The past three days they have called to get me to help settle her down then when I called today I was hung up on and told they would not let me talk to her.
2007-07-04 07:16:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it sounds like you could not take care of your daughter and had to take her to people who could. you signed forms when you dropped her off and now you have to go by their rules.
2007-07-04 07:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With kids who suffer from emotional/behavior issues part of the program is starting out with the basics. Kids who have an issue with not respecting limits or rules also take the smallest things in life for granted ~ being able to use the phone, listen to their music, etc. The rules are fairly easy to follow, if you follow them, you have privileges ~ using the phone. If you don't follow the rules you have no privileges. If your girl has recently gone if for treatment there is going to be a rough few weeks, or month even. The adjustment to HAVING to follow rules & not having you save her is going to be tough ~ you not knowing every day what is going on is going to be just as hard. My advice is to call whoever your contact person is at your daughters rehab program. Try to schedule a meeting, or conference call, with those in charge of her treatment ~ councelors, physicians, etc. Ask what her plan is, the rationale to it & how YOU can HELP the process. Whether it be to give her a ton of space or attend regular counseling with her. (If the program you have her in doesn't jump to offer the latter, I'd be lookin' around for another program. Your goal should be to help your daughter AND bring her HOME. If you both can't learn how to relate to one another in a healthy way, you can't successfully live together.) I will say this, however. Where some may say you're a bad mother for putting your daughter in "one of those places", I say, we as parents do the very best we can with what God gave us to work with. Sometimes, no matter what you do, your child takes a path in life that is pathed with destruction, chaos & mayhem. As loving parents we do everything in our power to lead them elsewhere & that includes the unthinkable ~ putting our children in someone else's care. Sometimes what we see as the only way to help, to others seems somehow our defeat. Don't beat yourself up ~ pick yourself up & figure out how to continue helping your kid.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-04 15:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, they will restrict her from privileges such as the phone until her behaviour changes. Sometime they will keep them for a week with no contact until the settle and then she can call certain times of the day. All you need to do is call the counsellor of the center and ask what is going on. Just call daily and see how she is doing. You have a right to that.
2007-07-04 14:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well since no one knows wat was goin on in your house hold no one should be tryin to pass judgement on who is wrong. kids are kids and parents are parents.
if she has been acting up in that home they won't let her on the phone and have visitation rights, they can put her in isolation. but i would say that you check up on it because not every one of those residental homes play by the rules that they claim. try again tomorrow and so on.
p.s. don't forget you the parent. don't let her push you around. listen to herwhen hse tries to tell you things. if she puts her hands on you, fight back and let her know that thats not how it'll be. you birthed her not the other way around.
i kno i may get thumbs down for that, but o well. im 16 and i hear kids at my school all the time talk about how they slap their parents[moms] and the parents do nothing. parents have become soft these days. im not sayin beat your child, but let them kno who is boss. shoot, i kno my friends and i would not ever get away wit stuff like that in our house
2007-07-04 14:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♥betti cupcake♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they can stop you from speaking with your daughter, It is a shame that kids have more power these days than thier elders, It messes them up worse than ever. "IF" you daughter decides to talk with you than they will contact you, and you will be given a list of to do's... All of this will probably not help her but make her worse. I feel for you, all i can suggest is have your supports in place so you have sum1 there when "you" get let down again.
2007-07-04 14:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by wasuplat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on the policy of the residental home.
You should follow their guidelines for the well being of your daughter.
2007-07-04 14:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I'm sure (believe it or not) you are part of the problem. You are more stress to her and she probably has made a request to not speak with you. They will respect her wishes more than you ever did.
2007-07-04 14:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by corryglory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is in a residential home and you do not know the policies?
I would suggest you speak with the supervisor as soon as you can.
2007-07-04 14:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they found out you are apart of the problem yes they can keep you from talking to her.
2007-07-04 14:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her behavior isn't the best.They probably go on privileges,or a point system, where you lose privileges depending on your behavior.
2007-07-04 14:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Klingon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋