OK the place we registared with automatically mails the gifts to us. Is it ok to open the gifts before the wedding? My mother is telling me we should open the gifts at the reception?!?!?! I have never seen a bride and groom do that. But should we open before, during the reception, or when we get back from our honeymoon? Also what is kosher? and what is tradition with this part?
2007-07-03 10:04:09 · 52 answers · asked by victoriarose1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no the next day together with a nice glass of wine then you can disscuss the crap from the good lol enjoy your day congrats
2007-07-03 10:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no time to open your gifts at the reception. It is not a birthday party or baby shower. LOL! Usually, the bride and groom open their gift right after the honeymoon if they are leaving directly from the wedding or the day before their honeymoon if their are a few days in between. Either way, invite your wedding party over and a few family members to the bride's parents house (which is where most presents go after the wedding). It is kind of a post-wedding recap. Have some champagne and enjoy.
2007-07-07 07:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by LS's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think things vary from place to place and country to country. Here in Scotland if people bring a gift to your home it is usual to open it in front of them. We also have (had) what's called a Show of Present. This was usually for 3 evening about the beginning of the week of the wedding. It then changed to 1 full day, often a Sunday prior to the wedding but is dying out and few people have this now. It was a very social thing with tea/coffee, home baking,often wine, spirits etc where everyone came (usually all female) and had a good old natter. Here it was very unusual for anyone to bring gifts to th wedding reception but a small percentage do now. However, I don't think they should ever be opened at the wedding. For one thing it would be extremely difficult to keep the gift cards with the gifts and you could end up not knowing who exactly gave you what and thank the wrong person. If gifts are brought to the wedding it really is up to the couple when they open them after, whether it be the day after the reception of when they return if away a honeymoon.. As I said lots of places will deal with this differently but that's what we do here.
2007-07-03 11:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I didn't take a honeymoon right away, so we invited family and friends over to his parents house the day after the wedding. We opened the gifts that afternoon so everyone could watch. It was nice to visit with everyone and discuss the ceremony and reception, too. If you are leaving immediately, maybe when you get back invite anyone over that you want to and open them. That way you can tell everyone about the honeymoon, or at least parts of it.....I'm not sure what the proper etiquette is for opening them..just giving you some ideas..hope they help
2007-07-03 10:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by ericalstauffer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would open them as they come. Write a thank you note immediately so they don't pile up. If you feel weird letting people know you've already opened their gift, wait to send the thank you. However, I don't think people really care when you open them.
For the gifts you receive at the wedding, open them at a later date. My fiance and I are waiting a day to leave for our honeymoon. Because his family is all from out of town, we've invited both families to a Gift Opening Dessert the day after the wedding in order to spend more time with those who are visiting since the days before the wedding will be busy.
2007-07-05 10:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've NEVER seen a bride and groom open gifts at the reception. There is toooo much other stuff going on. Plus, typically many people bring gifts to the wedding itself. So, if you waited to open those at the reception, you'd also have to open all the gifts people brought w/ them. It's just not done.
you open the gifts as they are sent to you and IMMEDIATELY send out a thank you card. opening them as you get them and doing the thank you card right then will SAVE YOU - belive me! if you wait to open ALL of your gifts til after the honeymoon, you'll be writing thank you notes forever!
the ones you get at the wedding - open when you return from the honeymoon. be sure to designate someone close to you who will be responsible for getting all the gifts back to your house or to their house where you can pick them up after the honeymoon. goodluck and happy gift receiving!
2007-07-03 10:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to open the gifts at the reception, that could make some feel weird if they see an extravagant gift from someone and they just weren't able to afford something so nice.
I'd say wait until you get home, either after the honeymoon or before, but just not in front of everyone
2007-07-03 10:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by jamitha99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take them to the reception as it would be a logistical nightmare to open and keep track of them. Long ago, the bride's mother would hold a trusseau tea (unsure about that spelling) before the wedding. All the gifts would be displayed. So, traditionally, the gifts were opened before the wedding.
Anyway, it will give you a head start on all those thank you cards.
2007-07-03 10:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should open the gifts with just the two of you. You don't want to embarrass anyone who may have given less than another person. If you have a day before you leave on your honeymoon, how about a brunch? or you can spend the day with your out of town guests. After my cousins on my dad's side got married, my parent's would host a BBQ so we could all spend time together in a more casual setting. My aunt and uncle did the same when one of us got married. If the bride and groom were still in town, they would attend. If not, it was still a fun way to get together.
2016-05-17 10:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's usually done is that there is a gift opening at a lunch you host the next day for your close family. That's either done at the venue you had your reception at (they often will include a 'party room' at no cost), or at your parents' home. Then you have lunch, and open the gifts.
For any gifts you get before the wedding, you may open them.
They are NOT opened at the reception itself. People just bring them there.
2007-07-03 20:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You open them TOGETHER as they arrive. Never at the wedding reception and any thoughtful guests do not bring gifts to the wedding since someone else has to be responsible to see that they are safely delivered. You will get some before and some after the wedding and thank-yous should be written as soon as possible after receiving. Best wishes on your happy day.
2007-07-03 10:25:33 · answer #11 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋