I was having dinner with my Grandparents the other night, and we started talking about death. I asked Grandma "What do you think it would feel like to get shot in the head? Like, would you feel the pain instantly, or would it linger?" My Grandmother smiled politley and said she didn't know. But I have this morbid fascination with death, so I persisted in asking more. "But Grandma, like- how would it feel to get shot?" My Grandfather finally said "Sometimes I believe the body just shots down. So you would feel a slight pain, but then you would die." I said "Wow, really?" And sighed with a satisfaction I get when someone tells me about death and how it feels. Ten minutes later into our dessert, when Grandma asked me to pass the cheesecake, I said "Grandma, I heard this guy was eaten by a lion. How would it feel to get eaten? Like, would you smell your own guts?" My Grandmother slammed her fork down and said "Will you STOP that please?!" I was shocked. My Grandfather told me also to stop.
2007-07-03 16:58:15 · 12 answers · asked by mrs sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I couldnt' believe they got upset. My Grandmother continued by saying, "This is a very inappropriate and disgusting conversation. Now stop asking me those stupid questions!" I was very upset, so I called my Grandmother a biiitch. I stood up and said "You old whhore. I hope you drop dead, and then tell me how it feels!" Well, no joke...she healed over and had a heart-attack. She didn't die, but she's in the hospital now. My Grandfather refuses to speak to me, saying I have a sick mind in asking questions about death, and that I also had no right to call his wife the b-word. Whatever, they should have answered my questions. Am I to blame here, or not?
2007-07-03 17:00:16 · update #1
most definitely!!! How dare you talk to your grandparents that way!!! Just b/c she didn't want to take part in a very odd conversation. I mean, they were trying to eat a peaceful dinner and you're talking about smelling your own guts when you die?!? How sick is that?!? It is so your fault it is not even funny. Go buy your grandmother the biggest boaquet of flowers you can find and beg her to forgive you. You'll be damn lucky if she does you ungrateful b****!!!
2007-07-03 17:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Valerie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely you are to blame!!! You're old enough to know that certain conversations would not be comfortable around older people - death, sex, etc. You showed NO social understanding when you had the conversation w/ your grandparents. Obviously they showed signs they were uncomfortable w/ the conversation but instead of just stopping and talking about more pleasant things that they would enjoy, you continued and then had the nerve to get mad when they politely asked you to stop. Your fascination with death is not normal. You were very rude w/ the things you said to your grandparents. Haven't you ever heard of having RESPECT for your elders you CHUMP? You disrespectful spoiled brat. I can't believe you brought on your grandmother's heart attack and dont even feel guilty!! I don't blame your grandfather for not speaking to you - you're a disrespectful little SH*T!
2007-07-04 00:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will go against the crowd here on this one... You are not to blame for her heart attack.
I am in my late 30's so I have a bit of life experience to say that you are not to blame for the heart attack.
I do agree with some of the others about your disrespect in pushing the subject. She asked you to stop and you didn't. In life you will need to learn that it is not all about you and respect for other people is a GREAT quality to display.
I hope your Grandma is alright and you can mend the relationship. I hope you, and she and your grandfather or anyone else for that matter doesn't blame you. YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME FOR THE HEART ATTACK. For all any of us knows (God knows the truth) she would likely have had it anyway... even if the conversation was wonderful!
Why don't you read some of the New Testament of the Bible... it explains much about death.
Blessings to you. And to your Grandma.
PS I just went and read your profile... maybe you should re-read what you wrote and try to live by your standard you said about yourself. Be the best you can be in all that you do!
2007-07-04 01:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are guilty as charged! You have to be considerate of others and their feelings, and the fact you wished evil upon your grandmother is all the more reason. It seems to me that your obsession with death is not a spiritual level, but physical, that you take pleasure in other's anguish, which is disturbing to most. You have issues in which you need to discuss with an expert.
P.S. It seems to me that something is missing in your life. Also, my advice don't talk about things of mutilated graphic detail to people you know don't share the same point of view!
2007-07-04 00:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by R.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you behaved very bad. You were very mean to them. Sure you have the right to talk about death. But not in the dinner table. That is not acceptable.
Is normal that elderly people doesn't want to talk about that topics such as death, because death is near to them than you. I'm sure when you get old you will not like to talk about those things.
You were very rude, and you don't have the right to insult older people. You should apologize to them. You can't blame them if they don't want to see you or talk to you.
If I were them I wouldn't want to see you neither again.
You are sick on your mind and have issues. See a doctor.
2007-07-04 00:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by david27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my! you is so rude! how can you talk to your own grandparents like that. You're so childish and immature. Who wouldnt be grossed out if you're talking about death and guts while you're eating maybe you aint grossed out cus you act like an animal! Learn to be respectful !
2007-07-04 00:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by honeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true you have an urgent need to get some counseling. You persisted in morbid conversations with old people who have accepted their own mortality and then scream names at them and say you hope they die AND THEY ARE YOUR GRANDPARENTS????????????????????????????????????????????
2007-07-04 00:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offense, but yeah. It's ok if you talk about death, but totally not at the dinner table. and not about your guts and all, that was just weird...
2007-07-04 00:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that was a bit extreme...............ermm....your grandmother had a bit of a rite to say no to answering your questions and calling her a whore and a ***** probably didnt help. no offence but yes you are to blame here....
2007-07-04 00:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one disrespectful grandson. I wonder if that is the way you treat everybody around you.
2007-07-04 00:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋