Ive been with my boyfriend for 14 months and were both quite young but we decided it was time we had sex. but we talked about it first, discussing weather we were ready and even went to a chemist to discuss contreception..BUT when it came round to having sex..we couldnt do it!! =$ (It would be the first time for both of us - to have sex) We couldnt find where to put it. We dont know what the problem is.
Please help!
Girlfriend and Boyfriend xxx
2007-07-03 10:47:42 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are Legal. And we do feel ready, and we have done "stuff" just not sex. We love eachother to bits and we wanna last forever.
2007-07-03 11:24:44 · update #1
i know where the penis goes, and so does he. we just dont know how to get it there!!
2007-07-03 11:40:42 · update #2
Dear Helsiee, It's not unusual for things to happen the way it did for you the first time. I remember my first experience and was very much the same as yours. The good thing about you is that you discussed it between you first, a very adult way of deciding if you are both ready for that type of commitment. Secondly, you both went to the Chemist to discuss types of contraception another tick in the adult section. Thirdly you tried it and at that moment in time it failed. so what. forget about the people who say if you can 't do it your not old enough, what there really saying is that their not going to tell the truth about their first time. Helsiee it was properly down to the fact that you were properly both scared and you were properly to dry to enter. It would be a good idea to first experiment with each others bodies, find out what turns him on and what turns you on, used your whole body, hands, mouth, lips, tongue. breasts. fingers, touching each all over others body. when you feel you are ready, then go for it, but take it nice and easy as usually the first time, there is a little bit of pain, but after a little while you will begin to enjoy the pleasure of making love. Good Luck....David
2007-07-03 11:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by David Wilson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem seems to be that neither of you knows much about anatomy. I would suggest that the two of you spend the next few months learning what each others' bodies looks like and feels like. Discover what feels good and what doesn't. Discover what feels good when you do it to yourself, and teach your partner how to do it that special way that feels best.
You have both learned something very valuable. Nobody just "knows" how to do it. It is a matter of self-exploration, and then shared exploration.
There is also a possibility that you weren't ready for sex physiologically. If you figure out how your parts fit together, chances were that your body wasn't properly lubricated with your own secretions. When your body is ready, it is a bit easier to find where everything goes...especially since when you get closer, it starts to feel better.
Slow down and learn yourselves; it will be worth it.
2007-07-03 11:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by wiscman77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you both really should wait if you are not sure as to where it goes! but if you need to know, the commonest place is in your vagina, it can go into your anus but I'd get used to sexual intercourse first i was u, talk a bit more i would.
Good luck! oh i hope you are on that contraception you went to the chemist to discuss cos accidents can happen even if it's your first time!
2007-07-03 10:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by kelrob5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY...if you don't know how to "get it in" you probably shouldn't be doing it...exactly how old are you guys? If your any younger than 16 then you REALLY shouldn't be doing it...there's 101 ways to make love without having sex...if it's meant to last, it's going to last. Sex is not going make an impact either way and could possibly defile the relationship.
That said, if you still insist, I suggest you invest in some lubrication.
2007-07-03 13:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Ladi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how long you've been together, if you "couldn't find where to put it", then it's not time yet! There are tonza ways to have intimancy w/ a relationship, and esp if you both are virgins (which, btw, is highly, highly praise-worthy) then there should be no pressure on the subject. Wheither you decide to wait longer or not (I suggest to do so...), this is something you should both be certain and positive about.
2007-07-03 10:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Latte' 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well then you two should not be having sex then if you don't know anything it does not sound like a good idea and you both should be focusing on more important things like a future. What happens if the condom breaks and you two end up pregnant then you will be stuck together. Are You in love do you plan on getting married
2007-07-03 10:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by karamelchem_1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Why have you "decided it was time" to have sex? If you "didn't know where to put it" then that should be a sign for you to step back and re-evaluate what you are doing. I'm not trying to be preachy, but reading your post it sounds to me like you are not actually ready to do this, so I'm trying to understand what the big push it to move forward.
2007-07-03 10:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by anywhere1 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it is still a little to soon for sex especially since you dont know where to put it. I would just wait until you get more informed about sex so you dont end up hurting yourself or him!
2007-07-03 11:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~Kym~ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you didn't know what to do. Means both are not ready and too young. Because where to put it? Where do you guys think it goes?
2007-07-03 11:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great, have fun together about your discomfort, it will come naturally when the time is right, just don't let it become a big thing in your lives, you'll get there in the end!
2007-07-03 10:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋