A year ago I admit I messed up, gave in to peer pressure, did some wrong stuff and then I realized I was on the wrong track and changed. But anyway my parents didn't accept my sincere apologies and I got a harsh punishment. I've never got in trouble again and agree I'm an excellent girl and are proud of me, but things were never the same. Cause of them, because they were unforgiving and I never got their trust again, at least that's s how I feel. And that was wrong and cruel of them, cause everybody makes mistakes, especially at 14, and they've always known I just went through a bad and temporary phase For several months I suffered a lot w/ this, but my feelings weren't important to them. I got to know new people, especially at my volunteering activities, who became quite important to me, like second parents, and gave me wonderful proofs of respect and trust. Today they are emotionaly more important than my parents. I intend to keep w/ my parents a respectful but distant relationship
2007-07-03 12:08:03 · 7 answers · asked by Tania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They proved they don't love me, or wouldn't have acted like they did. Keeping a relationship with them will be kinda hurtful, will reopen my soull woundsand I don't deserve to suffer forever for past mistakes I made when I was a troubled girl. If things can't be as they used to be before, a close relationship with them will only mean pain, sadness and a sharp feeling of loss. I don't deserve this and I'd rather have no relationship with them,
2007-07-03 12:08:17 · update #1
Sometimes parents go a bit crazy trying to protect their kids from stuff and forget what they're really doing it for. It's up to you whether you want to forgive them for their mistakes or not. As kids we sometimes forgets that parents don't actually know everything and that they're not perfect. when we're teenagers, we begin to learn that about them. If you are getting love and support from people outside of your family, enjoy it. It's good to have people you can talk to. maybe one day when your parents learn to treat you as an adult (if they ever do) then you can look back at this situation and decide whether or not to forgive them. Welcome to the world of growing up :)
2007-07-03 12:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Shimrit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do still love you, and that's why they were so hurt.
You can tease them a little bit--tell them that you won't hold it against them when they get old and pee in their pants when you guys go out to eat if they can find a way to lighten up now.
Parents often forget that the tables will be turned someday. When you have kids, they will turn into jelly in your hands because they want to see the little guys. When you are big and important and busy at work, they will be dying to get news from you about your day, your life, your interests.
Try to be nice to them now, and share your views on things and do things that interest all of you or that you can share with one parent or the other, like gardening, or fishing, or decorating. It will make communicating a lot easier.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 12:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your parents have not forgiven you. Maybe they did already, they just don't want to forget, so that they will always watch out for you. Maybe they are not the affectionate type but with your accomplishments and volunteer work I'm quite sure that they are proud of how you turned your life around.
Not all parents would react the same. Your new found second parents are there to give you the support that you needed. God is good, and He made everything work out like that. In time you will hear what you needed/wanted to hear. But for now, maybe it's ok to just live life as the days go, and be thankful for life, your parents and all your new friends.
2007-07-03 12:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by May P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents love you, but sometimes they forget what it was like to be kids. I'm sure they've made their fair share of mistakes too. Don't run away from the problem. Try taking some time to sit down and talk with them. Let them know how you feel and be sure to listen to what they're saying too.
Probably, all they may really want is for you to show maturity. Take that time to understand each other and see how that works out.
2007-07-03 12:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by djruffin614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His dad and mom are controlling his relationship because of the fact he hates war of words? What? that isn't controlling. it is your boyfriend's character, no longer a administration difficulty. it is a few time to make up along with her. If he breaks up with you, he wasn't worth having around. you prefer placed on the clear out, be RESPECTFUL and basically say you're sorry. clean the air. The extra you keep dissing his mom, the extra you are going to run your relationship into the floor. Having this plenty hatred for a guy or woman isn't healthful, and hating your boyfriend's character won't be able to restoration something. you in addition to would would desire to artwork on your relationship alongside with your boyfriend. It does not sound such as you adult men are in an extremely healthful relationship first of all - his war of words subject concerns relatively are his character. You for sure are extra aggressive. provide up blaming his dad and mom and study the thank you to artwork along with his character rather of basically pointing palms.
2016-12-08 23:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well r u sure ask them if they trust u and tell then u don''t trust them u should do this during a alone time with either ur mom and dad or both (i like mom better personally)and they will probably understand
2007-07-03 12:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Yep. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you should write a book..
2007-07-03 12:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Contorted Brains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋