My mom told me that if u use colored sand instead of the unity candles that it is when one or both of u have children i was just wondering if this is true or not
2007-07-03 11:38:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what a pretty idea..but not only if you have children. go ahead with it anyway!
2007-07-03 12:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel you! I am in a similar situation, fortunately for me MY mother is not the one pressuring, and I will just skip it. However I understand that sometimes just doing whatever you want is just not worth the emotional turmoil it would cause. I suggest doing the candle or the sand, but go to Wal-mart or something to get it. Pay $3 for the candle and $5 for the holder or something. With sand, use salt instead. if you need two colors, drop a few drops of food coloring onto a pile of salt on a glass plate. use a fork to stir and crush the salt until it is the color you want. It is SUPER cheap and way easy, I did it all the time as a kid so I could make "sand art" without buying the expensive sand. Basically don't buy a "unity candle" or "wedding sand" or ANYTHING that is directly labeled as a wedding item, and you will get it at a fraction of the cost. I'm sorry I can't think of other ways, but hopefully if you have to do one of these things this will help you save some money :) Best of luck!
2016-05-17 11:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in a small chapel and the owner of the chapel doesn't want candles used because of wax drips. He recommended the blending of the sand or nothing at all. He had a whole list of other rules also but when I checked into the sand (which neither of us had heard of) it seems it is being done more for beach weddings and also places that do outdoor weddings because the candles blow out. It has nothing to do with children. It is a unity of marriage.
2007-07-03 13:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cricket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it however you like. Both my husband and I each had a child when we wed and we used unity candles. It symbolizes family and unity. We had our kids light the outside candles and us using those to light the center one was our Family coming together as one from that day forward. Then you blow out the single side ones symbolizing the end of the seperate lives, that there is one family instead of two. The sand just give the same meaning in a different way. Do what you like and what fits with you and your fiance's personality and wedding plans.
Good luck.
2007-07-03 11:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by vancie121 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Unity Sand Ceremony is a novel alternative for the popular "unity candle ceremony" incorporated into many of today's weddings. The essence is to symbolise the union of "two into one".
2007-07-03 13:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Allyson S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Doing two sand ceremonies Saturday.
Sometimes couples just prefer the sand. Others do it so they don't have to worry about the flames going out on the candles if the wedding is outside. It's popular with beach wedding, too.
2007-07-03 12:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Unity Sand Ceremonies are now becoming popular with brides and grooms, with or without children. If you do not have children, it is you, your fiance and possibly your officient who puts the sand into a central vase, often times engraved with your wedding date and names
2007-07-03 16:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I did the Unity candle for the two of us because, as our pastor explained, the candle is to symbolize two becoming one flesh. We also did the sand ceremony with my son to symbolize the blending of our family.
2007-07-03 13:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by KatB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not true. It is definatley more suited to people with kids because it's safer than open flames but it not only for them.
Some people (including me) perfer the sand ceremony because the two combine to become one but still keep their individual colors.
With the unity candle you loose your individuality...and you blow out the symbol of your eternal love. So in theory you would blow out your love as well.
2007-07-04 14:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I have heard. I am the wedding coordinator for my church and one of the weddings last year used sand instead of a candle. And neither one of them had kids.
2007-07-03 11:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe so. According to this, sand can be used to incorporate the children in the wedding and symbolizing them as part of it. But, you just ad a vase for a child and the ceremony can be done without children as well.
2007-07-03 11:46:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋