My best friend is throwing a huge party on Saturday.
And it's mainly people I don't know too well or know at all. They're all going to be drinking.
I'm really introverted and thus this is really, really terrifying.
I'm useless at starting conversation and really shy, does anyone have any tips for ways I can cope?
P.S, my friend doesn't understand how I am having problems with this, she's not the understanding type.
2007-07-03 22:18:24 · 11 answers · asked by Blank 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
People love talking about themselves. Instead of allowing conversation to focus on you, which introverts don't enjoy traditionally, talk about the other person. Ask what they have been up to, any fun trips, ect. Make conversation.
2007-07-03 22:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the best ways to cope with such a situation is to offer to help the person throwing the party. It will allow you to participate in the activity and give you a role which usually decreases the need to make small talk and the pressure to "mingle" which can feel unpleasant. No one will notice you are introverted and you will be able to be in the thick of things without the pressure to find things to discuss and your girlfriend will be greatful for the assistance.
2007-07-04 10:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Opester 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are really uncomfortable with going, don't go! Or just go for a while and leave before things get out of hand. If your friend isn't willing to understand, she's not your friend. She can't make you stay at a party if you're uncomfortable.
2007-07-04 05:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im an introvert too.
plan A: bring a close friend.
plan B: find someone you know.
plan C: find someone who is lonely.
plan D: sit in the bar
plan E: pray.
2007-07-04 05:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by hamster-de-combat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly - I think it is a little late in the game to be coping - try some sedatives before the party....
then invest in therapy for it so you are better prepared for next time :)
2007-07-04 05:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wander around and look at things. Pick up something. Someone will eventually ask you a question, and when you look like you are having fun talking to one person, others will gather and get to know you. No problem. Be yourself.
2007-07-04 05:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you dont feel comfortable starting a conversation with people then, dont wait for someone to talk to you, and then just be yourself and avoid be in "the middle" of everything at the party and you should be okay
2007-07-04 05:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by SweetCherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Why put yourself in a position that is going to make yourself feel uncomfortable? Just to fit in with the Group? It is not worth it.
2007-07-04 05:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by KDII 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See shyness and social anxiety, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 9.
2007-07-04 09:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouls take someone close to u yo this party...I bet u wouldn t feel alone:):* GOOD LUCK
2007-07-04 05:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋