess would be that the friendship would win this race. You can always find someone to sleep with, and let the relationship be based on that alone, but your Friend, I would think that he was irreplaceable.!! Just my thoughts!!!
2007-07-04 11:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by Who-Me?? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have a lot of doubts. If there are doubts the best thing to do is stay away. That is your inner self telling you to beware. Call me old fashioned, but, I was raised to believe, grew up believing and still do believe that sex is a sacred act between two people who love each other. Not something to play or toy with. That's the trouble with society today, morals is dieing out and nothing is sacred any more.
2007-07-04 11:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be at least some attachments afterwards. But its just going to be for a little while like a week or two. And after that if there isnt any repeats then i dont think there will be any problems.
2007-07-05 02:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always going to be some kind of string no matter what! It depends on your relationship with this friend too. I mean, if you have known each other for years and are in between relationships and need to fulfull some biological urges with out recourse, if he is ok with it, why not?! I probably would, and have, and I am still very good friends with him!
2007-07-04 11:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Juliet K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have sex with most anyone
but a ruined friendship is hard to mend .
1. you fall for him and he for you... every things good
2, one of you fall and the other doesn't ...that's bad
3. he doesn't and neither do you ... that's good to
4.the sex is weired and you can't face each other .that's bad to.
No matter your decision you will change your friendship fore ever, after all you both want this interaction
Its your choice but just if you do make sure you say you'll be friends no matter what comes of this . its called making love not making friends .
2007-07-04 11:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong to have sex with a friend. I was in the situation and I regret it because not only did i loose a friendship I began to realize how weird it was. Also to, my ex gf that I loved very much was so turned off by it that it actually turned me off. If you are friends with somebody then just stay friends. Trust me it's better that way!
2007-07-04 11:14:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋