2007-07-04 04:58:22 · 33 answers · asked by xan_wes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Only if you feel like calling her that. I don't think either your dad or your stepmom would expect you to call her mom. I'm sure you can call her something else that's respectful. If you love your stepmom and feel like she's a mom to you and you want to call her mom, I'm sure she would be honored.
2007-07-04 05:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is comfortable, talk to her about it too. If you like her, that helps. She may just want you to call her by her name or she may really appreciate that you call her mom. But a lot of people then feel guilty as though they are not honoring the memory of their real mother. So you have to do what is best for you and show her the respect she deserves. Your dad may even be able to offer some advice.
2007-07-04 05:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable with calling her stepmom, it is okay to call her your dad's wife or by her first name. I called my stepmom Aunt Nan because she was almost like a mom to me, but not quite. We were both uncomfortable with the stepmom title because of the negative stereotypes, so we found something that worked for us.
2007-07-08 03:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by hannahthemovie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's for you to choose what you are comfortable with. If you want to just remember your real Mom, call your stepmom by her first name.
2007-07-04 05:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. That's a name you used for your biological mother for years. It looks as if you're a fully grown adult. If you were five, and needed a mommy in your life, I'd probably have a different answer. Meanwhile, you & your stepmother have met each other as adults, and I'm guessing you use her first name when addressing her now. I don't see why this would change with the marriage.
Not to mention that if I were in your stepmother's shoes, I'd think this was a little weird.
2007-07-05 09:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear! When I grew up-without my real mother, my step mom gave me the choice of what to call her. She said: You can call me Mom, or Debbie. Your choice. Mind you that I was only 4-so naturally I wanted to call her mom. As an adult, finding my real mom and step dad...I called her Mama and my step dad Charlie. Well when my real dad passed away- I thought I would never call another man dad, or daddy. However in the past 6 years, Charlie has been more of a daddy to me than my own real dad ever was. So, out of respect and love, I call Charlie Dad or Daddy. I asked him would he mind if I called him that...and with tears in his eyes- he said not at all- that he would be honored. I say all of that to say this- if in your heart you wish to call her mom, or mama-tell her how you feel. Ask her how she feels about it too. Good luck and God Bless!
2007-07-04 07:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Pookie Pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww... my condolences.
You can call her whatever you're comfortable with, and she's comfortable with. If she says she'd like to be called "mom," and you feel good about it, sure.
This doesn't mean that you'll forget your mom or that this woman can ever take her place. You might feel more comfortable calling her by her name for a while. But you know, when you get married, oftentimes your in-laws like to be called "mom" and "dad" too... it's just a word.
2007-07-04 05:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call her mom just for that reason. If you feel like you should call her mom, then by all means do so. I personally could not call another person "mom" but if you love her and have a good relationship with her then follow your heart.
2007-07-04 05:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely up to you. Are you comfortable with her? Is she good mom material? Do you love and respect her? Does she treat you like you are one of her own children? if you answered yes to these questions than it is ok to call her mom. Calling her mom though is not a requirement and should only be done if you are comfortable with it.
2007-07-04 05:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this woman is a loving and caring person who loves you as much as she loves your father, then you will naturally begin to call her mom. Just like the first time you say "I love you" in a relationship, you will gravitate to a day when "mom" will slip from your lips. Your mother will be strumming her harp in joy knowing a good woman came into your life to provide you motherly love. Don't force it, it will come naturally...
2007-07-04 05:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mike D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋