my boyfriend has always been seen as a joker..but recently he has been commenting on my weight and looks also comparing me to other woman when i confront him about it he just says hes joking but its really made me feel crap about myself because i used to be bulimic and went dangerously thin i am now a size 10 and have started to make myself ill again..
its probarly really selfish but i want to stop
please help me x
2007-07-04 02:56:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A guy like this is no good for you. You deserve someone who loves you no matter what weight you are and always makes you feel good about yourself. Dump him.
2007-07-04 03:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How very amusing your boyfriend is, I can almost feel my sides splitting (not)!
You are not being selfish, you need to take care of yourself first because if you start wasting away physically and emotionally you will not be in a state to be happy and be in a close relationship - which is presumably what you want?
If you've been successfully able to stop being bulimic then you can do it again. Hopefully your recently starting to make yourself sick again is just a blip, but you need to act quickly to protect yourself.
You do need to speak to your boyfriend, he's being an ar*e, but preferably in a non-confrontational way. Does he know you were bulimic? Is he aware of the effect his comments have on you, irrespective of the fact that he's 'joking'? You need a heart to heart chat and you need to keep as calm as possible.
He needs to learn to understand you, your past and why bulimia happens. If he will not do this and will not love, respect and support you, then you need to get away from him. Your mental and physical health depends on it.
Sorry if the above seems a bit extreme, but I once had a friend with an eating disorder and it destroyed her. She (like you) needed love from her partner not 'jokes'.
Take care, missus
2007-07-04 10:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Oliver C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you look in a mirror see all the good you have to give not what you yhink you see.look and see the beautiful person every body has in them.I had acne real bad and was heavier when i was younger.i got picked on.sure it botheredme but i knew that my friends still liked me for the way i acted and the fun we could have together.I learned to go out and the less i worried about what others thought about me the more i had fun,the more attractive i became.Would you want to look at a man in the corner with his friends who was always sad or the one enjoying himself and laughing.If your boyfriend is comparing you then tell him you are not going to be a size 5-6 or what ever size ever again ,dont want to be and if the size of the body is all hes looking at ,then he needs to move on.If my man ever compared me to anotherwomen joking or not because thats not something he should do at all i would look at him and say YOU think your good enough to attrack something like that heres your chance because im done with you.never let a mans word predict how you should feel about yourswlf.you know you are beautiful inside and out ,so dump his butt and go out there and prove it .
2007-07-04 10:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used to have an eating disorder... this is triggered when you think you are over weight. Your boyfriend is making you feel bad about yourself. Boyfriends are supposed to make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. Ask him to stop making these jokes and you may want to tell him of your past. If he still does not knock it off you need to get out of this relationship because it could prove to be bad for your health.
Remember your worth it
<3 Erica
2007-07-04 10:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by ducky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about this. You are definetly not fat whatsoever at only a size 10 when the british average is a size 16! Tell him this and let him know you can take a joke but jokes are meant to be funny and this kind of joke makes you feel hurt so that is not good. Don't make yourself ill again please be strong he does not mean i dont know how old he is but sometimes young guys dont know the limits or when to stop. please tell him how he is making you feel and tell him to stop. If he doest respect you and carries on, you are better off without him. But talk to him first. You are not being selfish at all, your health comes first. by making yourself ill it will mess your motabolism up for later on in life so please stop now and eat normally. make him listen and treat you as you desearve to be treated-and that is well. It's his job as your boyfriend to make you feel good, let him know this. Good Luck! x
2007-07-04 10:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like a complete moron,if i where you i would tell him to put up or shut up.To be honest it looks as though he is trying to get out of the relationship,in a round about way.If he was joking then the joke would have been over done with.Try having a go at his manhood and see how much he likes it?,then tell him its a joke.I doubt he would find it so funny.Remember no man is worth making yourself ill for.A real,true,man loves you warts and all.Dump him asap
2007-07-04 11:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by irene c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows that you used to be bulimic and he is taunting you with that even if he is joking around he is not worth it and it seems he doesn't care about your feelings. When you get all the answers sit down with him and show him what people have said to see if he will read them and take note that it's not on. and no you are not selfish for wanting it to stop he is for not caring about your feelings
2007-07-04 10:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he aint no oil painting himself and point out a few of his flaws see how he likes it. Your a size 10 and thats not fat is it. Tell him to f**k off and grow up
even better in front of his mates go on about how small his manhood is and he certainly doesnt know how to use it lol oh i have my evil head on today
2007-07-04 10:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't make yourself ill again. if you want to lose weight, do it safely and naturally. Its not worth it, if he can't love you for you, then you should move on anyway. and a size 10 is really not that big. Its quite disrespectful to compare you to someone else, talk to him about it, if he doesn't stop, it might be time to move on.
2007-07-04 10:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmph...
How about forgetting and forgiving, men say dumb things and sometimes they just don't mean it, guys are weirdos sometimes and you just have to forget about most of the time.
PS. If he starts getting to into it again, just tell him how you feel about him comparring you to other woman, every person is diffrent and theres always something a person doesn't like about them self.
-Hope that'll help!.
-becca<3
2007-07-04 10:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋