i'm the only one who knows hes been cheating!?

Question

right so my best friend, im gonna call her sarah has been dating this guy im gonna call him peter for ages.. about 6 months.. one of my other best friends, im gonna call her paige has been seeing him behind sarahs back!!!
i thought something wierd was going on!
paige started hiding her phone from me so i couldnt go near her messages or pictures or anything. one day she was round and she went to the toilet without her phone.. i looked thru and saw everything!!
she doesnt know that i know that shes been seeing peter.
but sarah really deserves to know..
i dont wanna break any of my friends up tho?!
what should i do ???

Answer 1

Stop being a busybody and a stoop, and mind your own business.

Answer 2

Paige isn't a true friend. I can understand you not wanting to get in the middle of this so just ask yourself, if you were in Sarah's position would you want to know? If the answer is yes but you still don't wanna be the bearer of bad news try to get Sarah to find out on her own. However that can backfire if she ever finds out that you knew all along and didn't say anything. If Paige ever leaves her phone unattended again, or you can just sneak it away from her, forward the messages to Sarah. This is messy. Good luck!

Answer 3

It will come out eventually. It always does. When "Sarah" is crying over her broken heart, you will sick with guilt for not telling her sooner. I was in this situation with my sister. I didn't want to have to tell her so I hinted things like, "Do you ever thing maybe Marc has another girlfriend?" It didn't work. People don't see what they don't want to see. But if you tell Sarah, with no proof, she will direct her hurt and anger at you. What you need to do is make plans with the backstabbing whore and see if she has a dumb excuse. In other words, somehow try to figure out when she will be with Peter. And then you and Sarah just happen to show up.

Or you could invite Paige over and then Sarah and confront Paige in front of Sarah and tell her what you saw in her phone and then Sarah can see Paige's reaction for herself.

Answer 4

Spill it!!! Sarah has every right to know!...and as her best friend you have an obligation to inform her!...as for Paige she has no right going after Sarah's man! and she isn't a best friend to you guys because friends don't do that....as for Peter if he wants to be with Paige then he needs to step up and be a man and tell the 2 girls who he wants to be with...

Good Luck!

Answer 5

You start talking to this guy peter and start an affair and cheat all parties involved - thats peter, sarah and paige. This way you will get peace of mind and a peice of mind of each of the parties and can have some good times too

Answer 6

If you want to be friends with both, don't get involved. If you want to choose sides, that is your choice. If these women are not friends then Paige owes Sarah nothing, it is the guy who is the scumbag.

Six months is a heartbeat, you must all be very young and should be dating around and having fun and not be so serious and monogamous.

To snoop like that is pretty rotten.

Answer 7

Absolutely nothing. Your role in this (if it can be considered a "role" at all) is to be supportive if/when it all hits the fan. You feel understandably conflicted, and are tempted to want to "do" or "say" something...which is precisely why you shouldn't. People take news of that sort in a variety of different ways; some of those ways quite predictable, other ways completely unexpected...like denial, or a tendency to figuratively "kill the messenger", and since you can never accurately forecast what that reaction will be, it's best to never put yourself in that position. (This will always be true whenever you encounter this throughout your lifetime). Life has a way of karmically reconciling all these issues to a state of balance...no one gets a free-ride at messing someone over forever. Be there for the wounded party once it inevitably comes to light, but don't put yourself on the skyline of someone else's mess. It will backfire on you everytime.

Answer 8

i think this look at yourself would you want someone to tell you? if so then like that other one said tell paige to tell peter to tell sarah. that he cant have them both that he has to chose or you will tell sarah about it bc she is your good friend and as a friend do you want to see her with someone like that? before you do that though u better hope to heck you are 100% right. not like on maury whos the daddy right but there is definetly no other explination of there actions you seen them kissing touching something.

Answer 9

This is the most difficult thing for anyone to handle. I faced the same situation once. I worked with this girl and she's nice and all that. & she's so in luv with her husband, but she was at the same time sad 'cos they were still childless after a couple of years of marriage. Then she left the company but we still kept in touch. One day, I saw her husband with another woman and it was not just holding hands. I deliberated into telling her. So, I decided to shut up. 2 years after that, she gave birth to a baby girl and she blissed. I wonder now what would happen if I had told her the truth. For your friend, you dun hv to tell her directly. Just drops hints and suggestions for her to chk her bf's handphone. Make it all like nothing's going on, but something's the matter. They are not married so consider her saved frm misery

Answer 10

force paige to tell the truth. if sarah finds out that you knew and you did nothing about it, you will loose her. Rather keep the real friend.

Answer 11

fricken tell paige you know and tell her to tell peter before someone tells sarah..other than that the three that are involved are the only ones that should be telling anyone anything..