I hate my life and my parents?

Question

I have no idea what I am doing. I am 14 years old and my mother hates me. I hate her back for being a self controllable ***** who thinks she knows everything. My life has always been under her circumstances. I ****** up a couple days ago, not a big deal, just a little fight with my siblings and poof. I'm grouded for the summer. What a *****. Soem nights I lay in bed ad think if i can get away with killing her. I hate her so much and dream of the day I am out of this shitty house and imagine the fantastic last words of "**** you, you were a horrible parent." as i lean over and spit in her face on her death bed. What should I do, run away, torture myself. I hate her and there is no turning back now because it is too late to become freidns. She hates me and I hate her. I wish I couldjust rewind time nad become 8 years old again where it started .Please help me, I dont know how much longer i can last in this hellhole.

Answer 1

Does she feed you? Does she buy you clothes at all? Does she give you a free place to stay? Then you have it better than some people.

Look, parents owe you very little in this life. Alot of kids grow up on the street wondering what they're gonna eat or if they'll be hungry and cold that night. Be glad you even have a family. Yeah, she sounds like she's treating you bad but it also sounds like you give her alot of reasons to.

Nothing in that house will be resolved until you two put your pride away and start talking to each other and working together. She's frustrated because she has an ungrateful kid who disrespects her. You're frustrated because you have a disrespectful mother who talks to you like crap. BOTH of you are wrong and need help. She needs to adjust her attitude and you definitely need to do the same - if YOU were to become more positive, more loving, helped around the house, and actually tried to be respectful to her, I'm pretty sure you'd find out really quickly that your mother isn't the evil witch you always thought. Parents are human too - they can only take so much until they snap. It sounds like she's been pushed 1 too many times and has resorted to treating you like crap because that's how you treat her.

In this life, you'll learn as you grow up that you GET what you GIVE OUT. That means, if you give out disrespect, unkind workds, hatred, and violence....then that's exactly how the world will treat you as well. Rise above how your mother is treating you and be BETTER than her. Treat her with more kindness than she's treating you - not to get something from her but because it's the RIGHT thing to do. If nothing I've said works, then just hold on til you're 18 and then you can get the F outta there and run your own life.....which, by the way, is alot harder than you might think.

Answer 2

You are leaving so many details out and all I read is your side not your mothers. You are sounding very childish with all the obscene words that are not needed and homicidal and suicidal innuendos that are really not needed. Let me see if I can express a different angle for you to concern yourself with.

One day your child will be laying in bed thinking the same things about you. Right now there is a child that might not live too far from you that has it 50x worst than you have and they are just thank full it is not worst than that.

You want help you are going to have to help yourself first. Stop using bad words for one thing it makes you seem childish and petty with nothing really poignant to say, keep your head in your school books cause without an education you will not be able to get further than the front door , keep out of trouble it only magnifies what seems hopeless 100x more, and know that you are never ever 100% alone at anytime and you can always talk to someone or a few people and they can help you even more.

Answer 3

Is there a relative that you could go and live with for a while?
Maybe all you and your mum need is some space.
It sounds like both of you are very strong minded people and your mum is very set in her ways.

Did you every think that there maybe something troubling her, she is stressed out or has simply had enough and needs a break?
Why dont you try and make an effort to make life a little easier at your house.
Take the little ones to the park and get them out of the house.

Answer 4

I am so sorry you feel that way. I have a son your age and it would break my heart if he talked about me like the way you talk about your mother. I think grounding you for the whole summer is overboard just for getting into a fight with your siblings. Tell your mom exactly how you feel about your relationship with her. Tell her the things you said in your question. I don't know your mom, but what is it that you expect from her. What would make her a better parent? I could tell that you are very angry and some of the things you are thinking are only natural. You are growing up and want to be treated with respect and fairly, just like an adult would. I don't think it is too late for you to be friends again with your mom, but you have to let her know how you feel otherwise she will not know. She will just think you are being a typical teenager who gets mad because they can't get their way. I know how tough it is being your age, you are not a child and you are not an adult. Your too old to be treated like a child and your too young to be treated like an adult. This is the age where parents get confused and don't really know how to treat their teenagers. I don't think you really meant the things you said. I think you just said those things out of anger. Find a way to communicate with your mom. If you don't feel comfortable talking to her, then write her a letter and give it to her. You mentioned you wish you could go back to when you were 8yrs old and this tells me that you want things to be better between your mom and you. Parents have other things going on that can be stressful and so do teenagers. That is why it is so important to communicate because it is so easy to get caught up in the things life throws at us. Please go and talk to your mom when she is in a better mood.

Answer 5

You're feelings are perfectly normal. I hated my life and my parents when I was your age, too. When you're 18 (only 4 more years) you can move out on your own. BTW - I'm pretty sure your mom doesn't hate you. And a little discipline never killed anyone. You'll survive and when you have kids of your own you'll look back at your teenage self and groan and then pray to yourself or the deity of your choice that your children don't give you as much grief as you gave your parents.

Answer 6

You sound just like me. Hmmm.... it's hard to tell you b/c you'll think four years is a long time. I freaking hated my mother growing up in her house. She was a gingantic B*itch too... I think you should just get involved in a lot of activities to pass the next four years quickly. Join some clubs at school, join some teams. Find something recreational to do for this summer, and ask if you can do it - chances are she might say yes if it's something that will benefit you. Look, when you're 18, go to college and LIVE IN A DORM!!! You'll make your mom proud, and have a kick-@ss time! What about your dad?

Answer 7

I was just like you!!! My parents' crap messed up my life.. one day I realised - I WONT LET THEM MESS ME UP. I will be the change in the family.
Compliment your mom, let her know that you appreciate her.

Look on the bright side of things, your mom would have had an abortion if she didn't want you. I think she has trouble understanding you and you have trouble understanding her.

Relax man, atleast you have a home in which you can live!

For the record - I'm sorry that your grounded
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Answer 8

life is tuff, some people go through hell ....
some parents are only trying to help but others don't care
It's really sad that u feel this way but the truth is you have to try to make ur life better, one which is worth living...

and you can do this by simply doing well in whatever u do rise above peoples expectations of you show them that u r worth something...
then when the time comes for u to be on your own u can show them that u can make it without them

Answer 9

try to tlk to her number one and ur mum dnt hate u every mum luvs dere child no matter what and no matter how they act to u she is lk dat 4 a rwason and datz to keep u safe

Answer 10

your mother grounded you for good reason... you really need to simmer and listen to me... she loves you
what she does is for YOUR best interest, and when you are an adult, you'll understand... thats why you are still a child right now and she can ground you