A lady I hardly knew was at my dad's funeral.
While I was eating she came up to me didn't even say "sorry or anything." She continued on and on at least an hour about her problems and life in general. I was already depressed about my dad and other things. Then a year later after my dad's death she starts following me at my church, and then the store I go to grocery store shopping at and the same laundromat too, and asking me strange questions, about me and my family! She was stalking me, because she lives 20 minutes away and there are plenty of stores and 2 churches where she lives.
Is she crazy or what, and what do you make of this?
2007-07-03 08:19:19 · 25 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Candy, she is not related. And not lonely, she has friends, and gossips, and manipulates people-- heard this from other people at the funeral.
2007-07-03 08:24:47 · update #1
My question is did she belong at your dad's funeral? did she have business being there?I'm saying this in the nicest way (my dad died too,and I know what a traumatic time a funeral is)but you should've excused yourself that first time,perhaps explained your annoyance with her and explained to her this is not an appropriate time or place, perhaps she took your listening to her problems as a sign that you care (about her and her situation.) Next time she approaches you try to ignore her, or you can ask a male in your family (the biggest and scariest one you can find) to say something to her maybe she will get intimated and back off. Good luck 2 u
2007-07-03 08:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is weird, and I have had a similar experience with a girl who was obsessed with my older brother. It ended up that she had a not-so-happy childhood growing up, and not a very good relationship with her family at present. When she saw how my family was so close, and how friendly we were towards her, she was ALWAYS around. It was like she was trying to blend in with our family even though she is not related. I wonder if it is the same thing with this woman. She may have known your father one way or another, went to his funereal and saw what she thought was a great family she wanted to be part of....just a thought. Anyways, if you are really concerned, next time yuo see her say something like "Wow, I see you everywhere! What brings you out to this area so often?" It will put her on the spot but in a nice way. Maybe you will get some answers. Try changing your routine, and maybe she won't catch you so often. Good luck!
2016-05-17 09:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to get her out of your life, you have to be firm. Not nasty, just up front. Tell her that you have a problem, with her constantly following you and asking you all these questions. I would appreciate it if you would stay away from me, if not then the next time she does it, then again you tell her, but this time add that you feel she is harassing you, and if it continues then you will have to contact the police. There is no other way to deal with this. and if it means Police or protection order, then that is how it has to be.
2007-07-03 08:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by lennie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is your mother and your dad didn't tell you . Or maybe she is some kid of relative you didn't know about. Or maybe she is just a lonely women who has some mental issues and thinks of your tragedy as a point of reference to talk to you. There could be several factors but i would ask her an she what she says. If you dont get the answer your looking for I would just ask her to stop following you .
2007-07-03 08:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG that sounds like my mom! Probably not crazy, but socially inept. Many people suffer from the inability to relate to others in a social situation... it is quite probable she didn't even realize she made you uncomfortable. Cross the street when you see her coming, don't encourage her to chat and just be aware of whatever is around you (stay safe)!
2007-07-03 08:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already done so, maybe you should talk to the police about it...although she's an old woman and she may or may not be that much of a threat to you, you should at least take a pre-caution and let someone (in authority) know about this 'weird lady'........
Stay safe...!
2007-07-03 08:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jesus is Real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a really lonely person, looking for anyone to talk to. How kind of you to take a few minutes to listen to her and talk to her, especially at your father's funeral. You are not obligated to listen to her talk forever: if she approaches you again and you think she's going to keep you talking, just politely excuse yourself and say you have a prior engagement you need to get to. She doesn't sound harmful - just lonely.
2007-07-03 08:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The woman doesn't sound mentally stable. She may also be clinically depressed and simply looking for someone to talk to. However, I think I would have this looked into by the authorities. It wouldn't make me feel very safe.
2007-07-03 08:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing how someone could be so unthoughtful at your dad's funeral. Sounds like this women is very self absorbed. I would just ask her who she is an what she wants. If she can be rude why can't you.
2007-07-03 09:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a disturbed & lonely person.
She's probably harmless, but annoying.
You could make a report at the local police station.
2007-07-03 08:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Robert S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋