how can women be alone?

Question

I do believe that being a woman you do not have to worry much about being alone. if you look around, most lonely people, some who even live their entire lives alone and never know love, intimacy of friendship are men. Society also judges women much less harshly. It is not always a choice for men to be alone. Most women have so many friends that they "chose" to be alone. Such is a priveledge of being a woman it seems I guess. I am an artist and I have worked very hard in my life. Yet, I am alone and have been alone as long as I can remember. What hurts is being dejected , rejected and looked over because of some of the most superficial things. What I hold in my mind is seen as worthless, such is the reality of being a man who does not fit the mold. I sit and watch people. I see women involved with men who are abusive but they would still chose a abusive worthless man over a man with ambitions and passion. It seems that $$$ is all that matters

Answer 1

Instead of going around with a long face, try putting on a smile and be interested in the other person. Say hello and ask a question or for some advice about anything. Choosing to be alone is preferable to being with someone clingy or sad or mopey and drags you down. The reason women put up with abusive men is that often they are very charming people who take advantage of that fact and then make outrageous demands. When someone is sweet and funny and nice, people are drawn to them. If you are looking to meet women, you need to have male friends, too. Two men out together having fun look more appealing than a mopey guy in the corner.

Answer 2

I don't know where you live, but where I live I see more women that jump into relationships or marriage because they can't stand to be alone. Some of the women that marry the abusive men fall into that category of fear of being alone. I have been married before and I have been single. I was single until I was 27 years old and then married for about 5 years, then single again. I have had wonderful times in both marriage and being alone. I have a brother who is 39 years old and has never found that special person, but he is still happy in his job, his family, his friends, and his hobbies. He is alone, but he is happy. I have an uncle who is almost 60 years old and he has never married. He also is a happy man. Either one of these men would be just as happy to be with someone and have someone such as a wife to share their joys, but they have also come to the realization that whether they meet someone or not, they have to live their life. If love happens, it happens. If it doesn't happen, then you had better have love for yourself and enjoy the life that you have. If you are being rejected for superficial things then you are with very superficial people. Try to find someone who isn't superficial there are men and women out there that really don't care what you look like or how much money you make, they care about what is in your heart. Don't give up hope, but don't be in a rush to find someone either. I knew a couple that were both single most of their life. They met each other when he was 81 and she was 75. They married and are still going strong and have a love for life!! They are always holding hands and have even been caught skinny dipping together. Don't waste your talent or your time worrying about being alone. Just have fun and love life and life may love you back.

Answer 3

"Society judges women alot less harshly"? Huh?

Well, this is definitely a case of "the grass is always greener". Where in the world did you get the idea that women are judged less harshly? If only you could be a woman for about a week - after the novelty wears off - then you would see that women are always "on show" whether we like it or not. Men and women judge women over their bodies, how they run their lives, if they're "good mothers", if they can take care of others, if they're sexy enough, thin enough, fat enough, wear the right clothes. Geesh! Most women can't walk out the front door without having some fool cry "Hey, sexy" or "Oooooh, you look hot, baby" or whatever.
Women NEVER have a moment (unless we create it) to just be accepted for who we are.
We can be Nobel or Pulitzer prize winners, yet some idiot will critique our wardrobe our hair-do. Hilary Clinton, anyone?

So, don't assume that anyone else has it any "easier".

I will tell you the reason why you are alone and not by choice. From reading your writings above, you have the symptoms of depression. Go get counselling and possibly some medication and change your outlook.
You are seeing the world extremely negatively and it just isn't worth it. Life is precious and short and YOU have the choice of how you live it.
If you want love in your life, then love yourself. If you want romance in your life, then BE the person you would want to spend time with.
My friend, money has nothing to do with it. Nothing.

Answer 4

You think society judges women less harshly for being alone than men? They have a word for men..bachelors, what word do they have for women? Especially women alone and childless? I know about being alone, If your anything like me, and I am an artist too, you see things differently than others. And perhaps that makes a person feel alone. I don't keep a group of superficial girlfriends, I am a dreamer, and it seems in this world today, dreamers, romantics, and honest lovers are hard to come by. I don't think it has anything to do with being male or female, we are all different, we all have different ideals on how life should be. My existance alone proves you wrong ;)

Yes loving is a painfull thrill, but not to love more painfull still,
But Oh, it's the worst of pain!
To love an not be loved again.

Answer 5

I am a thirty year old woman, and I am alone. I don't want a man with money, I want a man who shares my values. But when I think I've found such a man, he wants me to be beautiful, slim, and tall. Don't tell me that men have it easier - men can look like what they please, they aren't judged and discarded because of what they were born with, and they don't have a use by date of fourty (or so society says.) The bottom line is you can make money, but you can't make yourself taller or more beautiful (plastic surgery is not 'beauty.') I agree with another poster that you sound depressed - you are a valuable human being, and as soon as you realise that, and start putting yourself out there, you'll meet like minds. Then dress with care, make the woman you're with feel like the only person in the world, be generous with your feelings (which is more important than your wallet), strive to be the best you can be, always want to learn, and you'll be streets ahead of 90% of single men.

Answer 6

Hi, being an artist is being very sensetive, men and women are both the same,they can both live the same and how they choose try to mingle among people,egnore the ones who don't aprove what you do,superficial things,women are not always abusied and if so can always leave (speaking as a woman,), and ses is not everything in life friendship is.

Answer 7

money doesn't matter and yes sometimes we do get caught up with the bad boy, although when we realise how bad they are it's not always easy to get away. I escaped after 14 years and found an intelligent, sweet, gentle, passionate and funny man who is also very driven and ambitious. We both had nothing when we got together and our families help us enormously. All we both had was our clothes, as i was living back with my mum and he was living with a friend. We are blissfully happy and I would not swap him for any amount of money or riches as he gives me everything I need, love, respect, trust, friendship.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

im a woman who is on my own,i choose to be,i had one man walk out on me at 36 weeks pregnant,then i happened to marry a compulsive liar,not knowing of course.in the middle of all that was two kids.so rather then get hurt or muck it up again im happy with the kids for now.and i feel sorry for the women stuck in abusive relationships makes me realise how lucky i am.

Answer 10

I guess I am from a different world because I would never tolerate any men be physically abusive to me. Believe me, $$$ helps a lot but it is not everything.