to be with us alot of times I dont go because I dont feel incontrol what is it about other people being with my boyfriend and I to make me feel like this I know them very well:Also how do I stop letting this effect my life I can just avoid it it really effects my life? And another thing,lol why do I feel I lose the control when other people are with us?thankyou
2007-07-03 10:37:17 · 5 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Because if I dont feel I am in control I dont feel comfortable and it causes alot of anxiety for me not to be able to let my bf know I am feeling awful.lol good question.lol
2007-07-03 10:48:40 · update #1
Why do you have to be in control? When they go out with you..be gracious, and kind...we ALL gotta play up to the parents...this has been going on for centuries!
2007-07-03 10:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is somewhat how my panic attacks started and escaled really badly (he wanted me to be with people I didn't want to and do things I did not want to). From a lot of pain and damage to my further personal life, I advice you like I was your sister or best friend, a. see a therapist and TALK b. put some or a lot of space between yourself and this person because something is wrong and you cannot figure it out with your logic now but your subconscious is telling you something that your rational mind doesn't want to hear. No one can answer your questions but a therapist and your self. get help now. don't let this thing escalate because this is the standard scenario. I would like you to take this seriously, this is not some 'weird' moments that will die down by miracle.
2007-07-03 18:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have agoraphobia and your boyfriend is your crutch. It makes perfect sense to me, I'm the exact same way. Don't worry though, Google agoraphobia and learn some about it. Then see your doctor for some medication and/or therapy. good luck!
2007-07-03 18:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said it well
its a control issue
you will win if you give the control to the right person=true love=coming to believe in Jesus and his care for us=John 3rd chapter,
David praying for you
check out this part-it will help your heart=the truest of all love-not just to be willing to die to protect another-the Jesus who died to protect those of us that didnt even care about him, then we are guided to earthly true love.
to be your best friend
this helped me=true love-help from above
=Revelation 1:1 chapter 1 verse 1 and chapter 3:19&20 I love you and knock on your heart door to come in deliver from sin and be your friend, when you ask me in." Jesus words =think of the future too
when its real and in honor-in friendship & for marriage for the future and living in honor till then. "In marriage the bed is undefiled, but the others will be judged." Hebrews 13 in that chapter is also the promise once we let Jesus into our heart "I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." verse 5
this is what got me self control=I have had the best of everything in life (I thought) till I came to Jesus and learned the joy of life, in salvation and renewal, praying for you, -and I am just a messenger in Jesus amazing grace (John 3rd chapter) repented of my sins, even one lie and let Jesus in to help and be my friend- for the best prince. it sure worked for me, =Jesus is the one to comfort you and to give you help to commit in a relationship, in Jesus amazing grace, John 3rd chapter repented of my sins,even one lie, and let Jesus in to be my friend=
"Jesus help me, thanks that you love me, I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
praying all goes well for you too, David
2007-07-03 18:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should see a doctor about it
2007-07-03 17:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋