Bad Parents Or Not?

Question

ADHD Child

Do you think it's just Bad parenting skills

Or do you think they are Great parents but with children who try to be good and follow all the rules but just can't?

Answer 1

I dont think ADHD is caused by bad parenting. Nor do I think that people with children with ADHD are bad parents. Would we think parents with a child with luekemia were bad parents because the child has it? No and we should not consider parents with ADHD children any differently than that.

Answer 2

Farg politeness. You are not a bad parent if you have a child with ADD or ADHD. You are a bad parent if you have a kid that's just a Twit.

Simple test to see.
If you ask the child to sit still for 5 min and read, play. . . and promise them anything they want in the world ( you don't actually have to give it to them )
if they succeed they are grabby, spoiled, brats. If they can't even with the promise of the one thing they wish most. It's adhd.
At the root both add and adhd inhibit ones ability focus on one task for long periods of time. the end.

As for sugar being a catalyst. bull! A hyper kid is a hyper kid with or with out sugar. Try chugging a can of coke or eating a cupcake before bed when you're really tired. See if you stay awake then.

In my opinion, ADD and ADHD are real but far more rare than admitted. There is a school of thought that believe because we have so much stimuli in our lives EX: Tivo, Video games, Movies on Demand, 100s of radio stations and fast passed lives.That our mind has become in a way addicted to stimuli. That some minds when not stimulated actively search for stimulation. Since all adolecents and teenagers need stimuli in order to form an adaptive adult brain doesn't that sound reasonable? And in the end isn't that what all kids need and search for? Mental stimulation.

Answer 3

If a child truly has ADHD then the parents have nothing to do with it. I do feel, however, that a child who has parents that are too lenient, give too much sugar, no bedtimes and no structure will end up hyper and distractible and are often labeled ADHD because it is easier to give a kid a pill than to restructure the home life. This is seen when you have a family with several kids and only one has ADHD and the parents go out of their way to do things to avoid the medication. Then there are families where the kids run wild and every single kid in the family has "ADHD."

Answer 4

No, I don't think that it is bad parenting skills. ADD is a condition caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain, and while it sometimes can run in families, most of the time the cause is not known.

There are many options when it comes to treating the child with ADHD--behavioural therapy can help, and medications are also sometimes used. I should tell you that the medications have side effects, and that it can sometimes take switching medicines several times before the one that is right for that particular individual is found.

ADHD is more common in boys, but can also be found in girls. Boys with ADHD tend to display more of the impulsivity symptoms, while girls with ADHD tend to display more of the inattentive features of the condition.

I don't think you are bad parents...ADHD is not caused by parenting (or lack thereof).

Answer 5

No I do not believe it is bad parenting; however, most parents could use a bit of advice now and then when dealing with children. It is best to consult a professional. Everyone has different parenting skills and every child is different. ADHD has been around for many years; however, only recently has it been diagnosable and treatable. There is no crime in having a child with ADHD. The only crime would be not having it treated.

Answer 6

I think ADD/ADHD are both labels given to kids by scientists who have over looked one simple fact.

Kids today have way to much of the following in their life
a: tv
b: "console" games
c: SUGAR

Sugar being the catalyst of most of the problem.
The Sugar hypes kids up who spend all their time watching TV/Playing Nintendo instead of getting outside. IT's an excess buildup of energy that is not being channeled. It just sits in there like bottled up rage, and the person goes "$hitnutz" as a result.

Numerous studies have been done to show that if you eliminate most sugars, (especially things like High Fructose Corn Syrup), and soft drinks from kids diet their personalities improve.


So to answer YOUR specific question, it is bad parenting. The parents allow the kids to eat what ever they want, and do not actually encourage them to go and do some form of "active" play. ie..goto a play park, get out and ride a bike or a skateboard etc. The parents can take control of the situation and limit the person to no more then 1-2 hours of PS a day, and cutting them down to maybe 1-2 "sugary" food items per week, and then go buy your kid a bike ;-).

Answer 7

I think ADHD is just a label and not a prediction of the child's outcome. I do believe that too many kids are labeled that even though the only problem is the parenting skills (or lack of of). I don't think that any child that can understand the rules are incapable of following them. That is just a cop out.

I have a nephew problems and he is great when he is over at my house and a terror when he is with his parents. Explain that?

Answer 8

If a child is truly effected by ADHD then it has nothing to do with parenting but if a child is just obnoxious and unruly it's the parents - if you have a good doctor they'd be able to determine if a child has ADD or ADHD or if they're lacking something from their parents.

Answer 9

The whole ADHD thing is out of control. I do believe there are cases of a child naturally having those problems and in need of medical attention, but, labeling every hyperactive out of control child as ADHD is like labeling every foul mouthed person as suffering from Tourette's Syndrome. Most of your ADHD children are young minds lacking engaging attention. The parents are too busy to spend meaningful time with them and their fragile minds are bombarded with dumbing down time in front of computers, video games, and TV that leaves them wired and unable to focus.

Answer 10

I suppose there is plenty extra to it than what the mothers and fathers do. As a dad or mum you take a look at all you'll be able to to instruct your children the correct means however simply when you consider that we are mothers and fathers doesn't suggest we all know precisely what is the correct technique to instruct the youngsters. Some that seem to be high-quality mothers and fathers possibly slightly overdoing it and it has a bad outcome at the child. There's genetics too, that's being tested increasingly to affect the intellectual steadiness of anybody, so it doesn't matter what you do they'll nonetheless move dangerous. The excellent we will be able to all do is take a look at. And for probably the most facet I suppose so much mothers and fathers wish to be well for his or her children, then there is one's who simply do not care and can best keep their children when you consider that its required by means of regulation. But you cannot are expecting the results.