2007-07-03 11:36:36 · 6 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too many things to list them all, would need more details..but could be...
1. Was cheated on previously
2. Doesn't trust the girl
3. Doesn't trust the guys the girl is hanging out with
4. Has no/little self esteem/worth
and the list could go on and on
2007-07-03 11:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being possessive is thought by many to be love, and in some few case, where the other has lost their self esteem, it appears to be for them also.
You can lose your loved one very quickly by being possessive because you choke them to death.
Have you ever been somewhere that is so hot you want to rip your clothes off? You can't wait to get cool. It is stifling. The sweat is pouring down you. You burn from inside. You want to scream - and then - ahhhh, yes - a cool lake swim. What bliss to get free of the heat.
Well that's exactly how the one you possess feels. You are stifling your partner and they cannot wait to fling you away.
People that possess, don't love. They just want to own. Like some antique art - something to admire. Something only they have... and no one else shall have it.
The possessive person has an illness also. It is the lack of their own beauty - their own perfection, thus they must own someone else. They must own someone else so they can reflect their own emptiness in them. Possessiveness is emptiness.
You must face up to these qualities in yourself so that you do not drive the person you love away.
Of course there are many other reasons, such as boredom, unshared interests, and going in different directions, but these are all minor compared to the gross illness that one thinks is love.
So we now know that possessiveness is not love. It is grasping, stifling and suffocating. It is in fact just an ugly trait to have.
If you are possessive, you need to help yourself.
2007-07-06 05:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Newton 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They think that since they are the "man" that they wear the pants in the relationship at all times. They think that we are possesions... so we have to let them know different. We need respect too ya know guys....
2007-07-03 11:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
their own insecurity - trust issues all stem from feeling insecure...and technically possessive behavior is dangerous and illegal because it's dangerous.
2007-07-03 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when we find that one we want to be with we will do anything we can to protect and keep her in our lives. we dont try to smother it just goes that far sometimes.we dont know we do it until its too late sometimes
2007-07-03 11:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by ainver_welles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no clue
2007-07-03 11:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋