I am not a single parent but I am going out with a guy who has a son. He is not looking after his son and isn't financially supporting him either and he hasn't seen his son in about 2 years.
I just feel that it is wrong.
But I spose I shouldn't mess with other peoples business.
I think that he should offer financial support and look after his son and be a part of his life at least some of the tiime, like maybe the weekends.
It just feels wrong...
or am i being ignorant?
2007-07-04 00:01:11 · 21 answers · asked by liv_wiv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no you are right and it shows that you have morals . maybe you should think twice about going out with this guy cause he sounds like he does not have any morals and does not care about his son . do you really want to date someone who does not seem to care about his own child ? good luck.
2007-07-04 00:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being ignorant. If he does not start paying child support; later he can be sued for non-support (back payment).
Which will cost him more in the long run. And one day his son will be an adult; which he may want to then go see his child.
By then his son might have a disliking for him and not want anything to do with him. If he can have contact with his son he should try to do so. Other whys once his son is grown; his son will feel like his father is just another stranger like everyone else he will see walking down the street. I know that may seem cold for some people. But coming from experience; that is just the way it is.
2007-07-04 07:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tarlyng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abso,llutely not!
It is your business because he is your man. Is he a man? or is he a coward Theses are issues you need to make your business considering your in a relationship with him and possibly will have to know in thef uture . is he dependable? YOU MUST KNOW whether or not you can accept such behavior and/or beliefs of his. Better for you to know prior to experiencing. I would however suggest to him the views he so obviously is being blind to. Maybe he simply has not had anyone to inform him of different viewpoints. maybe he just believes things other than irresponsibility. Try to encourage the right things. You might even learn he has no chioice in the matter. whatever the case is. THIS IS YOUR BUSINESS. AND YOU NEED NOT FEEL INTRUSIVE! What about you? Is this guy dependable ? worthy? This is is your prime time to learn . before its all too late like most of us are unfortunate enough to experience.
Good Luck and god Bless
2007-07-04 07:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by JEM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not been ignorant that is wrong i was a single mum when i had my daughter and her dad dumped me cos i wouldnt have an abortion,however his mum knew that i was keeping it etc and i told him what id had when i had her and in the 4 yrs she has been on this planet she has not had a card,present.money,phone call etc she had sfa!!!!
luckily im engaged to a great guy who she calls daddy and she sees him every day,people who dont see there kids are the ignorant ones they produced that child its not the kids fault that they are here,he should at least give the mother some money to help with the kid even if he doesnt want to see the kid,but tell him to be prepared cos when his son is 18 he want answers from his so called dad
2007-07-04 08:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a single mum and it is so hard bringing up a child by yourself so he should somehow be involved and share some responsibility but having said that i think he should only get involved if hes going to commit to it and not as a one off else it will mess the kids head up big time!
2007-07-07 19:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Collins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and maybe he'll say yeah thats a good idea, i couldnt see a son with out his dad that would be like a daughter with out a mother idk what i would do if i never knew my mom. my mom has a kid that she never sees but she does pay child support and i told her dont you even wonder about here and she just shruged her soulders i know when she is 18 i am going to go lookin for her, ive always wanted a sister and when my mom gave her away to the dad i was really upset...i do have 2 step sisters but a half sister is actaully part of you...ya know. well i say just talk to him about it. GOOD LUCK
2007-07-04 07:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. My mum struggled as a single parent and my biological dad never gave her a penny and denied I was his even after DNA testing!
But the way I look at it is, it's his loss. He lost out on a daughter who's worked hard and got a decent education and is a pretty good person and he's also loosing out on what will probably be his first grandchild.
2007-07-04 07:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by adayinjanuary 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are right for it to feel wrong. I met a man who was the same with his son and it made me think that I didn't want to be with someone like that. The reson you are so concerned is because it is flagging up a huge difference between you.
2007-07-04 07:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tigger B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being very honest. about the guy you are going out with!
Naturally he should support financially, and as a Daddy, his two year old Son..
And it takes you to see this.... not Him!!!!
warning bells start to ring....
2007-07-04 08:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by susan8589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like BIG bills on the way from the new C S A ,are we talking about a man or mouse
2007-07-04 07:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by aslan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋