Elderly being taken advantage of?

Question

My boyfriend's mother is 65, she has 2 sons, one of which she has no contact with. She's a sweet lady but gulible to the point where she is a hazard to herself. She recently racked up a $7000 CreditCard debt to buy a dvd that was going to teach her to "get rich", her herbiolist told her she's getting radiation posioning by watching tv for half an hour, and that if she has the $ he will remove her old age spots on her face and make her look young again. She believes that actupuncture is going to restore her hearing. I have a feeling that if someone was to sing the right song and tune she would sign away her house if they asked just right. My bf and I are at a loss as to how to handle this. She doesnt want to listen to our advise or when we mention she's being taken advantage of she ignores us and thinks were lying. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to get this point over to her that her finacial future is at risk without destroying her self confidence?

Answer 1

hmmmm.... hate to say it but it might be senility. You will have a difficult time, first she is elderly and independent and not wanting her children taking care of her. Its her pride you know. But if it is really that bad, given her age, you migh be able to get the power of attorney.... try looking into other outlets though. The person at the bottom who suggested asking how she would feel if someone were taking advantage of you was right. Try to speak in terms she will totally understand...

when you tell someone something is bad for them, they usually run RIGHT to it. Just something to keep in mind

Answer 2

People of any age can fall victim to scams and TV ads that make false claims. (That is why people in their 20s, 30, 40, and 50 end up with credit problems.) Look at the money Americans of all ages spend on weight loss products and yet many Americans are over weight. I


If she was old-old, I would be concerned about mental deterioration, but 65 really is not very old. (If she shows other behaviors that would indicate a mental disorder other than over spending, talk with her doctor. Until she has a diagnosed mental condition, it is not any of your business. In the same token it is not of her business how you children spend your money. I know that it is hard to take.

Answer 3

Keep advising her. If she still won't listen to you, ask her how'd she'd feel if she knew people were taking advantage of you two

If all else fails, take her to see someone who knows a great deal about all of this scamming and could help to give her the true facts that she's being taken advantage of.

Answer 4

Lol you need to take control of her finances.

Hey you answered my question before, just got a few things to say:

"I think the only person discriminating here is you. If studies have shown that kids brought up soley be a woman or a man are worse off emotionally, then we should ban all single parents from having children! Any child conceived out of wedlock should be banned to the hills or aborted! Yea right! Get a grip on reality! "

Lol how old are you. Generally speaking, when the women has the child she isn't single she is dumped later on. Lol and you dont have to be married to raise a child incase you didnt know. Just because a baby is born out of wedlock doesn't mean it has no parents. Gosh faulty logic there. Nahh, dont abort them thats sad. and yeh get a grip on reality dam i agree.

"You are the only one who is picking and choosing which studies to read, as there are many out here which say that it is more benifical for children to be raised in a loving home, then with two parents who battle constantly. "
okay well then go find them. Don't just say there are statistics without even looking.

Ohh and btw. Gay people fight aswell and gay people break up. Believe it or not!! but they do.
You're style of argue is totally bias. If you want to depict a convential family with 'bad dynamics' to be the basis of your argument, isn't it only fair that the gay family is depicted similarly.

If you have a 'normal' convential family and a 'normal' same sex family rasing a child, as that comparision is the only fair one, you will see that the stats show the children that are raised with two different sex parents do much better because they get the love and support of a mother and the strong input of the father and dont turn out confused about the societal roles of male and female. and also do better at skoool etc.


"I'm also not sure where you are getting the idea that there are too many parents out their looking to adopt and not enough children... ever heard of china? There are over 100,000 children waiting to be adopted. In the states there are over a million children lost in the system of children's aid society. You might want to get your facts right before you share your homophobic views with the world."

Wow, only 100.000 in China, with a population of over a billion thats pretty good odds. I think your making your figures up. America has a lower population, and is mroe affluent than china and I'm supposed to believe taht tehy have way more orphans. Wow hypocrite get your facts right and dont make them up. Also, there is a one child policy in Asia, so what happens when you get pregnant again and cant afford an abortion like most of the poor, yepp you have the baby and it goes on the adoption pile. Only 100,000 dam these asians must not have much sex.
Where I live there are more willing parents than kids up for adoption.

"And you never once considered a lesbian couple raising a child, there is the mother's touch times two right there, and isnt two better then one?"
Have you ever considered that there is no fatherly input, duh. The studies show that kids from convential families do better BECAUSE tehy have one of each parent. What sort of mommas boy are you gonna create if you have 2 lesbians to look after you? Gosh go back to skool u talk nonesense.

"When it comes down to it, its all about rights... They have the right to be treated as equals, to be married, and to do as they please. "

I'm so glad you picked up no that. But like i said earlier. Its the best man for the job that get's the job. Obviosully a 'normal' conventional family will do a better job than a 'normal' gay/lesbain family at raising the child as stats show. So tehrefore the conventiional families should b given priority. You seem to have overlooked the fact that gay/lesbian families can be abusive also. Sure, if there are kids left over, then okay. give them too the homosexuals if you insist.

", whats really best for the child? "

Whats best for the child? That whenever possible, it is raised by straight people. Gernalyl speaking, they do a better job and you know it.
You are so arrogant. Atleast come foward with a strong argument and don't make the facts up as you go.

Answer 5

Tell her doctor what she is doing, so that he/she can check her out and make sure everything is alright upstairs. If so, then your mom is an adult and can make her own choices. Oh and btw, acupuncture can help with hearing loss, but you need to see a real one, not a quack.

Answer 6

In California you are to report it to the bank she banks with and they will take it from there. They can get in big trouble for taking advantage of her.

Answer 7

well, only the genoruse, kind ones are who feel bad if they dont, wich makes me feel bad of asking for money becuse they give it to you. they are kind hearted pepole. but i feel bad.

peace out!

Answer 8

Idk but my grandpa took advantage of me he came over and asked me if he could use bathroom he took $300 from me.I never take him out of sight now.