My boyfriend took a job out of town for a year. His 20 year old twin sons live with me but I do not like it. If he is making "GOOD" money with this job shouldn't he put them up in a place of their own?
2007-07-03 17:04:40 · 10 answers · asked by left alone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes ask them to leave. Theres no reason you should be supporting 2 able bodied grown men. They are old enough to be on their own.
2007-07-03 17:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes especially since both of the boys are 20 yrs old. They can both work, move out, support themselves on their own. If this job is making "good" money then either send the boys his way or make him deal with it, its his boys, his responsibility, his problem, NOT yours, he cant just leave behind his 20 yr old boys-which should be working, going to school and living together in their own place, not living with their dads girlfriend don't you think thats kind of odd?? It sounds like he's using you. Why didn't he take his boys with him? Why aren't his boys in college? There are grants out there if they don't have money so he cant say that. get them out of there asap its not your responsibility to take care of HIS boys. If you get desperate and have no place to go you can always look into sending them to either www.jobcorps.com or www.teenchallenge.com - both programs are great, giving them an education, a residence based program, includes medical care and everything else they need as well while they stay there of course. The program also gets them on their feet teaches them morals and about life good luck!!
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2007-07-04 00:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by kittykat05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend then his sons will have to leave by (you pick a date)
Then you tell them the date you decided they have to be gone.
I wouldn't want them living with me either....he can help them pay rent on their own place if money is an issue.
2007-07-04 00:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ask them to leave, their 20 years old they should be living on their own or atleast he should be putting them somewhere. their not your children you shouldnt have to take care of them while hes working out of town for a year.
2007-07-04 00:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by sk8tergurl1405 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow- a whole year he expects you to deal with them living with you- does he pay for all your living expenses?
If so, then that's part of a bargain- if not, then that's taking advantage of you!
2007-07-04 00:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lynnette_is_a_Lovely_Latina! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should starting make plans for his sons, they are not
your responsibility they are his. and he need to step up and
handle his business or you need to look at letting them know
that they need to go live with there father.
2007-07-04 00:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That decision is entirely up to you. I wouldn't want them living with me either. Why can't they take care of themselves?
2007-07-04 00:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did they live there before he left? was there a deal made? if not, then it's time for them to go.
2007-07-04 00:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do what i've been doing and sleep with my hubbys son.
2007-07-04 00:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by binibining pilipina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss that with your man.
2007-07-04 00:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋