Will it be wrong for me not to go on a date with a guy with 4 kids by four different women.?

Question

He works pretty hard to take care of them. It's just hard for me to accept. I think about, what if i start liking this guy and he have all those kids by all those different women. I could accept 4 by the same woman. Am i wrong for feeling this way, by the way i just have one.

Answer 1

Wrong, NO WAY is it wrong, this man has 4 children by
4 different women. This tells me that he can not hold a
relationship together.

In case you don't know, I am a man so when I tell you to
run as fast as you can, believe it or you will end up with
his 5th child and he won't be around. This guy is already
a 4 time loser.

Answer 2

You're an adult, so you can decide who you want to date...a guy having a bunch of kids wouldn't appeal to me, but other women wouldn't be bugged by it...just realize that means there are at least 4 women in his life that he probably associates with on some level, regarding the children they share (even if they are all grown)... Your use of caps doesn't seem to make sense...if your family says you should not date a SINGLE man who has adult children by different women, that implies it would be okay for you to date a MARRIED one... Do what works for you...apparently he's fertile and not into birth control methods...

Answer 3

This is just too absurd to even consider. If you get involved with this guy you're liable to become the fifth woman with another child likely to be thrown into his brood. Not to mention the one you already have! It sounds like this guy is running some kind of harem. Does this mean that you are going to be put upon to help support and run all this? It would seem so because by the looks of things he needs all the help he can get. You should see by his track record that he is certainly mighty unstable for any real serious relationship and he has stretched himself very thin trying to cope with supporting everyone he has loaded up his life with. He is probably quite likeable and having feelings for him would be easy for you to do. Those other four woman must have thought so too. But you really need to wonder how you will ever fit into everything that he has on his agenda and where he would ever have the time for you along side all his other responsibilities. This is just too overwhelming and you need to stay clear of this because you are going to lose yourself in this. You already are having second thoughts so you should follow your gut feeling about this. It's a no win situation that is cut out to be a losing proposition with dire consequences for you that will blow up in your face if you should be foolish enough to indulge yourself in this terrible mess.

Answer 4

I had a bf w 3 kids by 3 different women, I should've known that if he didn't stay w any of the other 3 then why would i be any different. turned out he cheated on me numerous times, w many different women. not to say that all men are the same, but be careful of what you get yourself into. it seemed like he was looking for someone to deal w his kids when they came to our house, when he should've been spending time with them. keep your eyes and ears open before you jump into anything. it's a difficult situation when there are kids involved. also, i've noticed that men who badmouth their kids mothers, saying they cheated on him and whatnot, tend to be the ones who cheat.

Answer 5

Let's look at this challenge on a financial basis. If he is paying child support he does not have any money to take you anywhere. If he is not paying child support he either does not have the money or interest in his kids. Drop him there are greener pastures down the street.

That is unless you wish to be number 5 and his goal is to have his own softball team.

Answer 6

trust me, you aren't wrong for feeling that way. personally, i think you should atleast give him a try if you really like him, but hold back on anything serious for a Long time, he may just seem really good right now, but there is probably a reason he's had children with 4 women, and the problem is probably his, though he could just be really unlucky, who knows?

Answer 7

No you are not wrong it seems like he goes through women as if they arent anything, yes he sounds like a good father, but are you willing to accept his four children from different mothers and be apart of that? Good Luck! =)

Answer 8

Staying away from him would be the smartest thing you ever did! This man knows no birth control.

Answer 9

He'sa cad and a bounder. He puts it about and isn't good at commitment in the long term. Stay away!

Answer 10

if he takes care of all 4 of his kids he is a good person i think you should