how long was it before you got engaged to your husband or wife. me and my bf have been together for 3 years now and was just wanting to now how long it was. i dont want to get married yet as were a still a little bit young am 21 and hes 20 but i woulds like to someday get married to my bf. but i havent got a proper ring really to show how much we love ahother. we have been living together for 2 years now. thanks
2007-07-03 22:46:55 · 55 answers · asked by shell 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm getting married next week and we will have been together for 7 years.
I think if you are only 21 you have plenty of time (I'm 35!!) just enjoy being together, You don't need a ring to show how much you love each other.
2007-07-03 22:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a ring on your finger to show how much you love each other. I met my husband when i was 13, started dating at 15, but didnt get engaged until i was 21. We then got married when i was 25 and are still togther now after 15 years in total of being together. I think you should get married when you are both ready to. If you feel you are going to be together for the rest of your lives anyway, why rush into anything? My husband and i enjoyed our time together and made sure he went away with the lads, i went away with the girls, etc. It's always good to keep parts of your lives separately with your friends, that way neither of you will ever feel you missed out or married too young. Just enjoy your life together and have fun. You are still so young, you should be thinking of going out and enjoying yourselves, marriage can come later on.
2007-07-03 22:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Scorps 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
SO in other words, you're a couple of kids playing house? How cute. My wife and I DATED for a year before we really started to get serious at the age of 23. When we were 24 we got engaged and we were married at age 25. I admire the fact that you admit that 21 and 20 is WAY too young to get married. Just not sure how I would feel as a father to know that my 21 year old daughter was living with a 20 year old guy.
2007-07-04 02:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lived with my now husband for 1.5 years before we married. I met him when I was 18 and he was 25. He was my first and still my only. As for a ring, You don't have to have a "proper" ring to show how much you love each other. I had a $7.00 ring from wally world. You will know when the time is right. We have now been married a little over 22 years and have a son (21) and a daughter (15). As for my rings, I now have the real thing.Good Luck !
2007-07-03 23:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by parnett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got together when I was 15 and he was 17. We dated for 2 years but broke up. He was at a college close by but was so busy and had no car (few campuses let freshmen park on campus). I was just about to go away to college at the opposite end of the state. As teenagers we were both smart enough to realize that if you love someone you want what is best for them. And getting a college degree is best--and his school was the best for his career and mine was the only one that offered my career field. If we were perfect for each other, we'd still be perfect after we graduated. If our love couldn't wait a few years, we weren't that perfect for each other.
So we were apart but still friends for 4 years, then got back together right around the time I graduated in 03. We dated for a year, started talking about engagement. We got engaged when I was 23 and he was 25, and I moved in with him. Usually we wouldn't move in together but the timing was right. I was looking for work and would hate to find a job and quit in a year (he lived 3 hours away). We were engaged for about a year and now married for 1 year.
All together we've known each other 10 yrs, and before we got married we had known each other for 9 years, dated for 3-4, and been engaged for 1.
As far as the ring thing--I had several proper rings that showed how much we loved each other. If you love jewelry, he should get you jewelry. It doesn't have to be an engagement ring. I had many interesting shapes and colors that showed how much he loved me. You are still young--no need to rush into an engagement. At only 20, he has a lot of changing still to do. Enjoy your youth. If he is perfect for you now--he'll still be perfect in a couple years.
2007-07-04 02:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Shell - I was with hubby 5 1/2 years before we got engaged, got married just after our 7th anniversary. We've been living together since about 12/18 months into the relationship. Youre very mature to be waiting - a lot of people see marriage as a wedding, fluffy dress, party & presents and dont think about what it means. Hugs x
2007-07-03 22:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband were together for over five years ( and living together for all of it give or take 4 weeks or so) before we got married and we always knew it was going to happen. If you want a ring the tell him but if you both know it was meant to be then wait till you are both ready to make the commitment. Trust me it is more than just a ring
2007-07-04 09:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly love is NOT about engagement rings and big weddings ! I met my husband mid January 1999 and we married mid July 1999, we knew instantly that we would be together forever. We had just 2 guests at our wedding, we spent our wedding night in a 2 man tent on the top of a mountain, my new husband built a fire and cooked us a meal which we eat under a moonlit sky, it was perfect in every way and if we were millionaires there is not one thing about it we would change. We still go on wonderful adventures and love each other more and more as time passes.
2007-07-04 04:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am not married yet but hope its still ok with me answering :o) Me and the otherhalf have been together for 2 a half years and living together for 2 and a half years too. He proposed 4 months ago.
When we get hitched next september we will have been together for over 3 and half years and will be 23 and 22.
Nice to hear about a happy couple rather than people complaining for a change :o)
2007-07-04 04:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by xred383x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the female has to take the first step In other words, modern day as it seems ASK HIM his intentions. You may not want to get married at present but also you do not want a relationship leading nowhere. After 3 years if he is unsure it's time to take a break. If he is sure then you make a committment and decide how long you both want to wait for the actual wedding day. Months or a few years at least you have a goal to work towards.If he is reluctant at this stage I would certainly have second thoughts.
2007-07-04 13:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋