do you think guys are obligated to take care of girls in a relationship?

Question

i was talking to my best friend about it and this is how she feels (shes very old fashioned about most things):

guys should pay when they go out with their girlfriends and if the girl offers to pay, they should insist otherwise
guys should always pull out the chair, open the car door,hold the door, etc.
its a guys responsibility to have safe sex (i think she meants like even if the girl doesnt want to????)
guys should insist on women being housewives and take care of them if they dont want to work
guys shouldnt be the "head of household" in a marriage
she also thinks guys are naturally weak so they shouldnt be held as accountable for cheating as a female would.....personally i disagree with everything she said other than the "head of household" thing. what do you think?

Answer 1

Sounds pretty lame. I know a lot of feminists that would like to give your friend a punch in the face.

A lot of girls like it when I guy opens the door, pays, etc. Certainly not necessary though.

Shes been listening to too much John Mayer

Answer 2

I think a relationship should be give & take. I think that if the guy pays when you go out, then the girls should pay for the next outing. It can go back and forth. I think that Both the guy and girl should worry about the safety of having sex. That is the responsibility of the man and the female. If she doesn't want to be safe then that too bad. I would carry a condom on me if I knew I were to have sex with someone. Why rely on the guy. The husband is always the head. That's the way it should be. The wife will get the respect she deserves, but she should not rule over the male. There are different situations where the male would do more, and then the woman will do more, and then they should both share in what's going on.

Answer 3

GGODDDD! WHAT CENTURY did she crawl out of? ANY and all relationships should be a 50/50 effort by both sides. If the relationship is working out, there will be times when one side has to pick up the slack of the other from time to time and vise-versa.
Sure its nice for a man to be chivalrous, and pull the chair out, open a door etc, but how boring and presumptuous it would be for him when it is expected and not appreciated. There is a big difference.
As for working; if he is making enough money to support a spouse for the reason of raising children, fine. But who wants to support someone who sits at home on her *** and does nothing. She should be pursuing her career and contributing not only financially to the household but as a 'whole' person.
Safe sex? I wouldn't trust anyone but myself to protect my the health of my body, let alone risking the chance of an unwanted pregnancy!!! What ever is this girl thinking???
Cheating is ok for a man because they are naturally weak??? Give me a break. Has she ever been cheated on? Has she ever had her heart broken? She must be morally deficient.

Answer 4

I disagree with all of it. I think there shouldn't be a head of the household. Actually, i'd rather the woman be the head of the house, thats how my family is. Men are not naturally weak and should be held accountable for cheating. I'd never cheat on a girl for anything. Also, in my family, my mom makes twice the money as my dad, so i think its perfect natural for the woman to make more. As for paying, whoever proposes the date should pay. Guys still should be courteous with car doors and chairs, etc..

Answer 5

I think guys should pay during dates, pull out chairs, open doors and things of that sort. It's both people's responsibility to prepare for "safe sex" (would you trust your life or risk pregnancy by relying on someone else's sense of fair-play?) Insistence on having a stay at home wife isn't really practical in these economic times, and I favor partnerships as opposed to "head of household" titles which imply some sort of lordship over another human being. And I totally disagree with her assessment that men are weak and therefore unaccountable for cheating in a relationship...that's a cop out. Both parties are capable of, and honor- bound to be responsible for their own actions.

Answer 6

What a bunch of hooey.

I think that men should be protective but neither should have any right to cheat. My husband and I both work outside the home and have taken time to raise our daughter.He offered to let me stay at home when she was small but I wanted to keep my job.

We both make financial decisions equally. In some areas I know he knows more and I back his decisions up. In some areas he knows I know more and he backs up my decisions.

Love and marriage are an economic and love partnership. You have to always make the other feel special. We have been together for 24 years and have only had one minor quarrel. We still kiss ar red lights and there is plenty of romance in our lives.

Answer 7

I agree. I'm fairly conservative when it comes to household politics. One thing I do disagree with however, is the absolute nature of her opinion. I do agree that it is a good idea for guys to be gentlemen and pay for dates, hold doors, ect., but I don't believe it should be EXPECTED ALL OF THE TIME.

Also if the girl doesn't want to have sex, then it's the guy's responsibility to leave her alone.........not simply put on a condom. That sounds very close to rape if you ask me.

Answer 8

2 things i disagree on...guys should be the head of the house hold, especially if they are the ones whom go out and work and bring home the money.... and guys are not weak.... derr!! they are strong, because they are our body guards, just in case there maybe an intruder or some what....they are there to protect us.... otherwise i agree with her... well that's the way i was brought up...but it is more common sense for the guy to hold the car door open, or pull the chair out for the lady to sit first... but also there is so many people that love the olden day things that men used to do, back then.... some people will never grow out of it.... but this is today's day and era now... men are not expected to do that much now... but make this point to your friend..... if she wants to stick to these, maybe she shouldn't be even thinking about having s*x with her male friend, till she is married.... your true love was the one you lost your virginity too, on your wedding night.... sorry.....just had to have my say.....

Answer 9

Your friend must have grown up in a strict household, either that or she is 98yrs old. Tell her to get a grip and leave the house, if she is allowed.

Answer 10

Did your friend like the Stepford Wives?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Stepford_Wives

As for a wife, I would like a companion not a slave, not a dependent, not a mindless -- airhead -- doll.

Openmindness, Honesty, Intelectual woman are romantic.
But God gives someone to everyone -- maybe.