My mom is a single mother raising 3 teenage girls: 18, 15, and 13. Our family has a lot of issues, and I've been therapy since I was around 11 years old. Recently, my mom told me that she no longer enjoys motherhood and doesn't want the responsibilities of being a mother anymore. What does this mean? She's even talked of suicide before. I try to give her a break and be understanding, because I can see what a toll raising 3 kids on her own with a full-time job is taking on her. What can I do?!
2007-07-03 18:19:20 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh, my mom's on anti-depressants. I don't know how much more we could do in terms of therapy and medication.. =(
2007-07-03 18:31:18 · update #1
She has told that cause she es naturally exceeded. Too much work. But she doesn t mean it. I have said that sometimes. But not really feeling what I said. She has already demostrated all of you that she was able to raise you all by herself. Sometimes we get tired . But she will overcome everything because for sure she love you the most.
Soon you will grow up, and able to help . For now, make the best with your own life, studies, behavior, helping as you can in house works. And be nice and a loving daughter. Surprise her when you can with something u know she likes. Little things of course. Tell her you love her or write a note for her. Prepare a good reception when she comes back at night. Set the table, put a flower, . And try to share all your worries with the whole family. You all should share your feelings. And most of all every night pray for her and the family to Jesus or angels whatever your beliefs are, Tell God what you want and your worries and ask Him whatever you need for yr Mom and sisters. He will listen! I" ll do it for you too. A hug! (I send angels too to take care of all)
2007-07-03 18:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by nikkita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mums say things they really don't mean in the heat of the moment- I know from my own experiences. Sounds to me like your mum needs a bit of a break though, a relaxing holiday where you can all go together to get away from the stresses of home. Though if your having financial problems then that might not be too easy, why not try getting everyone out of the house for a few hours and set your mum up a nice dinner and a spa and then a movie or something?
2007-07-04 01:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by chickitita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed. And when you are depressed, what you say and do is out of your control. Try to remember this and not take her words personally. The depression is speaking, not her heart. You must try to get some help for her. She cannot do this alone. Talk to someone at school that you trust, or another family member. They can help you find the right course of action. Talk to your mother too. What is your relationship with her like? She may need to hear that she has been a good mother. (Has she been?)
2007-07-04 01:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she loves you all im sure, but shes seems like shes too stressed and can't handle things anymore. I think it's a horrible thing to say 2 your children that you don't want to be a mother anymore. Maybe it would help if you just give her some alone time and behave to let her relax a bit. Tell her she is stupid for even thinking about suicide cause she has all the reasons in the world to live for (three children). remind her that their are always people who's lives are worse than hers and she is lucky. you all have 2 be strong and support her with her stress and that could help you too.
2007-07-04 01:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is likely depressed. She's "checking out." It sounds like your mother should see a therapist to help her get back on track. She may need to see a doctor about getting on an antidepressant.
I am guessing that she's not having any fun....has no social life. She needs some good female friends to talk to once in awhile.
Imagine yourself going to school from 7 to 4:30. Then, you come home and have to make dinner for your family...maybe clean or do laundary, pay bills...etc etc. She probably feels stretched very thin and would like to time to herself...time to relax...
2007-07-04 01:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by luvpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom could use some therapy too. Maybe family counseling would be in order. I can't even imagine trying to raise 3 kids on my own! I hope you all get the help that you need.
I wish you well.
2007-07-04 01:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. Thats pretty harsh. Your mother just sounds very overwhelmed and she needs some help. I don't think it means she doesn't love you though. Get her some help. Talk to an adult that you trust and let them know what is going on. If your mom is talking about suicide then she is unable to handle the stress in her life and just needs a helping hand. Good luck to you.
2007-07-04 01:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cathrine K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well hun your mom has THREE teenagers... She loves you guys she is just emotionally drained. Maybe you can sit and talk to her and ask her how was her day. you girls start taking a real interest in her day. Give her more breaks. Do dishes, clothes. cooking. I hope she is able to get her joy back soon....You too......
2007-07-04 01:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say cut on arguments, help clean or yardwork, or anything extra, like breakfast in bed. plus a warm cup of tea or coffee really gets you ready for the day and relaxes you. just make her happy and even do things that have to be done without her telling you. if she does tell you dont make her scream 5 times. that leads to arguments. keep on top of your rooms. give her some space. and be nice about it.
2007-07-04 01:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on the "Girls and Boys Town" website and locate the
"Girls and Boys Town National Hotline" number and email.
They have the trained professionals to help you with this.
2007-07-04 01:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋