watcha say to a guy that lets him no ur not ready (w/o being offensive plz)
2007-07-03 10:04:07 · 19 answers · asked by Sofia N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I am not sure if i am physically and emotionally ready for that. Whatever my heart might be screaming now, i have to think about my body. Please, i know you'll understand, just please allow me to grow a bit more."
Whether that might be true or not, it shows him you are hesitant and the fault is on you. That will make him (as it makes all guys, including myself) a little arrogant that its not him thats the problem, that its you. He'll drop the subject for a bit as you will be able to piece together somethings, whether its "getting ready" or giving him a better explanation. Either way, if u make it sound that its you who needs help, he'll be ok. It wont sound offensive. And its a real test to see if he cares about you or if he's just after your body. If u say all that and nothing about him besides positive stuff, and he gets mad, he's only after your body. But hopefully he'll give you time and space to make a good desicion.
2007-07-03 10:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by JMAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and if he gets offended thats his problem. You don't want to make any mistakes. Just remember anything could happen when making such a huge decision like this one. You have to look out for yourself on this one not his needs. There's nothing wrong with being flirty and having some pg13 fun no need to rush to the rated R fun just yet.
2007-07-03 17:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by ~Kym~ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just say it, if you aren't ready , just say it ain't happening bud. you ain't sticking that thang in me. if you have to be offensive, then be offensive. it's your right to decide when to have sex. he can find a girl that wants sex and every one will be satisfied. now here comes the pinch, you don't want to have sex and you don't want him to have sex. should you be able to decide for him whether he has sex or not , no! just because you made a choice, you can't make one for him. you may say, if he loves me he will wait, he can say if yoy love him you will have sex. so don't bring that into it, just say no to horny guys. and don't worry, life has a way of payback. when and if you do get married and he tires of you and wants less sex and you want more, you will be the one doing all the begging. why do you think your mom is all pisssed off?
2007-07-03 17:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can use words... confident words that are honest usually work the best or you can use the female creative version of conversation. Avoid all confrontation and let him do what he wants until you finally hate him and tell him that he should have known what you were feeling. I guess either way works...
2007-07-03 17:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets offended that your not ready, he's a selfish loser. Move around! Respect yourself and know what's health for you mentally and physically. If he can't wait without getting mad he doesn't truly care about you mentally and physical. Love yourself and everyone else will follow suit. God Bless you lil sista!
2007-07-03 17:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine4u2njoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth that you want to wait a while before dating. That you want to focus on your studies and that you are not ready.
2007-07-03 17:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are not ready to move for sex. If he loves you, he will be patient. If he dumps you, he only wanted sex and not a relationship. You'd be better off without him.
Doc
2007-07-03 17:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you just got out of a really bad relationship and you need some time for yourself..
NEver do the I got a bf thing because they usually find out later that you were lieing either by your friends bating you out (happend to me) or him asking about your bf and you getting caught in your lies.. so forget that one.. especially if you see him daily.
2007-07-03 17:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "NO" if he doesn't comprehend the simple two letter word, then you need to let him go! it's not worth it, cuz believe me, there's a REAL man out there that would be willing to wait!!! now move on, and don't waste anymore time with this loser!
2007-07-03 17:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I care about you but I am not ready easy as that.
2007-07-03 17:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋