if u really love someone..........?

Question

if you really love someone and your going out but hez into some bad stuff (weed), hez 3 years plder then you, and your parents hate him then should you keep pursuing your relationship



p.s
i love him more than ive ever loved anyone before

Answer 1

I think that love blinds you to alot of things. That's why people from the outside see the things that are wrong in your relationship but you don't. You've made the first step in pin pointing the problem in your relationship but your still trying to hold on to it. Your parents probably don't know that he's into weed, but looking at your relationship from their prospective they probably sense that he's not good for you.

You should talk to him about his problem, and tell him that it bothers you that he's into weed. If he truly loves you he'll try to make some changes. If not - maybe it's for the best. Your young and there are so many guys out there for you to meet. Don't attach yourself to someone that will bring you down.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I would try to find out why your parents hate him so much.

Parents have been around the block many times in the past and can usually pick up on bad things. I would put more weight into your parents opinion, but I would first have to hear their reasoning as to why they don't like him.

Now this doesn't mean that your parents cannot be wrong, but keep in mind they have done this kind of thing before and seen lots more over their time here, so weigh it out carefully.

Answer 3

You may love him, but he doesn't love you if he's pursuing his own selfish interest (weed), and just because he's older than you, doesn't mean he's going to protect you if he gets in trouble, and that is what you have to watch out for - he won't be there if you get in trouble. Your parents hate him for a good reason. Get rid of him because you deserve some one better, and you'll soon find you loved him more because he was a "bad boy punk", rather than a nice guy who loved you.

Answer 4

ive been there girl sometimes you just have to let go or have some time away and if he changes and comes back or something leads you guys back to each other again then its meant to be other than that if he loves you like he says he does it will be no problem to leave what hes doing.as for you parents you are old enough to make your own decisions you know what makes you happy and if its him noone can stop you.they only realise what they have when its gone but you should stand up for yourself and let him know you not going to put up with this coz you hurting your parents in the process as well.so give it some time if he doesnt change let go its for the better.ive been there and sometimes you just have to let go coz there is something better out there for you. youll find someone that deserves you and makes you happy.

Answer 5

I think you already know the answer is no. Dating someone who uses drugs is just going to get you into trouble. If he gets busted while with you, you can get busted as well. If he smokes it around you, you can test positive for the drug. If your parents "hate" him, they usually have a reason. In addition, pot is a "gateway" drug, that means that 99% of people who smoke it, will go on to harder drugs. Pot also does cause health problems. From dead brain cells to asthma, to emphysema, to cancer. Memory loss and, like I said, addiction to other drugs. by asking this question, you've shown some intellegence, now act on the info, drop him till he either grows up and stops doing dope, or better yet, find some one you can really love, and who loves and respects you back.
Good luck Miss.

Answer 6

I met my husband when we were in high school, we also started dating in high school. Even though it was the 90's he dressed as if he were in the 60's, even with the long hair (none of that bad stuff, though). Well, my parents did NOT like him. They never had a reason either when I asked them why they didn't like him. I never let my guard down with my parents when it came to him. I let them know of all the good things he did. I let them see how he treated me (perfectly, of course--then and still now). I never gave up. Year after year I worked on letting my parents know the kind of person he was. Finally, after we had been dating for 4 1/2 years we got married!! And now, after 10 years of marriage, my dad won't leave my husband alone.....my dad just talks his ear off! As if they'd been best friends all along!!!!!!!

If you truly love him, and he truly loves you, then fight for it. But calmly, remember...they are still your parents and they truly love you, too.

p.s. Hopefully he'll grow out of his bad habits. And hopefully he won't be pushing his bad habits on you. Offer him help to quit. It's something he'll have to do on his own, but you can be his support system. Good luck.

Answer 7

He sounds like a bad guy, but that's probably just the way you phrased your question. I asked a question about the guy I love, and everyone who answered it spazzed and said stop liking him b/c he cheated on his ex gf.
If what you like about him outweighs the things that piss you off about him (ie smoking weed, if he treats your friends or family badly, ect) then you should stay together. Try to get him off the drugs, and see if you can convince your parents to give him another chance.
If what is bad about him is more than what is appealing about him, dump his @$$ and move on with your life.
But I wouldn't start a family until he was off the weed...

Answer 8

No. In a relationship you must use your head and your heart to decide on which guy to date and eventually marry. Your heart is saying yes but your head is saying no by making you ask this question. He is into weed, he could get arrested and leave you heart broken. If you're parents don't like him, you should agree with them because they know best. There are millions of other guys but only one mom and dad

Answer 9

Well thats a tough one, its kinda like your stuck in the middle between your parents and your boyfriend. I had a similar problem with my parents and boyfriend (he smoked weed to). I didnt break up with, eventually my parents accepted him. Its been four years now we have been together and we are getting married in 2008. So in the end it all may workout. Eventhough its not guaranteed, if you love him that much its worth a try.

Answer 10

Hate to say it, but lose this guy. If he's doing illegal stuff, then that should've been a red flag immediately. You shouldn't be with someone like that. And if your parents hate him? Thats a definite sign to drop him. I know how u feel about it, "my parents don't know him, they just don't understand" well, actually its like this: your parents can see through him, and they know he's someone you shouldnt be with. They're not trying to control you, they're trying to show you whats best. Who is going to be there for you when things fall apart? Not him. But your parents will be, and although they won't come out and say "i told you so", they will be thinking it.