Im with an amazing guy we love eachother and we want to get married but were not rushing into it, were waiting till after skool(im going to university) We want to have children together in the long run. It's just latley all that i can think about is having babies. I imagine having them and wat they will look like. Ive always felt older than my age but common?! im 19 shouldn't i be out partying not watching my bf's 1 year old sister and my new born brother all the time but its wat i wanna do. I know that most responsible thing to do is wait to get married and have babies but I really want one now. even though i know i shouldnt. Is there anyone else out there who feels this way? or am I alone in feeling this? does anyone think that maybe it's not such a bad idea to have one?I come from a very well off family, I know we could do it emotionally and physically it's just financially I know we couldn't do it alone. I just need some advice i feel like im crazy. thanks xxx
2007-07-03 14:25:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm 20 and i can completely relate. Last year i kept having dreams that i was pregnant, but they didn't bother me. I know having a child now is a ridiculous thing for me right now but i also know that all my life I've wanted a big family. I've also recently had the urge to get married. I think what it comes down too is you want to grow up. I mean feel grown up. Older people say well your a grown up now, or after 18 your an adult. To me being an adult is having a real job (a career job) getting married and having a family. Its not going to school, and being a waitress, (or whatever else).
Its hard to when you think you've found the right guy. Me and my guy moved slow too and we love each other, hes older but still we would defiantly wait till after I'm done with school.
Just tell yourself, HEY, I want a child, but i also want my child to grow up in my own house, when I'm married, and have my own things.
2007-07-04 19:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by FireKittenofdoom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies are precious, and when I was your age I was having the same feelings. Now that I am 25 and married with 3 kids, I know that it wouldn't have been the right time back then. Parenting is one the hardest, most important jobs you will ever have. I am at times overwhelmed with the responsibilty.Of course, I don't think you are too young to be a mother. I would recommend waiting until the right time so you can give your child the best. Just know you aren't alone in your feelings
2007-07-03 17:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19. Had a kid at 20 and I am going on 10 years of marriage and couldn't be happier. It is all based on the person and not the age. We both wanted a child and I thank God every day that I did have her so young because I will get to be a young grandmother, and so that we get to be friends when she is 20 or 21, I won't be some old mom hanging around. My hubby and I were both prepared mentally and he had a steady stable job and it was right for us. The only one who knows what is right for you is you. Age is just a number and getting married and having a child doesn't mean you don't get to have fun anymore it should mean you get to always be with the person you have the most fun with. Don't rush it, if you are ready you will know. But you do need money to raise a child don't depend on parents or the gov. if you are old enough for a kid then you are old enough to take care of them.
2007-07-03 14:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by john p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a school or to a social worker and ask to get the programmed babies. Keep it for about one month and then you'll see if you still want one. I don't know if you've ever seen those babies, but they are programmed to act like a real newborn, which means,they pee, they poop, they cry when they're hungry and they cry in the middle of the night, while you're having a good night's sleep. You need one to wake up and realize that having a cute baby is not a joke or like buying a puppy. Yes they are cute and cuddly and it's fun to hold one, but it's a big huge responsibility that no one should have before they are ready.
Just go out with your boyfriend, go have fun, go to the movies and live the free life that you can have right now. Believe me time will come soon enough where you wish you could go out but can't because you have a house to pay, a car to pay, groceries to buy and a baby to take care of..
Have fun while you can
Good luck
2007-07-03 14:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is fine to have the urge to have a baby, you are a women of course. You know that it would not be the best move to get married and have a baby at this age. Finish college first and get a good paying job then you can think of having kids. It is great that you want kids so bad and when everything else falls into place it will be that much better for you and your baby.
Just wait!!!
2007-07-03 14:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by schell_75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't have a baby until after you are married. it makes it better for all parties involved. Also, 19 is still pretty young, are you sure your up for the sleepless nights and not getting to go and hang out with your friends anymore? There are a lot of things involved with having a baby, more than financial. Are you both emotionally strong enough in your relationship to stand by eachother when you don't even have enough time to talk alone? Please at least wait till you've gotten married. A baby is a big decision, one that is worth waiting for. Enjoy your "freedom" while you have it. :)
2007-07-03 14:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well ! since your 19 i think you should wait a couple more years until think about a baby and or getting married. most teenagers.. like you who have babies drop out of university becuase they have to take care of the a baby....ithink you should wait until your done you degree and then seriously think of getting married and then haing children
2007-07-03 14:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by Paradise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on the person. For you it sounds normal. My Dh and I are pregnant right now and I sometimes wonder if I rushed into it, but couldn't be happier. hope that helped!
2007-07-03 14:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Katie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of a toddler for a couple weeks. If you can do that without going a little crazy, than you are ready.
2007-07-03 16:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if your maternal instincts are kicking in. it happens to most women. the key here is not to act on them until you're out of school,married and settled. trust me. parenting is a tough career.you're not crazy just excited. give yourself some time to explore life. you won't regret it in the end.
2007-07-03 14:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋