i have a bf and he is in the USA and i'm in the Phil.we have a constant communication for 11 months but on the 12th month it suddenly became not that constant anymore i asked him several times why he doesnt call me that much but he just answered me that he's busy,tired or have a migraine..but i just dont get it...and i got a feeling that his ex-gf also in the USA has been trying to get him back.wat made me feel hurt was when i checked my friendster account and found out that his ex-gf viewed me and saw her picture with my bf's niece and it seems it was taken recently...plesae help.. what will i do??? ilove him so much but im hurt as well.....
2007-07-03 18:32:26 · 8 answers · asked by roxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sorry it sounds like he does not feel the same for you --- long distance can work if you are both serious and get together as soon as possible ---- best wishes
2007-07-03 18:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think LDR's are so hard. My most recent girlfriend was a half an hour away, and during the school year with homework, football, and family it was so hard to see her. She was pretty busy too, she had her athletic events and the like. It also didn't help that I didn't have my driver's license. Your boy is GUD: Geographically UnDesirable. A year is a really long time not to see someone on a regular basis, or even on an irregular basis. Honestly, you might want to start looking elsewhere. I know you feel a deep connection to your man, but you two might not be meant for each other. There really isn't much you can do but talk to him and tell him how you feel, and get ready to move on to bigger and better things. Remember, you shouldn't have your entire world of happiness based on any one person. Even married couples need friends and family to get everything out of life, and you can find the same connection again, only it will be better because you will actually see him face to face and spend quality time with him.
2007-07-04 01:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it step by step. For a year me and my boyfriend were miles apart NJ to VA. Same things you said and the relationship was not feeling real anymore however we took a break for a year and about 2 years later we are back together and growing together. Long distance relationships can be hard but when you know each others families & friends and are in contact with each other, trust and love is what really matters. Unity. If you love him, let it flow.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails." (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8).
2007-07-04 01:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. I know it hurts and it will for some time. Passion like that is not turned on and off like a faucet. But you must close the book on this chapter of love life.
He has moved on. Long Distance relationships can not last. I know from past experience. You will find another. Now go grieve and move on. he is not the one. Focus that energy on healing and starting new,.
2007-07-12 01:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i m sorry to break this to u but i think it's over between u guys.....if he doesn't want to talk to u that's mean he is up to something due to the fact u guys talk so much before. Believe me i know what u going thur.......i have been in a long distance relationship for 16 months and i just got dumped. I was really hurted too. I begged and begged her to come back to me but she didn't. Now, i m a sad lonely guy. She won't take me back and i missed her dearly but i still have to accept the fact that is over between us. Everyone is tell me to move on so maybe u should get urself ready cause u guys may not last. My advice is call him and ask him what's really going on? If he lied to u then he is not worth it. If u want someone to talk to just add me to ur list.......because i know what u going thur now........i don't mind helping someone who is going thur the same thing as me.......Hope things work out better for u then it did for me
2007-07-04 01:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by sad guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry hunny but distant relationships NEVER work out =[ if u guys havnt seen eachother for a long time then thats wuts probably making him loose interest in you maybe u should just let go before he hurts u
2007-07-04 01:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get over him. if its long distance then it probably wont last no matter what. find someone in person who will be true to u.
2007-07-04 01:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by KelSexyBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try to call him to make sure things? try to talk about it .
I guess that way it will be much better and secure, reliable (since it's not based on your guessing skill.. ) :)
2007-07-04 01:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Confused.. :( 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋