Im so not a jealous person, but I ALWAYS have to share a computer, I wish I could have one for myself. my dad got a new laptop for my mom, and Im jealous! I dont want to be! I want to be happy for my mum, but its a cool new laptop with a 17" screen! Boohoo! Any suggestions for me so I can stop feeling jealous?/jealous gal
2007-07-04 05:50:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes, it's normal.
2007-07-04 05:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by ηárdiη 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news about jealousy is that it is low in fat and high in fiber. It's full of protein too. So when you eat it up, you will be feeling like you just ate a healthy meal.
Jealousy is a form of fear and fear is a powerful form of control.
We've all been jealous at one point or another in life. Maybe we have seen our lover getting a kiss or hug from a long time friend and all of a sudden, a queasy feeling enters our stomach, but why?
We know they are just friends, right?
Jealousy occurs when we believe that we own something that we do not... or when others have something that we feel should be ours.
In this situation, even though we know they are friends, we get scared that we could be loosing something that we "own" to a "rival".
The easy way to combat jealousy is to simply understand and accept that you do not own or control your partner. When you are aware that you cannot loose what you do not own, how can you be jealous?
Now I realize that in many ways this is more easily said than done, but hey, you are only human. It can take time for you to feel comfortable enough to love with freedom so that jealousy simply will not occur.
There are some partners who will in fact use jealousy as a tool... a tool to control you! These partners will in fact purposely do whatever they can to make you jealous. This of course is really such an immature game because these people have not yet learnt how to love with freedom.
When a partner tries to control you with jealousy, the best way and the only way to combat the game being played is to not get jealous. Once you stop being jealous then your partner will stop playing the game as there is no more fun for them. In addition, they will soon see they cannot control you and loose interest. You also need to decide whether this partner is really what you want too!
As the old adage goes, "you are only young once, but you can be immature forever." If your partner is playing the jealousy game then you need to ask yourself, "is he really worth my time?" If you are serious about love then why spend your time with someone who isn't?
2007-07-06 03:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by Newton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a normal feeling to some point, but i think you should realize your mom is an adult and I am sure she needs the computer for a lot more reason's than you do. Like possibly doing some of your dad's paper work or something like that on the computer and that is possibly why he got her the computer in the 1st place! Just realize when you get older you to will have the grown up privileges that come with the roll of being an adult!
2007-07-04 06:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal human emotion to feel jealous. Since it is your mom who got the computer realize that she is an adult and has done a great deal in her life and deserves the computer. Realize that when you get a job you can purchase your own computer also. Try to be happy for your mom and realize that good things come to those who wait and waiting is helpful in the long run because you will develop patience.
2007-07-04 06:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell her that you are and maybe when it comes out of your mouth you will finally see that theres nothing wrong with being jealous. It's a basic human behaviour. Be thankfull for what you do have. Like the fact that you at least have a computer with the internet whilst others have to use internet cafes!
2007-07-04 05:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by fayS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your jealousy seems a bit childish to me. Save up some money and buy your own laptop. I'm sure your parents have given to you most of your life. Stop getting jealous over small things and start doing some things for yourself.
2007-07-04 06:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl20012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you aren't paying the bills, best to be content with your situation. Why do you need your own anyway? If you are on the computer that much, you need to get a life.
Second, if you really want one of your own, get a job and pay for it yourself.
Third, best to begin to nip that jealous streak now before you grow older. I know lots of jealous people and they really make life miserable for themselves...and others.
2007-07-04 06:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel jealous every once in awhile, just not all the time. You could save the money up for one to stop feeling jealous.
2007-07-04 05:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by wsgrl7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are, but I suggest saving up to get one of your own, possibly a good used one. Anything you want is worth working hard for, not working your father.
2007-07-04 05:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal =]
id be jealous to haha
2007-07-04 05:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋