me and my parents never got along and every now and then they go wacko and i end up crying so SOMETIMES i call my bf and he relaxes me. last night i called him and he was like i dont have time for this im going to bed blah blah. i txtd him and was like 'thanks for spending 30 sec with me on the phone, u really do care'
he called me back and was like what do u want me to tell u, ur paretns are psycotoic and u are ur whole family are drama queens.
so i was like i really hate u right now ihate u so much
(i was an emotional mess) (he just really frustrated me)
we hung up and he called me back 5 min later to make sure i was okay and this morning he called and i was like hey babe and he was like i thoght u said u hate me!
i know hes upset but waht should i do?
i really feel like im pushing him away
2007-07-04 05:32:53 · 18 answers · asked by mitlilkizbi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright hun what you did is hurtful and no man is gonna wanna hear that from you especially if its your boyfriend or husband. You should think before you just burst out to him what happened to you and your parents. You know what i could understand him feeling the way he did not wanting to talk about you and your parents ok. Get this ok hes probably sick of hearing you sad or mad at your parents because he loves you and he doesn't wanna hear you sad or crying over the phone or being upset. Just explain to him like this say baby im so sorry for what happened and me yelling at you but i really wanted you to listen to what i had to say i know you get sick and tired of hearing me talk about it but just tell me if you don't want to hear about instead of saying it in a grumpy way because then that just gets me angry at you and everyone else. Girl i do the same hting to sometimes. Good Luck <3 you'll need it.<3
2007-07-04 05:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie D 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You say that you and your parents "never" get along, so it probably isn't unusual for you to be calling him after arguing with them. Sounds like he's normally very accommodating and tries to help you.
So one night you call him and he's busy, or worried about something in his own life or just really frustrated with dealing with you and your family fights. He was human.
So.....your reaction isn't to be hurt and cry, it's to tell him that you REALLY hate him....very 'drama queen' and over-reactive, hon.
This guy hasn't abused you; he hasn't called you names or treated you like crap. He got frustrated and blew off some of that frustration....and he DIDN'T tell you to F-off or say he hated you. You basically did that to him.
To top it off HE calls you 5 minutes later to make sure you're ok....you don't call HIM to say you're sorry (after all, none of the crap you have going on at home is his fault; he's just trying to help). You didn't say you apologized to him...and the next day you just act like nothing happened.
So....YOU are putting him through tons of drama and frustration, and you THINK you are pushing him away? If HE were the one writing in, I'd tell him to get you some counseling and get away from you because you're not emotionally stable enough to have a relationship.
Grow Up.
2007-07-04 05:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You're not pushing him away. You were upset. He knows that. No sense taking back what you already said. But make amends. Tell him that you're so sorry you have to say those words which you believe hurt him and that you didn't really mean it; you were angry and he should take that into consideration.
If you can, go visit him, offer your apologies in person. That would work.
2007-07-04 05:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do seem to be a drama queen, something that you've no doubt been socialized with at home. But he still seems to genuinely care about you, so recognize this: Not everyone was raised in such a volatile household, and those dynamics can be tedious at times to outsiders (this doesn't mean they don't care). You cannot un-ring a bell, so choose your words carefully...relationships are fragile, precious things and should be treated with respect to avoid damaging them. Good luck to you.
2007-07-04 05:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ur BF cares about you. you cant depend on him on him to help u all the time. U are pushing him away tell him ur sorry bout everything u have to make it up to him. See us guys we have problems and when your gf complains about stuff u get confused he was having a rough day and ur complaining was the straw that broke the camels back. Ask him about his problems when he is done talking then its ur turn take turns my gf does that to me and we are breaking up partly b/c of that. I dont like being her scapegoat and not able to talk to her about my problems. So just apologize U dont wanna end up like me and my girlfriend, and take turns listening to eachothers problems
2007-07-04 05:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Minisheetsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has own problems and he's tired of dealing with you and your parents problems.Your family are drama queens. You owe him an apology because you have never considered his feelings. You are being selfish!!
2007-07-04 05:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by momo13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. If he mentions it again, just tell him everybody says things they don't mean when they are mad.
Perhaps you need to stop and think about what your boyfriend is telling you. You carry on so about your parents being psychotic and how you are mistreated sounds like you may be a drama queen.
2007-07-04 05:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
don't panic - we all do it sometimes (and they can sometimes be a real pain!) just give him some space, then in a day or two apologise and leave him to it -he'll come round. And maybe he should apologise to - he wasn't very caring, was he?!sometimes a bit of cooling off from you is just what they need!
2007-07-04 05:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain that you were upset at the time and didn't really mean it. Unless you DID mean it, in which case you should probably leave him.
2007-07-04 05:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your bf's fault you have problem in your family , and i think he is really so kind to listen sometimes to you , but you need to apologize and tell him that you weren't thinking right, make it up to him
2007-07-04 05:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋