while i was with my ex she was going through a lot of stuff "so i thought" her family and friends always turned on her or took advantage of her kindness, her family hated her, her ex stalked her, etc.
during the time i was with her i did everything i could to help her and gave her advice and sanctuary. i spent every minute trying to help her but she never took the advice or did anything to help the situation. usually made it worse.
even though i did everything i could for her she still cheated on me. what happened?
2007-07-04 10:30:36 · 11 answers · asked by U.S MARINE GREG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea it is normal, she was a loser lesson learned, I just hope you are young and get old and laugh when you see her never happy
2007-07-04 10:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just didn't realize that you were there always... simple because you were never NOT around for her.. and so being taken for granted was among the numerous possibilities/pains you'll have to face somehow. You know..she's really a troubled girl, seeing only what she wants to see, even though she'd say she's trying to open her eyes. People lie. I don't mean to be pessimistic here.. What i want to say is that a lot of people only realize things when it's too late. Maybe..maybe you didn't matter to her the way you wanted to..or the way she mattered to you. She could've seen you as sanctuary.. or something less.. like.. just a wall to lean on, and not a wall that speaks and gives easy advice. Maybe she used you intentionally, maybe she didn't. I have no idea what your next move is.. but i hope you won't just get mad at her.. You already know she's a troubled one.. so you can either leave.. or suck it up and try to help her some more.. although maybe as a friend now. Ball's in your court.
2007-07-04 11:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie Greg. Well to me it is because she doesn't have a proper time for her to have fun with and usually it is bad for her to cheat on you, although you have gave her advice and also spend every minute to talk to her about her problem. The main fact that she has cheated on you is because, her family is extreamly strict on her and never ltet her to do her own favorite things in her own way, although she has consult with you and it is also the kindness she has gave to everyone which made her family and friends started to take advantage and also started to hate her, although you have gave her advice and to her thoughts it is all are a bad advice instead it is a good one, just stop giving her advice and let her be on her own and for sure she will realize it and she will start to think on what has happen to her, but at the same time if she is seeking help from you then it is good for you to help her out as a friend and not as a boyfriend, when she wants to make love with you then it is better for you to advice her and let her to make love with you, but before that it is good for you to tell her to stop on what she is doing now and make her realize on the positive part if she keeps doing it, what is next step that she is going to face in her life and also to her body. Try this and hope it might help you.......................
ALL THE BEST....................
2007-07-04 10:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just a complainer, give up get out of life . Doesn't look like she wanted help. There is people that go through life complaining and blaming some one else for their troubles. When all the time it is them Move on .
Queen Bee
2007-07-04 10:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by queen bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were 2 nice an she wanted her life in drama> Best to cut your losses and smile that your no longer having to deal with some 1 with so many issues.It will only get more traumatic Best of Luck.
2007-07-04 10:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just was to unhappy to be with only you. I went through alot of what she did and my boyfriend was very supportive. Even though he did everything he could I still was unhappy. I Think she was just not ready to be with only one person. Alot of girls are like that. There are not happy unless they are sleeping with different guys all the time.
2007-07-04 10:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by kelly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves drama! It's as simple as that. Some people can't live without it and if you look back you'll realize that she caused a lot of the problems she faced. She cheated because this fed into her need...sorry it happened to you..it sux
2007-07-04 10:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls or women prefer abusive boyfriends. That saying good guys finish last is unfortunally true in some cases. some people dont know how to act or respond when someone is nice to them. some people treat kindness as a weakness.
2007-07-04 10:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by pennylane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could have thought that you were trying to help her too much with something she felt she could handle, but in reality couldnt. it also seems like she's been affected by all the stuff that's happened in her life. sadly, i dont think there's much you can do to help her, this is one of the few situations in which the only way someone can get help is if they want it themself.
2007-07-04 10:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she liked being treated that way, like what her family and friend did. and when you were nice, she didn't like that and decide to go for someone that will turn on her and take advtange of her and stalk her
2007-07-04 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greg
There some people you cannot help. She needs professionals. Move on with your life
2007-07-04 10:37:59 · answer #11 · answered by Judd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋