Fiance's controlling?

Question

me and my girlfriend have been dating 2 years, and are now engaged. when we first started dating i met her through a mutual friend and one of the first things she told me was that she wasn't one of those controlling women and would never take my friends away from me. so probably once a week me and my friends would hang out. after awhile she started getting mad and said well it's just i don't like you drinking. so i said ok i'll stop drinking. (mind you i'm not an excessive drinker anyway). then it turned to well i just don't like your friends, so after awhile i started hanging out with my other group of friends. then it turned to well thats our time, and i work night shift 7 to 7 so on my nights i have to work she goes out with her friends. and we've gotten in the argument severel times about my friends and it never ends pretty and she says she can hang out with her friends cause i'm at work and it's not our time. but i said listen my life consists of work, sleep

and staying home with you. i need my guy time. but like i said she doesn't understand and won't. she starts crying and makes wierd statements and always gets her way. i love her to death and i would never leave her but this is getting ridiculous, i mean she can be the most awsome person, but she just gets so jealous of me hanging out with my friends i don't know what to do i havn't seen them in months and i was lucky to see them once a month before that.

Answer 1

Sit down and discuss the problem Tell her that you only have so much time left after working. Tell her that you are a human too. Tell her that you need time to spend with both her and your friends. Tell her that it is unfair of her to expect you not to have time for your friends, or anything else you need to do besides be with her. Ask her how she would feel if the situation was reversed.

In short, tell her that all of your off time is not "our time". Some of it is "my" time (meaning yours) too!!! Don't let this continue to happen now or you will be dealing with it the rest of your life. No one changes from being controlling after they get married. They remain what they are, regardless of what they tell you they will do!!