Under which circumstances can you not tell him and get away and be righteous about it? Can you forgive someone if they did this to you?
2007-07-03 14:47:17 · 30 answers · asked by Tony B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont care how much you hate your brother, that is your Mothers son and he has every right to know about her death!!! Just because the two of you dont get along doesnt mean that he doesnt love your Mother. Shame on you for even thinking this.
2007-07-03 14:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by newbieize 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hating your brother is one situation and your mom's circumstances are another. No matter how you feel about your brother -- he has a right to know that his mother is on her last days. Please think about it, if the situation was the other way around -- would you forgive your brother is he didn't inform you. The only righteous thing to do is tell him, give him the chance to say his last goodbyes. Now is the time for you to come together.
2007-07-03 23:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you hate him, you should tell him... there is no single circumstance in which you don't tell him and get away and be righteous about it. You have to tell him, if he goes or doesn't go it's his problem.... if you don't say anything the guilt will be greater on you for not telling him than on him for not being there to say goodbye.
2007-07-03 21:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie_Oxford2010 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person in this situation. You may hate your brother, but it is your duty to tell him about your mother. I agree with the other answerers. It's his mother, too. It doesn't mean that you have to have any kind of relationship with him. In fact, if your mother is the only thing tying the two of you together, that will soon be gone. If you do this one last thing, you can walk away knowing that you did the right thing. And if you never talk to your brother again, that's your business.
2007-07-03 21:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. He has the right to know even if you hate him. Think of your mom's needs before your own- she's the one who needs both of you to be with her.
Maybe if you had no way of contacting your brother you could "Get Away With it" but if you have the means to contact him, do you really want that hanging over your head for the rest of your life? Imagine yourself and the situation was reversed and he didn't tell you your mom was dying.
2007-07-03 22:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tiggerfrk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you owe it to your mom and yourself if not him, to tell him about your dying mom.No matter how much you hate him, i think there's still an once of love in your heart for him.So to be at peace with yourself i think it's the right thing to tell him. On another note i pray that you restore a relationship with your brother.Family should be important and meaningful.You know that life has a way of working things out in situations like these.So be strong both of you and take heart.Bye now.
2007-07-03 21:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by elva f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to not tell your brother. It's his mother too. He deserves the chance to see her again and talk to her. It's not a choice you can make and still be righteous.
To do that is mean, selfish and petty.
Nobody is asking you to mend fences or hug and make nice. It's for your mom to see her son again and for your brother to see his mom before it's too late.
If he chooses not to - that's his choice, but you gave him the chance ~ then you can be righteous.
2007-07-03 21:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Shawna H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would tell him, what he does with the information is up to him..
You would probably end up regretting it if you did not.
I would do it for your mother if nobody else...
You don't have a big long conversation, just keep it about your mother..when you have told him about the details, tell him you thought he would like to know and wish him a good night.. This way the ball is in his court and you will feel better about yourself..
BTW I am so very sorry about your mother..
God Bless
2007-07-03 21:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by Rebel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i'm sorry that you hate your brother but you need to tell him. Send him an email or get someone else to tell him. it doesnt have to be you. but whatever reason you too are not talking isnt a reason to not give him the right to know about his own mother. Tell him. I'm sorry about your mom.
2007-07-03 21:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really depends on the circumstances but would your mom want you to tell him that's the question its not weather you want to tell him this should be your moms call that's if she is able to, if she is not well then its back to the same question and only you can really answer that as you only know the circumstances about your feelings for your brother
Good Luck and sorry bout your Mom
2007-07-03 21:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋