Ok, I recently started dating my best friend, he and I are going great, as far as he knows... But see, I have been thinking a lot about us as a couple, and I think I just want us to be friends, but see, I've been his girlfriend like 5 times before, and I want us to stop the cycle, but I'm not sure how...
He's an angel to me... and he loves me so much, and I love him too, a lot, which is why we're going out right now, but he isn't "that guy." So, what sould I do?
2007-07-03 13:58:59 · 22 answers · asked by Volleyball Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be very careful my dear, "that guy" is often just a fairytale. Think about what "that guy" really means to you and if it is all thrills and fireworks, then that usually always wears off. I know some very lonely picky women waiting for "that guy".
But if your gut is telling you it just ain't right then tell him how you feel.
2007-07-05 03:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the cycle now. The same reasons why you broke up before probably still exists. I personally feel though, like best friends make for the best relationships. You need to examine yourself and see what it is exactly that makes you not want to be with him. If its a chemistry thing fine, but if you are looking for fireworks and drama yoou may need to look beyond that. A lot of that stuff fizzles off in relationships and what you are left with determines how long you can stick it out.
2007-07-03 21:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...so obviously you have and have had feelings for him so ask yourself why isnt he the guy?...maybe its not the guy but the relationship...what i mean is maybe the cycling, time after time again relationship is what you dont want. if that is it, instead of throwing the guy out of your future, instead change the way you have your relationship. if you are sure it is the guy then tell him. just say, i love you and always will but i dont know if you are the ultimate "guy" for me so i need to date more. for now i think we should break up and remain friends. if you say that, it gives you some more time to date and make a definite decision about this guy.
2007-07-03 21:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why this is such a problem. Since the two of you are so close and have been for so long, then you should be able to talk to each other honestly enough about things. So think about what you want to say to beforehand and then just tell him. Just be certain before doing so that this is how you definitely feel.
2007-07-03 21:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him EXACTLY how you feel. because it's not worth it if you don't feel the same. so all of his feelings are like, there, without being returned. but hey, at least you arn't bitter against him, right? just tell him how you feel about it all. start it out like "ok, do you really think we should be together? i mean, this hasn't worked out five times before. i don't think it'll work out now. i feel too much that we're better friends than a couple. give me your thoughts". and then see what he says. seriously, if you don't do something now, someone's heart is gonna get broken. so go and talk to the boy, tell him everything. good luck kiddo!
2007-07-03 21:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to quit yanking his chain and let him get on
with his life. You keep getting back with him and then he thinks its okay and he has to go through the whole cycle of
being hurt again.
Perhaps you guys need to take a couple of years off and both
get involved with other people perhaps then you can be friends again without this cycle happening again.
Good luck.
2007-07-03 21:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by JF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want mature answers - but - YOUR behavior has not been mature at all.
You should have THOUGHT before you agreed to be a couple. All five times.
If he's not the guy - then let him down GENTLY - and know that you have possibly ruined a friendship with an angel.
2007-07-03 21:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to stop and think about what or who "That guy" is. Could it be it is just a figment of your imagination, a prince on a white horse who will carry you off to the magic castle where you will live like a princess and be happy ever after?
Don't toss what you have for a fairy tale.
2007-07-03 21:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont want to keep breaking up then just dont go out. love can exist no matter what type of relationship u have. u should be thankful u have such a guy u can turn to when u need someone. just kindly tell him that u want to remain best friends and not try dating anymore. simple as that.
2007-07-03 21:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Southern Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. If you don't, you're cheating him and your cheating yourself. It will hurt him, but in the long run it will be better. Ask yourself though why you keep getting into a relationship with him over and over. Maybe you need a little bit of distance until you get this figured out.
2007-07-03 21:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by Cathrine K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋