Ok i admit i am overweight...but i am working on it, but i hear all these girls sayting they arent shallow. Well first, I would always treat a gril as if they were a godess. I never treat a girl with disrespect. I do have alot of friends that are girls but they are never attracted to me. I am good listener, and if my friend that is a girl has a problem i will listen and try to make her feel bettter, but why wont they like me i dont understand. I would be really nice to them but all they will see me as is a friend
2007-07-03 22:55:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's OK... guy! Ya kindda kind-hearted guy! Anyway, I like a guy who is a kind-hearted! Don't ask other girls ask me why!!! I think I like ya!
Uherghm... feel better?
2007-07-03 23:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are friends with them and that's a really good start. You are closer to them than any of the other guys out there. Just be their friend for now. You are nice and they talk to you and ask advice and stuff so they trust your judgement and they already like you they just like you as their friend at the moment. Sometimes they will never see you as anything more than a friend. That doesn't matter. When you get a little older you will loose some weight and they will start finding you more attractive. It could also be that they like the relationship that they have with you at the moment and don't want to ruin it.
Hope I helped :)
2007-07-04 06:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by gottaluvme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot like I used to be, a real nice guy, the kind of guy that will always be only on the "just friends" side, I wised up and realized this:
If you treat a girl like a queen you are saying she is better than you, now traditionally girls want a strong guy they can rely on, (I don't mean mussels either)
Think about this how many hero movies have you ever seen were the hero gets the girl but is not worthy of the girl.
When we put a girl on a pedestal we make our selves as nothing but peasants, wouldn't a princes rather be courted by a prince than someone that grovels at her feet?
You are worthy act like you are worthy believe in your self worth, be a take charge guy with confidence, be that prince that the girl is looking for.
No prince ever put a princes on a pedestal he saw her and himself as equal, he always saw himself as more than worthy for her, and this attracted her.
Stop putting girls on a pedestal and start flirting with them, you will do much better and be a much stronger man, a man women take notice of and see as worthy of being a boyfriend.
2007-07-04 06:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Wade C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
overweight bit...no probs...bright side..you never buy a skinny matress! people you have been in a crowd for long time with are probably seeing you in friends light. relationships happen best when you are not looking for them. forget about how you think you look, concentrate on feeling good about yourself...self asteem and confidence are far more attractive than a perfect average shape/size. lets face it there are gorgeous looking people out there who would bore the pants off you after 5 minutes. what is attractive to you can be down right ugly to someone else. maybe you should try some sort of dating/singles club? dont fret honey, someone out there will love you as you are and how you want to be....just time will tell.
2007-07-04 06:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but if I were to relate to a fat guy, I would probably most likely just treat him as a friend also. Someone nice and respectful to have as a friend. I can imagine how you are and have met guys like you. Sorry to say but you need to work on getting the fat off and be slimmer because believe it or not, we live in a society that cares about looks and looks is everything sometimes more than personality unless you can find someone like you that can love you for your personality.
2007-07-04 06:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your time will come trust me. Keep working on your weight and your self esteem will rise and you will find you are giving off subconciously a more confident guy and a girl will pick it up. Its all about energy and what you are feeling on the inside will surely be felt without you realising it on the outside. So as of right now. I am good, I am attractive, I have alot to offer a girl, and I know I will attract the right one for me. So patience my friend patience and believe and it will come.
2007-07-04 06:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me your first problem is treating us girls as goddess.Some of us say that 'He's so bad ...not helping when we asked.' The thing is guys need to have pride and dignity. Helping girls do everything is not very good actually.However, the thing is that your girl friends might not like you but those observing might. Just take it naturally. And I don't think there's a need to change your attitude,looks or weight.If a girl falls in love because of look and not for who you are, I don't think it's true love.
2007-07-04 06:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know you're so right , ah i'm tired of it too , girls always say they are not shallow but when it come to reallity they blew it , i am a girl myself and someone recently (my so called bf) treated me like **** and you know i so much dislike that and so i think you are really a great guy to always respect girls that means a lot , but some people just don't come to realisation untill they get hurt , anyways i say keep it up like you are now dude and believe it that you are a great guy and be the way you are now , and those girls who just don't want to be more than friends are just shallow you will find someone who can appreciate you and your kindness
2007-07-04 06:07:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't knock friendship.
It's a nice way to start. And you might just be surprised what girls are willing to accept, and you might just be surprised that many girls probably do like you, just not in that way.
Don't try too hard. That's a turn-off. Relax, be yourself, and be a good friend. That will gain you a lot more than you think.
2007-07-04 06:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay off the KFC man and insread of telling the world this hop up off ya comp and exercise i aint takin the micky outta ya I was 150 pounds now in180 due to putting my mind to it think positive no luck in a year maybe a metabolism issue
2007-07-04 06:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw huni! Well if your friends that are girls know you as a friend they will probably only see you as that! The shallow girl thing splits both ways...! Try meeting some new people, just be yourself! Whatever happens, the fact that you know your a sweet hearted guy is enough! good luck <3
2007-07-04 05:59:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋