If you invite guests over but didn't tell them an exact time to be at your home, and then later call and tell them to hurry up because they're running late but didn't tell them in advance when to be there? I think that is rude, am I right?
2007-07-04 10:36:11 · 25 answers · asked by Sunshine 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are right, unless the person who did the inviting gave a general timeframe and the person invited did not show up in that timeframe. For example, if someone said to be there between 2 and 4pm and it was 5:30 and they still haven't shown up, then the host would not be rude if they called and asked the person where they were and could they please come on over. If on the other hand no timeframe at all was given and the person didn't show up yet, then it would be rude for the host to make the person feel as if they were late when no time was agreed upon.
2007-07-04 10:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes its rude.
But im not too concerned because this would never ever happen to me. Ive had people call and say want to come to our house for dinner on saturday? I would say sure what time?
If they said they didnt know I would say I need to know at least 24 hours before incase I need to bring something etc. If I didnt know the day before I would be calling, if I didnt know the morning of I would be calling. If I didnt know by then I would assume it was cancelled and plan something else.
Its very rude but you have to take some responsibilty on this.
2007-07-04 17:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by financing_loans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well! If you've invited them to tea, then the time is already ASSUMED around 5pm, if for lunch then around 12pm, if for supper would also be around 5pm, and if its dinner then I would think after 7.30pm.
Yes! "IF" these people are someone that you know is always late, then you have to be very specific with them and you HAVE to give them the time there is no ifs and buts, its that simple.
2007-07-04 17:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Naaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think twice before saying anything like that. Of course, this is why you always specify a time frame for guests to arrive.
2007-07-05 02:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rude, it sounds like they didn't intend for you to show up in the first place, or they would have been more specific in their instructions.
2007-07-04 17:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
totally! my bff does that all the time! I just can't stand it. the worst part is she leaves like 20 minute messages to just tell me one little thing. but yeah it is pretty rude.
2007-07-04 17:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not rude, but sounds kind of stupid and unorganized. I always ask when they want me over and if they don't specify, I'll say, "okay, I'll be over in X amount of time."
2007-07-04 17:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by dice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you hadn't given them a time and they probably figured you didn't really mean for them to come over.
2007-07-04 17:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rude or distracted, perhaps whoever did this thought they had set a time?
2007-07-05 03:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes is rude, not the time but the call
2007-07-04 17:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋