My husband hates my dogs II?

Question

The dogs in question are two, one is a mini poodle 5lbs about 9 years old and the othet one is a Chinese Crested 10.bs. The reason my husband says he od'd on animals is because I ran an animal rescue for years, mostly litters of orphaned puppies and kittens, we had a lot of animals in our home, botle feeding and getting up in the middle of the night. Some got sick (Parvo) so, my husband and I attended to the sick puppies as well. We recently separated and one condition on us trying to work things out was NO MORE rescue. I agreed, and found homes for my 7 cats and one large dog (very painful) so, now I only have my two little dogs, but he doesn't want to see their food, if they get near him he gets upset, and he wants them out of our room. I love animals and this is very hard because I would like things to work out with my husband.

Answer 1

I would find someone more tolerable of these poor creatures that need help. If he can't accept the good, animal-loving person you are, you need to find someone who will. I know it's hard, but imagine how happy you'd be if you found someone who felt the same as you? A true animal lover doesn't "OD" on dogs.

Answer 2

I can see your husbands point about animals overwhelming your relationship. It is wise that you no longer do rescue work at this time. You both need a break so you can work on your marriage.

The poodle that you have left will not be around much longer, 9 years old is getting up there in years. Make your husband understand that when the poodle is gone it will not be replaced. Hopefully he will understand that. You did not mention the age of the other dog. Tell your husband that you will be keeping this dog too until it passes away from natural causes. Then promise him that there will be no more pets in the house. This is a good compromise. (If this Chinese Crested dog is very young, you might have to find a home for it, I'm hoping it is an older dog for your sake, it is not good to have animals if one partner is not happy about it.) Good luck.

Answer 3

I understand why you want to work this out and I somewhat understand why your husband is upset with the animals in your house. I have to say, doing rescue work is very admirable, but many husbands have a hard time dealing with all the animals...maybe it's jealousy...maybe it's the fact that their are just too many animals in the house. Whatever it is...you are trying to work out your marriage and if this is what will work, I am all in support of it...however, your husband also needs to understand our needs....you love to care for animals. It's in you and there is no way that will leave you. He should respect that and understand you still need animals in your life. I'm no therapist, but I think your husband needs to compromise. You need animals in your life and he should compromise since you have already given many of your animals away. All I can say is good luck!

Answer 4

Unfortunately, I think you may need to make a different decision here. If your husband really loves you, there will be some kind of compromise to keep you together. It sounds like he is not even willing to do that. If your interests and beliefs are that different, it is probably already over. Don't give up what you believe in and want to do just because of him. It will make you unhappy in the end. There are plenty of men out there who love animals and think the way you do.

Answer 5

Hi:

However much any one of us may love dogs, we must also respect that some people do not. After having worked with dogs for 20 years, and thousands of dog owning families, my advice is this. Try to keep your dogs out of your husbands hair. Let your husband grow to enjoy your dogs on his own time in his own way. Even the most hard hearted dog hater can grow to love our canine pals if they are allowed to do so in their own way. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. This is a great truth. Give your husband some space away from the dogs, and see what wonderful things absence will bring.

Adam
http://www.puppywishes.com

Answer 6

Forget your husband, if he doesn't appreciate what you love then maybe he doesn't love you! (I hope I don't sound harsh!). I would choose the dogs over a person because I believe dogs have feeling just like humans! I love doggies! Why did you get back with him, you should find a new husband that appreciates your love for rescue animals!

Remember, there is always someone perfect for everyone! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Is it possible that he was really emotionally attached to the rescued dogs and suffered when some died? Maybe he's just trying to protect his heart against more hurts. Be patient...if he loves animals, he will learn to trust your little dogs and know that they will be around for a long time. Good luck!

Answer 8

Because this is a fairly serious issue, I would suggest trying to find a nice marriage counselor. I am firmly of the belief that whether or not your marriage is in trouble (which it doesn't sound like it is necessarily), you can benefit from counseling (a GOOD counselor that you BOTH like). A good counselor can help you compromise and maybe figure out what is really bothering him. Oftentimes what we think is bothering us, isn't what is really bothering us (hope that makes sense!). Good luck!

Answer 9

at first i was like
geeez just get rid of the animals so your husband will be happy
but if he cant accept two little dogs
knowing that you love animals or what not thats really selfish of him
i dont know what to say about that
but you're not in the wrong. you gave up all those other animals and he's still not happy
and theyre small!!

Answer 10

Don't break up, but don't give up animals because of that reason, animals are sweet and its great that you love them we need more people like you. Try to work things out.