First things first. I am a guy and i'm 16. And now onto the question. So i recently began going out with this great girl. We've only been together for what one might call 1 day. But we got off really great and there is already a strong bond of trust and intimacy in place between us.The question however is about sex. She has done it more times than i could count that i'm sure of and it doesnt matter to me as long as she doesnt go into details of it with me which she doesnt. I however am still a virgin (which im proud of). During our first date which lasted the whole day, there were multiple times when she would try to get me to have sex with her, through words AND mainly actions. I held her off playfully and told her that i want to go slow to say the least. Now i'm wondering. If it is something she really wants to do, should i go along with it and go all the way? I'm ready to do so, but i thought i'd make our relationship more special by holding back playfully with her. what should i do
2007-07-04 07:24:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely hold back. I can tell you from experience, once you lose your virginity everything changes. Your confidence level, your views toward sex, people in general. You won't have that control or power anymore. And it will be harder to view people after having sex with someone. That's all you'll think about when you start seeing them. You won't be interested in other topics or things to discuss or even do. And you only went on a date once! What a promiscuous girl! Does she know you're a virgin? She may just want to be your first. Be careful! And definitely hold back!
2007-07-04 07:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Devika P 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Firstly if she's like this with you what makes you think she's not like this with everyone else, well all I can say is she seems aort of like a ho. But if you really want to and feel ready to have sex with her. I think it might be a wrong move, if you care about love and feel that your first should be someone you love. If I was you I would wait for a little longer maybe try a few weeks and see how she reacts. Then just do it if you still feel shes the right one.
2007-07-05 15:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know of your lack of experience. She may giggle about it, but don't let that frighten you. If you want to take things slower, let her know. If you want to be sexual (by all means do it safe), but want to stall off the full deal, just go with foreplay for a while. So long as she knows your experience (or lack there of), she should be more willing to guide you through it. On the otherhand, she could say the hell with this and ditch you all together. C'est La Vie. If she does, then be glad you didn't sleep with her.
2007-07-04 15:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by sicarn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though you did not mention her age, but it is obvious that she does not give a damn to what you feel so proud of. A big difference of opinion and attitude has surfaced in just one night. I will suggest to keep going slow and let her give the test of her life. I mean I do not see any reason to lose so easily something that you are so proud of. There has to be a reason — a strong reason! Don't lose it, let her earn it :)
2007-07-04 14:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Munir A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok. So you would have sex with someone who obviously has sex with just anyone? She is how old and has already had sex with how many? So all the people she has had sex with, you will in essence have sex with because of diseases they or she might carry. She could have STD's she doesn't even know about yet. Some take several months to even show up. I would think long and hard about this.
2007-07-04 14:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Carla B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Depends what you want.
If you want a relationship that will last and hold, then don't have sex. If you want just a short-term relationship that has the potential to feel good, then go ahead and have sex.
2007-07-04 14:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u want something serious then u should hold out for a bit like some weeks or so to build everything up then finally just unleash it on her.. but i know ur going to be horrible in bed.. lol :P
2007-07-04 14:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No sex...Why can't you wait until you are older and more mature? What is the rush? Aren't you afraid of catching an STD or getting her pregnant? Sheesh.
2007-07-04 14:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i would at least wait until marrage but for u at least 3 months into the relationship because i would think u guys r going a bit too fast
2007-07-04 14:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Yep. 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like she's disease ridden. I'd save yourself (marrage or not is your choice), but at least until someone special comes along.
2007-07-04 14:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Chris O 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋