Why won't police lock up abuser?

Question

My daughter unfortunately fell in love with what we thought was a nice young man. They became engaged, then the real monster came out. Kept track of every second of her time. Made false accusations of cheating, would not let her see old friends, even females. Then the beating started. He smacked her around because he found a matchbook on the floor. We went to police and fled a report. He threatened her and she lied and said it never happened. He beats her up again on her birthday and rapes her. She gets a PFA. He breaks into the house and beats her again. To the hospital by ambulance this time. Concussion, impaired vision and broken tooth. Yesterday he tried to run her off the road. Wha are the police waiting for!!!!!!! They pick him p and release him no bail. Are they waiting for him to kill her? What do we have to do to get some action?

She has filed a police report after the second and third beating. She has a "protection from Abuse " order that says he cannot come within a certain distance of her. She's had that since the first beating. The police took pictures of the bruises and have the hospital report. We are in PA.

Answer 1

OK - did she file a police report for the beating?
If she did and there has been no police follow up - you need to contact the DA.
In California, his sorry *** would be in jail.
Because of the nature of domestic violence, you are going to need to get her out of town and away from him.
It's a cycle where after the beating, there is a honeymoon period, then there will be another beating or violent act, then another honeymoon period. The times between the violent acts will become shorter and shorter.
I want you to know that this only ends one of two ways.
If she doesn't get away from him or he doesn't go to jail, her life is seriously at risk.
Start pressing the DA and anyone else who will listen to you to take action. Call your local news station, they usually have an action type reporter who will take your story and run with it.
You can also initiate a civil lawsuit and get an injunction to prohibit him from seeing her. She will have to participate in both of these actions, because she is the victim.

Answer 2

I have read all of the answers so far and there is a lot of good advice. Any or all of the things mentioned would be taking a proactive step toward protecting your daughter. She needs to make sure that she files charges. If not, what can they do. It's unfortunate, but it's reality. Don't stop asking for help. Contact the district attorney in PA. and camp on their doorstep if you must until they listen to you. I think getting the media's attention would really help, as well. Take out an ad for help. Someone is bound to want to run with this story. I think if she runs, he'll find her. Stay on home ground where all of the documentation (police and hospital records) are easily accessible. Don't give up!

Answer 3

She made a huge mistake when she lied and said nothing ever happened. Now in the back of the police officers minds they'll remember that forever and think "will she lie again, is trying to help worth our time?" Though she felt she was forced to lie she shouldn't have. He would have gone to jail then and like someone said short of killing the beast you and her (or at least her) has to run and get as far away from him as you can. Protective orders and other so called protective things of that nature are just paper and won't help when he comes and beats in your door. Leave the state if you can, no forwarding address and no mail to friends with your new address on it (even postmarks can be used to track you). Telephone only the friends /family you leave behind for a good while. Maybe one day he'll find someone new to pick on or someone will finally kill him and do the world some justice. Good luck.

Answer 4

There is what you know and what you can prove. Unfortunately the only charge so far the police can substantiate that is reckless driving which is not a considered a major offence. The best thing you can do for now is protect her yourselves, do not let her be alone and possibly provide mace or pepper spray.
The reality is we have created and funded our police departments to react to crime and not prevent crime. That being said your local law enforcement does not have the manpower or funds to protect your daughter so this falls to you her family. If you want this to change then you must galvanize your community to change how law enforcement operates.

Answer 5

I am not surprised by what your daughter and your familt are going through.
First thing you need to do is EVERYTIME this jerk calls,comes over ,sends a message or ANYTHING write it down. Time date and what it was and what was said by all.
Then, EVERYTIME he makes contact with her, or anyone in the family or her freinds file a police report.
Then every police report you file and even every cop you talk to on the phone ( I know they like to just call and take a report instead of wasting their time coming out to do their job) write down their name and badge # and what that cop said ( along with time and date ).
Then get all your hospital, doctors statements together along with all your written records and take ALL of it into court. Give it to the judge and ask the judge what he/she would have you do next. ( make copies and lots of them!)
if the judge has not figured out that you are not f*#@!%$ around by now then you politley tell him/her that you feel you have done everything the law has required of you in order to protect you child and now you have to presume that it is up to you to protect her in the best way you can.
Then take all your evidence to your local battered womens shelter and ask for help.
They have advocates that work for women in your daughters situations that will not be pushed around by the court or the cops.
If you have money for an attorney you should probably look into hiring one to represent you when go into court.
Right now you are just a pain in the neck, do you really believe that the cops or the judge even remembers your name or what you look like? I seriously doubt they are losing any sleep over the threat to your childs life.
And trust me it is a very real threat!
Be proactive! Refuse to allow your child to be killed by this maniac and the justice system!
Make them see that you are NOT playing with any of them!
Once you start recording badge #'s and names and incidences they are going to get a little crabby but you will at least have their attention!
If nothing else they lock the bastard up just to get you to go away, either way as long as your child is alive and well.
I am sorry for your experiance, it is a sad and sick time when our police are more of threat than a help.
Call the battered womans shelter!

Answer 6

I dont know what state you live in, but the initial step is to file a restraining order. Even if she doesnt show up to the hearing, most times the State will take over the case against him. After that, she must file criminal charges against him. She has to be brave and press charges against him and keep track of each and every event. Unfortunately, our justice system is faulty when it comes to getting these jerks off our streets and off our kids! Please keep close tabs on her.

Answer 7

You can solve the two biggest problems she has at the current time by paying for the best Psychologist you have in your area. Most PFA's just keep the police working overtime, with not much result, but they don't get much pay either.

Answer 8

Make an appointment with the DA and go see him/her. Carry copies of the detials & dates of the officers you have talked with previously.

Most communities have a doestic abuse advocate. If the DA does not help call the local battered womens shelter or call a large church if you need help finding one in your area. The shelter specializes in helping in cases like this.

Answer 9

Take your daughter and run. Move to another state and dont contact him at all. Or your daughter can go to a domestic violence shelter -they have stringent safety records and they provide counseling and all kinds of assistance to the women who come there. They will help her to get a court order to keep him away from her or get arrested.

Look under domestic violence in your local phone book -I highly recommend your daughter go and talk to these people
they can help her a lot.

Answer 10

You can do nothing right now. Your daughter has to step up and press charges or get a restraining order. The police can do absolutely nothing if your daughter does not press charges or get a restraining order.