Recently this guy (I'm 18 btw) who is 27 just asked me out while at work and I TOTALLY taken by it! He is really handsome, a complete dream guy! But I really cant get my head around it and he asked me in front of my friends who i also work with so bit embaressing! Apparently he has liked me for a while and only now had the nerve to ask me. It was a totally out of the blue scene but I think he must have noticed me gorping at him! Anyway he really is handsome and wants us to date. He lives far away and hopes I can live with him in future. Thing is... I really cant believe it and feel quite outclassed he is better educated, better looking, etc... etc... I mean I just was really gob smaked I asked him to repeat 3 times and just stared at him for 20 seconds when he asked the first time! I'm really just a common girl. OMG!! How do i handle this dream offer?
HELP!!!
2007-07-03 20:21:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it, but with your eyes wide open, don't wear rose tinted glasses.
Find out about what he is like as a person, he might be very nice, but he might just want you for sex, or as a stop gap if he has just come out of another relationship, or he may really want you to live with him, but not as an equal but as a replacement mother he can have sex with.
Enjoy it but be careful.
2007-07-03 20:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by malcolm g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well keep in mind you can't be all that blah how you say just a common girl there is something he see's in you. So go on the date and be yourself dont' act like something your not he's picked you for reasons he likes he's probably watched you for a while and maybe your different from the kinds of girls he meets. dont' be insecure with yourself either . Just because he may be more educated in some areas doesn't mean your a bimbo. talk about something you know . and down the road its always good to learn new things and he may open you up to other things you hadn't seen or knew before. but you will also have things to bring to the table for him im sure that he may not have in his life.
So go with the flow and just enjoy each others time and conversation. And don't do anything you'd regret later specially if you know he lives far away. you may not be able to see him on a regular basis beside you need toget to know him better anyways and down the line you can decide then if he's legit or not.
but dont' be all giddy or silly either. Just be calm and you can stay excited on the inside but be yourself the person he is use to seeing at work. don't go all ga ga over him he wants im sure someone who can carry a conversation too.
2007-07-03 20:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you ask for.
Take your time and get to know him, just as you would any other guy. Men, like that, generally have a series of expectations. They are not used to being told "no" ever. You need to create boundaries, and set up an agreement if you decide to live your life with him.
Also, be sure to check into his back ground to see if he is married now, has been married before, or if he has children. All of those situations can cause big problems.
Just don't rush into anything!!! Don't be naive!!! Find someone older that you trust to meet this guy and evaluate the situation before you get too deep in.
What you see is not always what you get. Wolves do roam around in sheep's clothing.
Good luck. I hope that he is your knight in shining armor!!
2007-07-03 20:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naturally go for the date. But please dont sound so desperate in front of him. Dont make him think that he can take you for granted already. Secondly, I am amazed as to he has already mentioned for you guys to stay together in future even b4 you have been on your first date. Looks, education etc is fine. But you have to know him as a person for further commitement. So get to him, dont just bob your head at everything he says. If you find him to be a good and genuine person then jackpot! else just enjoy your dates!
2007-07-03 20:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by All Aces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to accept it. Why are you even asking us?
Just be careful about moving in with him. That's a huge step.
Now sit back and watch all the other commenters hammer you on the age difference.
2007-07-03 20:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mike M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really happy for you.
I know this may give a down side, but he's 27 right... Make sure he's not hiding the fact that he may be married, kids etc, I'd hate this to turn out to be nothing more than a sordid affair, it can happen, so please be sure.
2007-07-03 20:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, for you it is easier because he is the one with the money. If it were the other way around it would be harder because women seek security and guy that can take care and help out. He can do that for you easy, he likes you, he wants you. If he felt your were below him, he would not have asked you out. We are all the same, you are as good as anyone else, you go for him! ;-D
2007-07-03 20:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wade C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound's like he just wants to score. I'd be careful....
...and another thing...THIS is your wildest dream come true? You should think about that statement. Like, wouldn't winning a $300 million dollar lottery be even wilder? You'd have guys like this guy wanting to date you camping out behind the gates of your obscenely huge mansion on your vast estate.
2007-07-03 20:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by truthbeknown 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have what he wants and if he has what you want why not. Come on he would be lucky to go to bed with 18 year old when he is 27. I do not think it well last but have fun and do not get pregnant.
2007-07-03 20:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you staring at him for 20 seconds and asking him to repeat himself didnt put him off so dont worry about it.
Just be yourself and see where it goes.
2007-07-03 21:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by futuretopgun101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋