Homosexuals adopting children! Why?

Question

Hey, can someone please explain why homosexuals are allowed to adopt kids as it defies all logic.

Studies show, that kids brought up by solely a women or just a man are worse off emotionally, and do worse in school, generally speaking, than kids that come from a convential family.

Regardless if you believe in god or not, children can only be concieved by a man and a women - not two men, it wasn't intented like that.

Now, you can't say that this is discrimination. To illustrate this with an analogy, the best man for the job is the man who gets the job.
Why should the child be disadvantaged, there are queques of people wanting to adopt children and not enough children to go around, why should homosexuals get the kids when as statistics show, they are not best suited to the job. The childs best interests should be taken into account. THIS IS NOT DISCRIMINATION.

Some homosexuals may argue, that they are tender and intune with their feelings enough to substitute a womens role

In the childs upbringing. But lets face it, even if you have an operation to remove your penis and take hormones to grow a D cup, your still a man! The child will just grow up confused about his/her gender and that of the male/female role in society. It’s not fair to do that to a child!
What do you think? And no. I’m not flaming the homosexual community. I’m just telling the truth- traditional couples are much suited to the job and should therefore get that job. What do you think?

Okay, I've rea some of your answers. Yes, som hetrosexual families are messed up. But so are some homosexual families. Just becase you are gay doesn't mean you are not abusive. When people come to adopt, they can only be seen on face value, i.e. what you can see from just looking at them.
Taking that into consideration, and the obvious fact that, gerneally speaking, kids do better with a male and female parent, gays should not b allwed 2 adopt. Where I live there are more ppl wanting 2 adopt than kids up for adoption.

Answer 1

Yea they do do better and they shouldn't have to put up with them. I understand where u r goin, but maybe if they child stays there a while like maybe a month, and if they like it, then they should be allowed to stay. after all, even u would want kids if u were gay. I'm not either but I want kids.

Answer 2

How many people do you know who are gay or lesbian? If a child is raised by a loving couple why does it matter what gender they are? I used to work with a woman who has 2 very well behaved children. She is a wonderful mother and the kids do great in school. They are a happy, well-adjusted family. She has raised these two children with her lifetime female partner. Should these two women and these two children not have the privilege of being a happy family because one of the parents doesn't have a penis? And if both parents had a penis should that disqualify them from lovingly raising happy, healthy children?

Don't put too much stock in statistics. They're often manufactured to tell the tale that certain groups want told. Base your decisions and beliefs on actual fact. You're only 16. You have a lot of living to do yet. I hope that one day you change your mind and learn to accept all people for who they are on the inside and not what they look like or who they sleep with.

Answer 3

THIS IS DISCRIMINATION! Being married, single, gay, straight or bi-sexual will not matter when raising kids if you are a good person, and pass down good morals and values. Kids are open minded and adaptable, and can thrive and do well in many environments, when they are giving proper nurturing, balanced discipline, and have their needs met emotionally, the possibilities are endless. Since when does sexual orientation matter to a child? They don't even understand the concept. By the way, some "conventional families" are really messed up! Everyone is different, and should be delt with on an individual basis when adopting children.

Answer 4

I think any child adopted by any couple who has love to give is a lucky child. Look at the foster care system and tell me a child wouln't be much better raised in a home with love to give than be tossed around the system thier whole life. Before you ask, no I am not gay. I am married with 2 children and 1 on the way. For every research study that shows negative results, there is a report of just the opposite. Look at the home and the love inside..... Not the gender or sexual orientation of the people inside.

Answer 5

There are many organizations and groups that do not work with homosexuals. However, with the numbers of children that medicine can save, there are more children that don't meet the needs of married affluent white couples that look for a perfect infant from a Caucasian background. There are many people waiting to adopt but sadly there are many children who don't meet their criteria. Many homosexuals open their homes and hearts to children who would have no one to belong too.
Being a homosexual doesn't mean that sex is their sole personality trait. Being a homosexual doesn't mean they are pedophiles or trying to convert everyone they know.
Children do well with love, routines, traditions and someone who is interested in them. I know there are some traditional families who don't provide any of the above. Some homosexuals are able to do that and with more money, able to afford private adoption.
While I agree a loving, supportive mom and dad scenario is best in a perfect world, for some kids, 2 moms or 2 dads who truly love them and help them reach their potential is still a pretty good life.
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Answer 6

I dont agree with you at all. Now while I am largely a proponent of a man and woman rasing a child, and even feel that no man can EVER understand what it means to be a woman who is BORN a woman, I do take offense to some of what you have written.

Also there are WAAAY more children who are orphans than there are people to adopt... do some research on the subject... it is a truly gross reality and orphanages are overflowing. Its madness really.

NO MAN CAN EVER SUBSTITUTE A WOMAN. Period. I dont care what surgery, or how much you twich or talk with the trademark "sss" you are not a woman. That is not what it means to be a woman and it is FCUKING offensive! I hate that and find it very very rude and a horrible depiction of what it means to be a woman. Err.. dont get me started. Nothing wrong with two men loving eachother, but the whole "immitating" a woman thing does get me, especially since the immitation is a stereotypical depiction of what men perceive women as.

Answer 7

I think the only person discriminating here is you. If studies have shown that kids brought up soley be a woman or a man are worse off emotionally, then we should ban all single parents from having children! Any child conceived out of wedlock should be banned to the hills or aborted! Yea right! Get a grip on reality! You are the only one who is picking and choosing which studies to read, as there are many out here which say that it is more benifical for children to be raised in a loving home, then with two parents who battle constantly. Want to hear the stastics from children who are divorced and their perspective on marriage now, and how many of them actually choose not to get married because of what they have seen their parents go through? Should we ban children of divorce to the hills too?
I'm also not sure where you are getting the idea that there are too many parents out their looking to adopt and not enough children... ever heard of china? There are over 100,000 children waiting to be adopted. In the states there are over a million children lost in the system of children's aid society. You might want to get your facts right before you share your homophobic views with the world.
And you never once considered a lesbian couple raising a child, there is the mother's touch times two right there, and isnt two better then one?
When it comes down to it, its all about rights... They have the right to be treated as equals, to be married, and to do as they please.
I feel sorry for your children if you have any, being raised around that closed mindedness, now, whats really best for the child?

Answer 8

You aren't using logic. You THINK you are being logically... but you are highly mistaken.

Which is better: living in an orphanage being cared for by a person who doesn't love you as a child (they may love you, but not like you were their own child)... or being in a HOME with someone who WANTS you and loves you like a child...

And you said "studies show that kids being brought up SOLELY by a woman or man are worse of emotionally"... HELLO, did you miss something? The study said SOLELY. Never did it say a same sex couple. You can't twist the information to fit your argument... Well you can try, and then be shot down... like what's happening right now.

Answer 9

u really don't know when to stop do u? first u slander women and now your slandering homosexuals. u must have some life to do this. it doesn't matter if the kid is raised by two men or 2 women or a man and a women. as long as the kid is shown respect and love it shouldn't matter. and what gives u the right to make false accusations about homosexuals. and there r plenty of orphans who need parents.
I'm a Christan and really don't mind homosexuals. it doesn't matter what a person does behind closed doors, that's their business not mine, not yours or anybodies. and a person should be judged on their parenting skills not their sexual preferences.
and u say women r hypocrites

Answer 10

Ya know what? I was raised by a so-called traditional family. My parents stayed married, even after unforgivable infidelity (I know dad didn't forgive mom because he brought it up every single time they had an argument). They stayed married even after mom took us kids, dropped us off at a relative's home, and fled to who-knows-where in fear of her life because she thought dad wanted to kill her - and then when she went back to him, he threatened out loud that if she ever left again he would kill both her and us kids. My mother watched the old man deck us kids, and threaten to burn the house down with my brothers inside it. But hey, they stayed together. After he died, she went and married a man she was quite happy to watch grab me by the throat and fling me across the room.

I have to say, that sense of constantly evaluating every man anywhere near me for whether or not he will attack me that I learned through life in a dysfunctional family has come in handy on any number of occasions. Kinda sucks, though, when it comes to being in a relationship, because I. Will. Not. Tolerate. Abusive. Men. and now that I have found a good man who is not abusive, I have a hell of a time trusting him, and relaxing around him.

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say that I think if I had been raised by a healthy, functional homosexual parent - with or without a healthy, functional partner - I would be better off today.

Well, all except for lacking that constant wariness around men....

The thing about adoptive parents is, they go through a fairly rigorous (though not foolproof) screening process. In a sense, they have to prove that they are reasonably healthy, responsible adults who can provide a reasonably healthy home in which to raise their adoptive children. So even non-traditional adoptive homes are a step ahead of the traditional "any schmuck with working reproductive organs can be a parent".