My sisters were having a stupid fight about something - I was telling my boyfriend about it via email. He had lunch with a co-worker and she told him about a similar situation she had - he thought it was a funny coincidence and forwarded my email to her. I don't know this coworker at all and was PISSED that he forwarded the email. Now I wouldn't have minded if he in conversation relayed some of this but the fact that he forwarded the email, which had names, email forwards from the sisters, etc made me feel like he shared too much personal information. Am I wrong to get upset??
2007-07-03 12:52:31 · 9 answers · asked by godzillagirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, you are not. It was, to me, a thoughtless act of your personal privacy for the email to be sent as it was. Tell him how you feel and why what he did hurt you. If he cares, hopefully he won't do it again. In the future, hold such information out of future emails until he proves himself trust worthy.
2007-07-03 13:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email is funny; for every time you know that something like this has happened, there are probably five times where you are part of a forwarded email chain and you'll never know. You have to be careful about what to commit to writing.
That being said, your boyfriend was wrong to forward the email to his coworker. Aside from violating your privacy, he trivializing your fight by laughing about it with someone else. And to really put the icing on the cake, he told you about it. Half of the problem is that he forwarded the email and hopefully he has learned his lesson from this experience. The other half of the problem is that he may not take your problems seriously. I don't know you, him, or what your relationship is like but from what you have wrote here, it sounds like it is a possibility . . .
2007-07-03 13:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by koi-ness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset, but don't blow it out of proportion. I'm sure your boyfriend didn't think it would bother you, or he wouldn't have told you that he did it. Explain to him why it bothered you, and I'm sure he wont do it again, unless he is just a jerk, in which case you are better off without him. You stated that you don't know this person, which is probably why your boyfriend didn't think it was a big deal. He probably would never have shared your personal information with someone who would know the parties involved.
As for what adnilcomplicated had to say. I don't think the you have any reason to be jealous or worried about your boyfriend having lunch with a coworker, especially if he spent half of the lunch talking about his girlfriend.
2007-07-03 15:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're each mistaken however he is far more within the mistaken! And no! It's no longer typical habits a minimum of no longer for my fiancé. typical habits is what you enable or use to, its specific for every body. If I have been you sure I'd fear!If you men are "in combination" there must be not anything to cover interval! Boy I'm comfortable I dnt have got to cross by way of this! Sorry you do :-(
2016-09-05 14:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't thinking. I believe he did it impulsively.
I wouldn't like it either.
Might want to discuss privacy issues with him regarding family/relationship concerns. This is not funny for you, why does he see the humour in this and forward to a co-worker. Gossip.
Don't put anything in an e-mail of a personal nature. Once you press the "send" button - its truly out there and gone forever.
2007-07-03 13:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to answer this in a different way, but, once I thought about it...why is your b/f having lunch with a female co-worker?...and, why is your b/f sharing private information about you..his g/f?
ok...i tell the truth so dont get mad at me...but, doesnt it seem odd that your b/f's co-worker had a similar situation? ...in my opinion, this issue is not about the email being shared, its about your b/f's co-worker trying to cause a fight between you and your b/f...and it did correct? you are not wrong to be upset, but, this was a bait that your b/f fell for, and now you are...
turn it around and let it go...if you want to keep your bf you better get yourself into a lunch time with him, or when he is with her mysteriously show up...watch your back girl.
2007-07-03 13:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're entittled to be upset- it was careless on his part, I think he should have at least deleted the message header containing to & from names etc.
But because the person doesn't know you at all, as opposed to being someone in your social circle, it's not quite as bad... If it was someone that you're acquainted with or see every so often, that's potentially much messier.
2007-07-03 13:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by Proto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might get upset, too. I do think, tho, that your BF didn't see a problem with it.
Might be a good idea to sit down with him and explain just why this upset you.
2007-07-03 13:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think I would be a little pissed off at his insensitivity
2007-07-03 17:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋