My son has been invited to a wedding in August by someone he used to work with. He left that job with stress, and has since been succesfull elsewhere. However, he is concerned about seeing the old work team again, as he has not kept in touch since leaving. He is 19 and well liked but embaressed by the way he left. What shall I advise him to do?
2007-07-04 03:30:41 · 17 answers · asked by kezkezzer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he is not sure then he is probably not really wanting to go. It is no shame if he is not wanting to go, so a card or gift would be nice enough. Good luck with the new job - onwards and upwards!
2007-07-04 21:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't advise him at all. He is 19 years old, and you have to cut the apron strings some time. If he has a successful job he can decide whether he wants to go to an event for one day, by himself.
I don't see why he would want to go to a party with a bunch of people he was glad to leave behind, from a situation he is embarrassed about, who he thinks he might be uncomfortable around. People who he didn't want to keep in touch with. If he has kept a friendship with the couple, I am sure they will understand everything.
2007-07-04 13:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must not have left on too bad of terms, since he's still been invited to this wedding. It's probably not as bad as he thinks and I'm sure there will be more people happy to see him as not. I had a similar situation with a bridal shower for an old coworker and while it was uncomfortable at times, I'm glad I went, even if only to leave and later think how grateful I was that I no longer worked there with those people. Just tell him it's time to put his big boy pants on and face the music, you can't run away from the consequences of bad behavior, bad choices, bad whatever that happened when he left. I think it will be a good learning/growing experience for him. Good luck.
2007-07-04 10:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by KatB 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is better off by replying with an "unable to accept invitation" card. Simple as that. If he was close to the happy couple in any way - he can always plan to catch up with them at a later date or send a small gift to offer congratulation. Otherwise, is not obligated especially if it may cause stress (not worth it). :0)
2007-07-04 10:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
~~~It was nice that he was invited. If he feels uncomfortable he should send the bride and groom a nice card. And since he has not kept in touch, he really is under no obligation to go to the wedding if he wishes not to. But still sending a card would be a nice gesture.
2007-07-04 10:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Penny~~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they liked him and want him to come to the wedding. I would advise him to go and have fun - the people from his old job may become good friends for him again now that he isnt working at that stressfilled job anymore.
2007-07-04 10:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son knows what he wants to do he is looking to you just to tell him what he wants to hear. Talk to him and listen he will tell you what he wants to do.
If he has not kept in touch with any one form his old job, then that speaks loudly.
Tell him if he feel obligated but still dose not want to go to send a card.
Or if he is feeling up to going, but wants to stay clear of the stress, he could go to the reception, just to make an appearance
2007-07-04 10:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by losjlozanos 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His only obligation is to RSVP and let the couple know if he is coming or not. If he feels close to the person he worked with or thinks the wedding would be fun he should go, if not a simple “Thank you for thinking of me, but I am unable to attend.” is all that is needed.
2007-07-04 10:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should contact the person who invited him and accept the invitation if they are generally close. The wedding focus will be on the couple. I think that he can just attend the church, congratulate the couple and then be on his way. Usually confrontation occurs at the party so he can attend and avoid the horror all at once.
2007-07-04 10:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The past is water under the bridge - go. He may have someone who is unknowingly a good friend. But be cautious and good at all costs. leave if things are or get uncomfortable.
2007-07-04 10:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋