i adore this guy but EVERY time i see him it only lasts between 5 and 7 minutes. I mean he gets into it, i do, too but i like to go longer. he is gorgeous and very confident in all apsects but i think he gets a little nervous with me.... is this normal? Any ladies experiencing this? and men, what do you think?
2007-07-04 10:49:44 · 33 answers · asked by mrssmith11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends. Some women will climax after only a couple of minutes others take longer. 5 minutes may be too short for most, but a couple minutes too long for others.
2007-07-04 10:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Personally I believe that it is the mans job to make sure the woman has at least one orgasm before the man does. When I feel myself start to, get past the point of no return, I like to stop and do more foreplay. Foreplay is not just a pre-intercourse activity, it should be done throughout the whole encounter. Maybe let him know what you would like him to do to help you get what you need. Within that duration he will probably be able to go again and usually will take longer to orgasm. I can only speak from my own experience. There are times that I would simply do other things for her to get her to orgasm. She likes that too and extends the love making.
Oh, Quick word of advise. be creative in how you talk with him about this because no man wants to feel like he is not doing something right in bed.
Hope this helps you and him.
2007-07-04 15:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Elow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im about 12.5 Seconds he must be a stud.
Okay but to be honest ive never heard of 5 minute sex. Have you tired a condom? That will slow it down. They also have creams that you can put on before sex. That really numbs the sensation for the guy.
I actually tried it once after along time my girlfriend said im sore let me finish you another way. I told her what I did. She she grabbed me a playboy and said finish yourself and threw it away. Im only telling you this because it works. I tried it because I was curious and I wasnt even close.
Be nice to him and say lets try this, that 5 minutes might go to 15 or more. Best of luck. You can get this anywhere they sell dildos or adult items or just order it online.
2007-07-04 10:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by financing_loans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well actual sex is averaged at around 3-5 mintues. Foreplay however can last as long as you can hold off for. maybe if he's not that good at lasting during penetrative sex then just stick with foreplay for longer. Im quite lucky in the respect that my bf is pretty good at lasting during sex and can keepgoing for a while, which isnt so great when you need a quickie lol.
Just try and relax him and make him feel comfortable and don't worry its perfectly normal.
2007-07-04 10:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not an uncommon problem, most prevalent with young men. Nature isn't interested in long sexual interludes, only the meeting of the components. Try a short break after the first explosion and resume. Things may take longer then. It may be fun to experiment with different approaches...
2007-07-04 10:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are! Its not the greatest thing, but sometimes when a guy finds you very very attractive he goes faster. In a way it sucks, but is also flattering.
Some things that help guys last longer are working out, stay hard cream, and masterbating a lot.
Good luck!
2007-07-04 10:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know HOW to enjoy sex. He knows how to do it, but enjoying it means enjoying the expressive passion and feelings being physically expressed between you 2. He's thinking sex is all about getting off and hoping (or thinking) you enjoy it too. There is no pill nor a phrase for him to discover this. He just kinda has to learn and want to make it last longer than the time it takes for him to get off. He's not necessarily being selfish. He just doesn't know any different. He may not know it to be emotional and spiritual.
2007-07-04 10:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by atoughlife2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have him drink at least 3 or more bottles of beer that would delay his orgasm. He should learn how to relax and when he feel his about to explode he should put his thought somewhere else that would delay him and give you few more minutes. What good thing about the beer it will kill his senses of taste and smell while under you. There's nothing wrong about him or his stamina, he was just too excited and should learned to relax while having sex. Have fun.
2007-07-04 11:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs to concentrate on you more. Most men realize that they need more then 5 to 7 minutes to meet their partners needs. Makes me wonder if this is a new sexual partner of yours or one that doesn't pay attention to your needs? Also, you need to let him know what you would like him to do. Alot, assume they are doing a great job if you don't say anything so it , is your job to let him know what you like, dislike, and what he can pay more attention to. You should defiantly talk to him about this, especially if the two of you will have more "sexual time": together in the future.
2007-07-04 10:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duration depends on lots of factors. I've read that the average is under 5 minutes, if this is too short for you, do it again, I promise he'll last longer the second time around.
2007-07-04 10:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋