My wife often tries on a dress and asks me, "Does my bum look big in this?" I know it's cliched but that's what she does.
Anyway, I have always told her that her bum doesn't look big, which means I have lied to her. But I do this because I don't want to offend her.
However, a very knowledgeable Christian friend of mine told me to read Proverbs 27:6 where I found the following: "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." I interpret this to mean that I shouldn't lie to my wife. Should I tell her the truth about her big bum?
Do I stop there? Do I tell my kids the truth about Santa Claus? Faithful are the wounds of a friend.
2007-07-03 09:57:03 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Simply say, "Honey, your ass is huge. Now don't ******* ask me again."
2007-07-03 10:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he "wants" to become a Christian, why do you seem to expect him to have already successfully changed every time he said he would? It's exactly the people who want to change, but don't know how (non-Christians) who are going to keep failing. They can't succeed without Jesus. This is what your host family knows, and this is why they keep supporting him. Obviously, if he is interested in being a Christian, it is working! You have to realize that Jesus said when you get rid of 1 demon, 7 more are ready to take it's place. Personal change is something that TAKES TIME, and does not happen at all without the Holy Spirit. So if this guy is still struggling, try to help him and extend him some grace. Jesus came for the sick, if you give up on this guy you will be the only guilty party. Right now you're struggling because you see the way he takes advantage of people. And that is WONDERFUL! But don't for a second think that your host family doesn't see it either, just because they keep letting him back. What is it that you haven't been forgiven for, that you are holding this kind of grudge? Take it to Jesus in prayer. Have you not confessed something? Ask the Holy Spirit to tell you. Sometimes it's needed, we forget on our own or don't always realize our sins.
2016-03-14 22:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner is so honest, I wish he would just lie sometimes. If I asked if my bum looked big in something he'd say 'yeah, you have a big bum, it looks big in everything'. Nice. It depends how your wife handles things, do you think she'd get really offended? If you do, then it's probably better to lie rather than hurt her feelings! But you should say things every now and then like 'I love your bum, it's so round and cuddly' or whatever. It will make her feel better about it. Works on me!
2007-07-03 10:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! No! No! Do not under any circumstance tell your wife she has a big butt. Do you think she is stupid??? She knows exactly how big her butt is. What she's asking for is a complement from her dearest closest friend so that she can keep her self esteem up when she faces(or turns her back to) the world. She does not need any criticism or misplaced-badly timed "honesty" from you! Would you want her to tell you you're a bit of a wimp(even if it were true) or that you're all the man she ever wished for??? Even if it's the size of Texass, you tell her "No honey. You look great". Then enjoy your happy marriage.
2007-07-03 10:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by dddbbb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill her spirit by insulting her ... instead, if you really think your wife has a big bum ... it is you duty to "Walk her" ... I would guess you're bum is big too, as most married couples eat the same foods. So, you should infuse your marriage with a fun exorcise regime. Explore ... make dates of it ... and remember kicking her - butt for the sake of winning will most likly result in her stopping this new exercise play time ... and she'll keep her big bum. (BTW, don't let her know you're doing this because you think she's fat ... rather, just because you want to spend time with her & get healthy together)
Also goto cooking classes together, and always ask for healthy foods.
Santa Clause is a real man who lived in the 1800's.
2007-07-03 10:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why we do this. Although, I've never done it myself actually. Chances are your wife knows her butt looks big in that dress, if she didn't she wouldn't be asking you. All she wants to hear is a no from you. But this question can also be a double edged sword because if you answer no, she'll think you're saying this because you don't want to get her upset and therefore will get upset. And if you answer yes, she'll get mad at you because she'll think you're calling her fat. Either way she'll become offended.
2007-07-03 10:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more tactful ways to approach such a sensitive issue. Tell her that the dress doesn't flatter her when she ask.
Ask her to go on walks with you on a daily basis and start walking. What are you willing to do as a Christian to help your wife with this?
Maybe you can suggest that you would like for you both to eat healthier meals. Help her shop for groceries and work together on meals in the kitchen.
What are you willing to do?
2007-07-03 10:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Swampmoth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are also Christians. I told him when we were going through pre-marital counseling that if he was going to be my best friend that I expected him to be like one of my other friends, who would tell me the truth. I really appreciate it when he tells me that my outfit doesn't flatter me it means he really cares. Don't tell her that her bum is big tell her the outfit isn't right for her and maybe we could go shopping to get a new one.
2007-07-03 10:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by spc_price 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure go ahead and tell your wife her butt is big, that will endear you to her for a long time, and tell your kids about Santa and the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny, again burst their bubble. You know this loving God that you Christians speak about certainly would not send you to hell for telling your wife her butt is okay, or having fun with your kids come Christmas and Easter, but if you want to spend your hell here on earth go ahead and tell the wife.
2007-07-03 10:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She already knows. Women are intuitive that way. Lie to your wife and tell your kids the truth, they all rely on you. If she felt loved it's my guess she would feel too full the eat any more. That happened to me when I got the spirit. It's emotional hunger, I figure, as I just lost seventeen pounds out of the blue and felt stuffed. Down three more now.
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2015-02-04 10:30:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋