I am a outgoing kind of girl and when i go to clubs usually i meet guys that just more into sex than anything. I meet some guys that wants a relationship i think that's going to be harder cause they go to clubs just like i do and they might get jealous when i dance with another guy. I also like to be romance. why is so hard to meet a guy that's like to go to clubs and also can be very romantic too?
2007-07-04 10:18:44 · 22 answers · asked by mizdiva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its two totally different things. If you love to go clubbing that much, then I would stay single becasuse it's not suitable for a relationship. cant have everything =P
2007-07-04 10:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I think the answer is that you need to look in places where the romantic guys are.
You probably won't meet the romantic guy in the clubs. For one, the clubs are so not romantic.
I used to go to clubs and have fun when i knew next to nothing about romance. I think once you develop a romantic relationship with a guy outside of the clubs then you both will be able to enjoy going to clubs if you want to go out and have a fun time together dancing and socializing.
You see, when a man like me grows enough to understand what is important in his life, the clubs have very little to offer me as a single guy. I've learned that the clubs are not the place to look for anything other than play. Romance is not play, but far from it, even though it is meant to be enjoyed. Romance involves communication and the club's really don't offer a good environment for communication. The clubs do offer alcohol and seduction which I think some people may mistake for romance, sadly enough.
Anyways, from my perspective, the clubs are depressing. That's why you won't find me hanging out there. But I'm not against going to a club with a group or even as a couple, but not on a regular basis.
And Ryan, speak for yourself little bro. You may be the jeleous and protective type, but I can speak for myself and you should learn to do the same. I can see why some of the dates you were lucky enough to get one of decided that your weren't their particular flavor.
2007-07-04 10:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by brad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation and happens to so many of my friends too- you love the club scene, but guys who go to clubs are usually looking just for sex. I think the best way to get around this is to meet the club-goers OUTSIDE the club! Look for social activities you enjoy doing where you can meet fun, outgoing people who probably would want to dance too- maybe go to a salsa dancing class or something? Or to a gym class that incorporates dancing into it- the same type of dancing you do at a club. You could meet someone who loves to dance who would want to go to a club with you, but who you'd be meeting in an environment that's showing the real you and not just your party persona.
2007-07-12 09:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by hopeful_city_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don’t you try just meeting one or two nice guys and working on the relationship rather than trying to do all of your shopping in one night? I love dancing and meeting new people too, but, I would rather just concentrate on a really nice, attractive person and spending my time with him. Romance will follow if you just give it a chance. You might be passing up a super guy because you have not made up your mind whether you want fun for the night or romance down the road. Pick one and work on it.
2007-07-04 10:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romantic guys have a protective mentality about their girlfriends. Some would call it selfish, but we believe that we are the best for our girl and want to basically do everything thing with her because we enjoy her plus we think we are the good at it.
I have dated outgoing girls in the past and I have got mixed reactions to this mentality. Some see it as adorable that I want to be their best friend and do everything with them. Others see it as sort of restricting. Like a lot of romantic guys, I am not a club type of person, but someone who wants to have a nice time with my girl and spoil her rotten.
From what you say, it sounds like you want the romance more than the clubbing. Life is about choices remember.
Hope this explains some of what you are seeing...
2007-07-04 10:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by The Stylish One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you cant fall in love with a guy that you meet at a club because he is parabaly a player or married that all you find in a club there are some guys but ones you get with them they end up being losers so not be romantic with someone you meet at a club!!!!
2007-07-12 09:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The club scene is usually for the single crowd.Guys are serious when they go to the clubs. Alcohol plays a big part in that. Its a meat market for males and females.You ll probably never someone to take you serious at a club
2007-07-12 09:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Italianaprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard cause all the good guys are real and don't want no hoe. i mean come on how can you have a real relationship when the person that betters you is going out and dancing with other guys, that just lets the guy know you are board and fake and cant satisfy yourself with just one person, cause the only reason people go out is to feel the attention of other people being around, you feel all the energy in the room, and if you cant feel that with the person you like its cause you don't want that, your lying to yourself
2007-07-12 06:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by frannylee19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause clubs are for hooking up and thats it. nobody really goes to dance. when u grow out of that you will meet a guy that is into some of the stuff u are. maybe rollerblading biking thats how u meet someone for romance
2007-07-04 10:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to meet guys that dont go to clubs.
2007-07-12 06:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Becca24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋