Need help in handling rambunctious kids?

Question

I’m in a relationship with a single mother of three. They have been alone for several years and well the kids rule the house. Two girls are 10 and 8 and help mom when they have to, but both talk back and manipulate mom to get what ever they want. And then there is a 4 yr old boy who is off the chart, demands a lot of attention usually he will ask for what ever comes to his mind and if there is no immediate response within seconds will start screaming and yelling till he gets catered to. My experience is with one daughter who is 13 and very well behaved with full manners. I know that this road will be long and trying so I am asking for insightful experience or thoughtful advice.

Answer 1

If you really like this woman, then I say go for it and try hard! You have to weight the pros and cons IMO. You already have a well trained daughter, so it's not like you "need" the Daddy feeling.

It's EASY to say that things won't change until the mother puts her foot down, but as you stated the kids are manipulative and RUDE. I wish I could talk back to my mother, I'd have to fly from Florida to Cali to pick up my lips off the floor!

Someone stated that you should get to know the kid's likes and dislikes, that's a good start. If you have any type of custody/visitation of your daughter, include her too. Maybe her good behavior will rub off!!

My mom and dad have 3 daughters, after they split my dad started dating a woman with 3 daughters and a son. They were the COMPLETE opposite of us. I didn't know WHAT my dad was thinking. But after FORCING us to mingle with them, their mom said we were starting to rub off on her kids. They were using "Please" & "Thank You" They didn't talk back, as much, etc...

Everyone's different though! So whatever you decide to do - GOOD LUCK :-)

Answer 2

Well, my best advice would be to find another girlfriend. This one comes with too much baggage. You will not transform that 8 and 10 year old girls or even the 4 year old boy. What has happened is that she has taken the easy road. It is much easier with kids to just let them do what they want than to try to discipline them. That isn't going to change. Don't make your daughter be around these kids either. Evidently, you have an ex wife that is a very good mother to your daughter. You will have nothing but problems with this woman and her kids. She is not responsible and gives up easily. You shouldn't be the one to try to fix this. Only the Mom can fix these kids. She is probably a nice person but is overwhelmed by parenthood on her own. Go find someone without problem kids. Or those kids will be your problem.

Answer 3

Well since they have all had it their way for so long then it is going to be a huge challenge maybe even impossible considering they were giving anything they want because their wasn't any other discipline around to help...You can talk to the mother and try to work out a game plan to get them to have good behavior, like for the girls it will be easier because they are getting older and can understand better, you need to give them a punishment if they are doing something wrong and know they are and be firm...don't be too mean or harsh but be firm and let them know that kind of behavior is not acceptable...and with the little boy it will be harder because he is a boy and is at the stage of running around and going crazy, so you can do the same thing but only when he is screaming his head off on something he shouldn't be...when he is you have to calm him down make eye contact with him and tell him when he stops screaming and asks you politely you will get him what he wants. tell him several times a day and make sure he understands...I know it's difficult but the main thing is to have Patience with children and don't get frustrated...Best of luck...

I hope it works out for you :_

-Moose

Answer 4

From my experience of babysitting all sorts of children, there is not gonna be much u can do until the mother puts her foot down on some issue, but considering ur place, i would say just be nice and as helpful as u can, try your hardest NOT to lose ur cool no matter what they do, Don't let them get away with everything, then they will know u are a pushover and TRUST me they will use that to their advantage. i guess right now i think u should find out what their likes and dislikes are and work with that. hope i helped a little.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I think u need to tell her about her kids!! Remember u will never *** b 4 her kids....her kids needs a good spanking! I'm pretty sure she knows her kids are getting over on her.